Where back here again..

[Butterfly Child]

Well all has been very quiet with xp for some time... he has moved away to brisbane(wont really go into that)comes and sees her once a month if that..as he lost his license aparently..
His mum was coming most every week.. which was nice for dd!

Anyway she called last week to tell me she couldnt make it then and that she would probably come next week..which is today but so far havent heard anything watsever...

What im Angry at really is that im positive i saw xp yesterday drive past me in town yesterday with a whole bunch of his mates in his car..they yelled some stuff out dont really no what they said but i was with a friend taking dd for a walk and didnt even realise he was in town..
So i thought to myself it will be interesting to see if he comes to see dd tomorow with his mum.. but no nothing havent even heard a word since last time we saw him.

just to top that of new dp hardly gets any time of he works days and nights and today was his day off but i told him i couldnt do anything as xp and his mum i thought were to be coming.. so i just feel alittle ticked off and disconnected from everything havent really had much downtime lately at all..

i know others are going to say i need to get a parenting agreement in order but i dont want to have to stir the pot with them.. arghh i no theirs not much i can really do i guess i just needed to vent and get it all out..

[Rainbow_Mumma]

big hugs - sorry i have no real advice for you as my daughter doesnt see her father or any of his family anymore for many reasons.
I hope DD gets to see them soon and they stop stuffing you around

[Cupcake]

I know how much they frustrate you lovely! I dont even know them and they frustrate me

I really think you should stop trying to cater to them, i know you're doing it for Gracie but they need to work around you!

I hope her dad grows up & realises what a precious little girl he has before its too late!

Have you been able to get hold of XMIL? Is it possible she is embarassed by her sons behaviour therefore avoiding calls?

xo

[sushee]

My XH did this a lot with me. So I gave him notice that unless he tells me the exact time he's going to be there, at least 24 hours in advance, I assume he's not going to be there and make other plans.

If he is late for his pick-up time by more than an hour, I leave.

I too didn't want to 'stir the pot' but I soon realised that he was using his visitation time to jerk me around. I was nice as pie about it, I really was, but the msg got through - I wasn't going to be waiting around while he came and went as he pleased.

The initial discussion was a bit tough, but it's been years now and he hasn't fooled around for a long time when it comes to picking up/dropping off on time, because he knows I won't put everything on hold for him. And as a result, XH and I have a better relationship for it.

[Cherished]

Hi hon I agree with Ammaki, they should work around you, it sounds like you don't get much time with your partner so I'd make you plans for your life and your x and his mother will need to organise things in advance with you, they can't expect that you don't have a life and will drop everything at the drop of a hat to cater for them.

[JBM]

this is really a hard one, but the thing is if he doesn't want to visit DD, you can't make hime. men, whats wrong with them sometimes?! i like sushees idea, you can still be nice about it and some people do use this time to just stuff up XP's days. i know as i have a good friend who is just going thru a separation.

i am sending you a hug and some good luck.

BTW, vent away, that will at least make you feel a bit better. good luck to you.