thanks Kim, yeah I realised when i was in bed last night that Monday is a public holiday. It peeves me cause the landlord was understandably very nervous at the idea of letting me have the lease in my name only as I am not working, and now my first week of rent is gonna be a few days late DOH!
Div, yeah, hun he seems like a nong doesnt he? you made me laugh out loud when i read your post
Last night it took me hours and hours to fall asleep as my anxiety was right up there over all of this crapola again and now my IBS has flared up and I am running to the toilet all the time which is fun when Im staying in a house full of people. BUT, when i finally did fall asleep guess what I dreamt of and felt wonderful when i woke up??? Sunday Night Guy...says a lot I think.
Archie said to me this morning when he woke up, "I dont want daddy to leave cause then you will cry and i will cry and daddy will be sad" I didnt realise he was so aware of what happening, but I explained to them that when daddy lives in a new house we will all be very happy and have fun.
Oh, and as for all the money stuff, I find it hard to be tough about it cause I feel like i owe him. He has paid the bond in the house that i am staying in so i feel like i owe him for that and he should be able to stay there...He has 5 weeks holiday as of the 9th of April, the first week of hols he will be here in Mildura, I might leave Arch here with him adn go home by myself for the week, and after that week Im hoping he racks off to his friend in Melbourne for a while, I mean he cant afford the rent, but Im sure he'll scrounge up the money for a trip to Melbourne
Last edited by widdly; April 2nd, 2010 at 10:12 AM.
definately get csa to collect the cs payments for you.
it only takes a phone call to organize it. They will get your bank details from you, will ask reason why and then they'll get in touch with him and let him know they will be collecting.
The payments are made at the end of each month though, they charge him in arrears. So you may not see any money for 6-8 weeks to start with, but then you'll get the payment every month.
Also if he fails to pay, they can organize to have it collected from his tax payments (or tax return)
Tell him if he doesn't want to pay half the rent, then he can leave now, and that if he wants you can have the police escourt him from the premises as his name is nolonger on the lease. What a TOAD!
So I have been having THE worst days ever the last 2 days, feeling that the writing is on the wall with my marriage and it was up to me to end it or keep plodding along with it. I have done the pros and cons list, there are plenty of pros, but 2 of the cons are biggies: untrustworthy and unreliable. I also know that if DH were to ring me now and tell me he shagged someone else last night, I would have no jealousy, I would feel happy cause it would let me off the hook.
Last time we separated I kept up my hopes the whole time, til he absolutely convinced me that he didnt love me anymore, then i was shattered, absolutely gutted, thought i would die of a broken heart. But i didnt die, i greived the life we should have had, i grieved my marriage and our little family. I cried myself to sleep for months. Then I moved on and was on cloud nine, so happy in myself. And then DH beeged me to come back cause he realised he loved me after all. So of course i went back thinking I had to give our fmaily another chance. BAD decision.
So now I am 6 hours away from DH and I wont be seeing him for another week and I know that I am gonna call it quits for good, but I dont want to tell him over the phone, I am thinking of going home on Sunday/Monday to tell him....I am dreading it SO much, I know what it feels like to have your heart broken and I dont want to be the one to do that to someone else BUT it has to be done.
blah blah blah, I will live, and i should go to bed and stop thinking!
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hun. Think of the bond as being in lieu of the CS he hasn't been paying you. Putting a roof over your son's head is also his responsibility. 
BUT it has to be done.
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