Thsnk you ladies for your support. I will definately have a look at those books recommended as I am a book person, I have come to think that my husband and I need some time to rediscover who we each are as people. And remember why we fell in love. I am sick of being mad or frustrated... (he still blames it on my hormones....lol) But I know I want it to work its just about whether he does too. I will be back to chat when I can. My son is at the age where he wont sit still so It will be when hes asleep. thanks again.