Due to our work stress levels (heightened during work then tend to go dull and flat when off duty), I find I bear most of the responsibilities at home too. DH is just tired and depleted. He'll do some chores if I ask him though.

Kind of a different scenario (voluntary vs involuntary), but nonetheless, it is a tough thing to deal with - where you'ld like it to be 50 / 50. You need a break too.

Sounds like you're more acting like a mother to him than a wife though...(re spending of the money). I think he needs to step up personally.

Hugs hun!