It is not good thing you're experiencing this but try to de-attach yourself from him and remember that his actions are his own actions and do not say anything about your DD. Sorry if I am being too forward but it seems that he is differs so much from you, your DD is your world but he does not see DD as his world yet and allows other factors to take a place over DD. One day he will realise how your DD is the most incredible being cause he helped create her. . . I feel for you cause I am hurting cause of XP and DS is not yet born so I imagine that it is so much more difficult. for you cause you are a strong mother