This thread is for parents who's baby was born May 16th-31st 2010 #1
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Last edited by Nelle; September 16th, 2010 at 02:12 PM.
Hope everyones LO's are going well.
Miss S is slowly starting to settle into sleep during the night. I do have to cuddle her for a while but i'm finding feeding her in bed till she falls asleep then putting her into her bed seems to be working for us atm.
Miss J is being a great big sister (a little rough at times but to be expected)
AFM - recovery from birth has been great and I feel amazing HEAPS better than I did with Miss J.
Can't wait to keep up with everyone in here and see how everyone is going. xx
AFM - Emmelyn is a great feeder and sleeper so I am really lucky.... I just hope she doesn't become the 'forgotten child' because she is so quiet and easy going so gets put down to sleep so we can play with Jett.
Jett is being great - he only started acknowledging E on Friday, but he has done lots of high-fives with her, kisses goodnight, waves bye-bye to her and yesterday as we were getting ready to go out she started screaming (a very rare occurrence) he gave her her dummy and rocked the capsule gently - way too cute! But like MM, still hasn't given her a cuddle so I too have no photos of the two of them together!
My recovery is slower than last time, but I'm ok. I think it is more because I have two kiddies now and c/s are never kind on the body. I just can't wait to drive again so I can get out and about, and take Jett to childcare myself. I kind of feel like I'm missing out on life by being housebound. Does that make sense?
I hope everyone else is doing well - I also look forward to hearing how everyone else is going!
Going to finish my Birth Story - Max is watching Hi-5 and Darcie has been asleep for the past 2 hours (and a bit) in her rocking swing thing....loving it!
DH went to work today and Mum is too so it's just us....I actually think Max is better behaved when DH isn't around.....strange but true!
OMG - how do people do this. I have one sick child screaming until she vomits and one whose screaming cause shes hungry even though she's being fed like every 30mins!! How on earth can she still be hungry!!!??? Please tell me this gets easier. This is my first full day on my own... its been very challenging to say the least.
Glad to hear you are all doing well. Aly is going well. She has finally hit 3kg, so is nearly considered "normal" now. Seriously, those growth charts do nothing for small babies.
Sunshine - I hope your day improved.
MT - Good to hear Emmelyn & Jett are getting on well. I kind of understand what you mean about being housebound. I have hardly been out at all since Aly arrived and each time I go out with her I try to fit it in with her "routine". I am sure this gets easier!
MM - how are Max & Darcie getting on? Has Max had a hug yet?
Peanutter - read your story on the other thread. Hope you are ok & it is not too painful for you. It will be a little tricky having 20min salt baths constantly with Josh needing you, but at least the light is in about 2/3 weeks for you. Wishing you a speedy recovery.
Oh, I just realised Aly wasn't actually born between 16th & 31st. Does that mean I'm not allowed here? Would love to stay being that I know you all already....... She was due in that time. Hmmm. Anyway, best go do some stuff. Aly is asleep so now's the time!
Peta - We had the same thing with my other baby buddies thread, and I will say the same thing again, stick with where you are comfortable. There isn't a great deal of difference in ages so Aly will be meeting her milestones with the bubs that were born in this period, and you will need the same support as the rest of us. Don't stress about being the 'wrong' group - I don't think there are baby buddies police that tell you you are in the wrong group!!
Peanutter - I also read your other post - OMG!! I can imagine what a shock that would have been discovering it. I'm glad that it isn't going to affect you having any more kidlets, what a worry you could be doing without in these wonderful newborn days. big
Peanutter - I've just had time to sit down and properly read your birth story. What a shock! I can only imagine what you felt and probably then I would still have no idea! Big Squishy
Peta - Def. stick around in here We will miss you! I totally get you about the growth charts too. We had the same issues with Miss J.
MT - Glad to hear Emmelyn is behaving with the sleeping and feeding and so great that Jett is good with her too. It's so cute when they give them kisses and cuddles.
AFM - last night just got worse. Miss J kept going until she went to bed. She seems to be HEAPS better this morning though. She was allot calmer and doesn't seem to be as sick. So I sent her to Daycare for half a day I felt bad sending her today even for half a day, I just needed sometime to get myself sorted and back into some kind of rhythm to keep going. Shes been asleep for a while so i've managed to get some of the house work done.
Miss S is slowing starting to settle. I have to hold her or lay down with her to get to sleep at night but thats ok - Shes still only little and I feed her laying down in bed at night too then transfer her to her bed. I seem to be getting between 2 and 3 hours doing it this way so while it works then I'm going to keep going.
Miss J has been great with Miss S. She give her cuddles and kisses and has to make sure she kisses her when she kisses us goodngiht. If she forgets she comes back out to say goodnight... too cute!!
Seriously - the 2 of them could have been twins! We were comparing pics last night and Miss S looks EXACTLY like Miss J at the same age!! No doubting that they are sisters
Well I'd better get back to it... I want to try and get somethings finished before the girls wake up. I'd love to get washing dry but thats not going to happen Oh well.
Hope everyone is enjoying newborn snuggle cuddles. xxx
Just quickly coming on to say hello and catch up with how you are all going while DS is sleeping. Good to hear you are all going well.
Our little man Deacon is loving the (.)(.) juice..... Have had a few attachment issues, but that seems to be getting better each day. Just had to wait for my poor nipples to harden up a bit too. They've never had a work out like this before.. We're averaging about 3 hours between feeds, with a few cluster feeds thrown in for good measure.
DH & I are loving being parents. Wouldn't swap it for anything in the world. DS is a real little character already. Everyone keeps commenting on how alert and strong he is for his age. Even the dr and ECH nurse said the same thing.
What a day! Max has been a bit of a handful, but I reckon that's coz DH is here....he gets on that stupid blackberry and that's when the shizen hits the fan! Wish DH would just GET IT that if he just paid attention for 5 mins then all the grizzling and whinging and whining that DS is doing would probably halve!
DH did take Max out today.....to a BUSINESS MEETING lunch! DS managed to poo and wee himself and DH said he didn't notice the poo, only knew about the wee......THEN he put him in the car to come home and FORGOT to strap him in! Seriously....you wouldn't think the guy has been a Dad for the past 2+ years. Sheesh!
ATM Darcie is sleeping on DH while I entertain Maxy....I'm so buggered. Oh....and Max likes her now too....says "she's not rubbish anymore" and kisses and smooches her....still hasn't let me put her on his lap though.....all I want is a photo!!!!
Sunshine, like you I've been lying down with Darcie....but mine is more like co-sleeping! The first night home it was so cold, she wouldn't settle at all, but when she is all snugged up with me, it's all good. She sleeps, I sleep and the world is a better place for it!
Peanutter How are you going today? I've been thinking of you. I can't get over the ordeal you've been through. You are such a strong woman!
So many of us are missing.....WHERE IS EVERYONE!!?
Well better go, take care girls and hugs and kisses for the sweet bubbas!
We would be co-sleeping, except we already co-sleep with Jett and there is no way we could put E in with the three of us. But I definitely understand that everyone gets good sleep by co-sleeping, hence why Jett is still in bed with us!! But we are lucky, E sleeps well, she is in a cradle in our bedroom so she is still within easy reach, but man, getting out of bed to put a dummy back in is a pita!!!!
we're not co-sleeping, but Joshua does love to take naps on mummy & daddy's chests, on the couch ... we let him do this, but have agreed not to co-sleep in bed.
so Josh is in his own room, and thankfully seems to be fine with it.
I'm a bit nervous about next week however, because DH is back at work from Monday, and I'll be all on my lonesome with Joshua all day ... and I'm still pretty beat up, and need extended toilet breaks throughout the day, plus salt baths, etc ... really not sure how this is going to work! But I will just have to make do, and keep moving forward ... will have lots of mummy time, but am worried /i will have serious cabin fever after about 4 hours ... particularly as I already had a whole week at home before Joshie was born! I guess I might get more sleep, by napping when Josh is down for a sleep
Today we did visits to both my and DH's work, and also stopped by church, to say thanks to some friends who have been praying for me over the past couple of days.
I was pretty tired after that, and slept in the car, and then slept at home after giving Joshua a good long feed.
He's so beautiful - but he basically falls asleep every single feed. We call it milk-drunk - and it literally happens pretty much every time. We've started changing him half way through each feed, to try to rouse him a little, so he finishes off his feed
To answer you, minimax - as far as downstairs goes, today was just feral ... will not go into details, but it was just repulsive, believe me. I'm still pretty down about it, but keep reminding myself that (1) I might get healed without surgery (please God!); (2) it's otherwise fixable with surgery in 2-3 months - a fair way away, but a lot quicker than growing a baby! (3) Joshua is healthy and just perfect; and (4) while it's gross and uncomfortable, it's not painful, and should start improving shortly, as muscles tighten up and scar tissue forms.
And today was a good example for me, that I can be out and about (with DH - I don't think I could have done it alone) and no one was the wiser about what's happening downstairs. It didn't smell, I just was sensible with not overdoing it physically, and frankly almost all the attention was on Joshua anyway. So I don't have to be too isolated
A couple of the people at the hospital (the dietician, and a couple of the Drs and midwives) seemed to be concerned that I have PND because I was crying a fair bit at the hospital ... I don't think that's it at all - I think I was just so happy and blissed out at home with DH and bubba, that to be thrown back into hospital with questions about my health, safety, ability to have more children etc all thrown into question in around 60 minutes flat just knocked me for 6, and I really didn't cope with it. Today I've been fine, no tears, no breaking down. So I think it was more situational - there was a big scare, and I was very upset, but now that I know what's going on, what the prognosis is, what the plan is for dealing with it, etc, I can deal with it.
I'm still not happy about it of course, but it is what it is and I'm able to cope now that I know what's going on.
And now I'm going to try to focus on the positives - like Joshua! - and just accept the nastiness as part of my daily life for the short term. The very short term, when viewed against how long I get to keep Joshua for!
peanutter! You sound like you are doing just fine to me. And as for those people thinking that you have PND, isn't it a little too soon to be jumping to those conclusions? Hello.... you've just given birth to a baby and your hormone ****tail has just been shaken up. There are bound to be ups and downs including tears and ultra strong reactions to situations for all of us for the next few months. It doesn't just all switch off the instant your milk comes in. Pffffttt to them I say!
But at the same time, you have been through a fair ideal so just ask those closest to you whom you trust to keep an eye out for the signs, JIC. Especially as you are so used to being active, busy and independent. And of course talk to us about everything and we can keep a supportive arm around your shoulders too!
Hiiiiii everyone Im just checking in and got a new ticker finally!!! Will find the time to post soon, gotta run and get Bubba Z in the car and pick J-man up from school then get him to footy training then get ready to go out for dinner tonight, I hope Zarlen behaves... he seems to have issues with being away from my breasts for for any length of time so dinner should be interesting! Hope all is well with everyone!
Is everyone else's baby asleep all the time when they aren't feeding or crying?
While I'm not complaining (as it lets mummy have time to nap, have salt baths and surf the net!) I'm just wondering when Joshua will be awake and needing attention at other times
Peanutter Feeding, sleeping, pooping and crying are just about it.....for now! Enjoy it, and then look forward to the times when more attention is needed coz that is exciting too! You'll know when you need to start 'entertaining'
Girls with older kiddies....Max is sending me balmy! I understand that his world has turned upside down, and I am trying to pay attention to him when Darcie is asleep, by asking him if he wants to go to the park, play outside, colour all sorts, but he doesn't want a bar of me or anything I suggest! The only thing that comes out of his mouth is a whinge too....it's a total drag! DH and Max had a big 'fight' today at the shops while I wasn't there. Max didn't want to walk so cracked it in the shops. DH didn't help by telling him that he didn't want to be friends with him anymore! He came home so upset (well both of them were) and has been a misery guts ever since. Max is such a sensitive little boy, as is DH and they are totally butting heads. CAN ANYONE HELP!!!? All I am at the moment is a feeding machine/mediator - don't know what to do!
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Well done Sunshine!
Huuuuuuge hugs Sunshine. I have no advice, but I pray it all calms down for you soon.
I felt bad sending her today even for half a day, I just needed sometime to get myself sorted and back into some kind of rhythm to keep going. Shes been asleep for a while so i've managed to get some of the house work done. 
Oh well. 
We're averaging about 3 hours between feeds, with a few cluster feeds thrown in for good measure.
I'm still pretty down about it, but keep reminding myself that (1) I might get healed without surgery (please God!); (2) it's otherwise fixable with surgery in 2-3 months - a fair way away, but a lot quicker than growing a baby! (3) Joshua is healthy and just perfect; and (4) while it's gross and uncomfortable, it's not painful, and should start improving shortly, as muscles tighten up and scar tissue forms.
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