thread: WHY aren't you allowed to TTC straight after a M/C?

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    Mar 2009
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    WHY aren't you allowed to TTC straight after a M/C?

    I was only wondering this as I was getting signs that I'm ovulating and considered 'trying', but then remembered my Dr said to wait until after my first period after the M/C. I have only just stopped bleeding from the m/c and my scan last week showed no signs of 'debris' in my uterus.

    So, is there a reason not to concieve? Hormones, infection or otherwise?? I'm not considering it now - i think it's too late, but am interested in finding out!

    Thanks for your replies

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    Dec 2005
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    oh im not sure. I did ask the doctor I had seen when I m/c the twins and he said I could try straight away..which I really didnt want to....amazingly enough I never did get another period and had Mateauz the January afterwards. It was my toughest pg and he did almost die after birth....I often wonder if that has anything to do with conceiving him so quickly after our m/c

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    Oct 2005
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    I am sorry for your loss darling Woman...

    Most often for an early loss it is really for dating the pregnancy which is a moot point now with u/s. A lot of "older' docs will say 3 months. Really unless there is a medical condition or an incomplete miscarriage the reason usually is for dating purposes.

    Basically you will not ovulate if you have any HCG floating around.

    It is always important to follow your care providers advice - but ALWAYS question the why's and what if's. It isn't possible to answer you conclusively.

    FWIW I conceived 2 pregnancies the very next cycle after an early loss - I had no period in between. However they were early losses (6 ish weeks) and were complete miscarriages.

    Good luck on your journey honey...

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    Jul 2009
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    Hi Missamy - I am sorry you have gone through so much lately. My DR told me that there is no medical reason not to try straight away but it is easier to track your pregnancy after one period because then your cycle is back to normal and you can work out how far you are along etc etc. I have read heaps of information that even says that you are more fertile in the first 3 months following an early miscarriage but I don't know if that is proven. Because my DR told me there is no medical reason, I am planning to TTC again asap.

    Hope this is helpful to you.

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    hi missamy- so sorry for your loss.
    From my experience, doc said wait for one normal period before trying again, as others have said I expect this is for their convenience with dates etc.
    Anecdotally I know of lots of people who have conceived straight away, without waiting, and gone on to have healthy pregnancies and babies.
    Good luck with TTC. xx

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    Hi with my later losses I was told 3 months to get my body back in into good shape (physically) it does drain you and its a good idea to get onto those vitamins straight away...with an earlier loss I was never really told not to try, I guess I waited a cycle just so I had an idea where I was and a couple of times my body told me I was'nt ready with irregular cycles... there are plenty of babies concieved straight after a MC.. I reckon if you feel up to it go for it.. your probablly right.
    Good luck.

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    Hi MissAmy;

    My dr said whenever we are ready but best to wait until the first period happens.

    It was also good to make sure you have a proper period to make sure there is a nice fluffy uterine lining there for the baby to snuggle in to.

    They normally ask you to wait a full cycle or 2-3 after having a d&c done because the lining is scraped so thinly..though..I know you didnt have one of those, thought it might be of interest to you..

    We "tried" straight after the m/c and all it did was cause me hell..I don't think I actually ovulated that month even though I thought I did..looking back my temps were all over the place, and emotionally I was certain i was pg and had to be pg you know?

    I went nuts buying a heap of tests, not online as I didnt knwo you could but cheapies online at that point..and I was forever checking out my cervix position in hope it would tell me I was utd..

    If you did wait, then good for you! No stress this time around! It really is horrendus emotionally as all you want to do is "replace" what you lost.

    My dr used the term "debris" as well..I was cranky because she had a student in the room and was being completely insensitive, and said in a verrrry sarcastic term, "Debris?? What, did I have a car crash in my uterus??" what is it with them using negative terms!!!! Argh just call it something else!

    Hope you're well and hope you can have a sticky bundle very soon xx

    Eliza

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    We were told we could try right away after a U/S because I didnt need a D&C. We did & it was 5 months before I fell pregnant again

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    Hey hun,

    I am so sorry for your loss.

    After my first MC the Dr told me to wait 2-3 cycles so my body could get back on track and to give myself some time to grieve the loss of my first little bean.

    The Drs told me to do the same after my second MC (different Dr too BTW) but I just told DH that I was sick to death of following the advice from all these "professionals" who had never experienced a loss of any kind that are pregnancy related. By this stage we were also up to getting some testing done having also lost a baby in between MC.

    We didn't wait one cycle and just went with the flow and are still carrying that pregnancy now.

    I guess only YOU can be the judge of what is best for you, your DP and your body. If you truely feel fine to start TTC again and I mean really fine with the loss emotionally as well then just do what your heart tells you to.

    FWIW - I questioned my Ob after our second MC (he rang me which was nice) I asked him about why they say 2-3 months and his reply was most women just want to put back what has been lost to them rather than taking time to go through the grieving process.

    I can see the logic in that.

    Love and hugs

    Nae x

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    Nae - can I ask you, when you did TTC straight away without waiting, how many cycles did it take you to conceive again?