Mum2Romone reading your post I had to check your sig to see if you were my friend! Everything you have said is so much like her relationship with her DS's father. Mind you she is choosing to stay with him because she thinks she should as he is the father of her child, it is just an excuse because if she left him she would than be responsible for her own happiness rather than being able to blame him for her unhappiness if that makes sense. I am not saying that is what is going on with you because i have no idea. I guess the moral of the story is to do what makes you happy, what are the reasons for staying in the relationship? I know your DS will be a huge factor but try to take them out of the picture for a minute and look at your relationship with your hubby. If you find you are thinking of a whole lot of wonderful things about him than tell him all those things! He probably hasn't heard them in a while? If you find you don't really have that much love for him than think about how to change that or how to change your life so that 'you' are happy. Your child will be happy when his parents are happy be it together or apart