Smug/Crap

[PumpkinZulu]

I was reading a thread called this ages ago, (I think started by Rouge) but I can't find it anymore so I'll just start a new one. I think it's a great idea. So often as parents, we find it easy to talk ourselves down, worry about what we are doing 'wrong' and focus on the negatives. It seems that if we dare celebrate the positive aspects of our parenting, we can be met with jealousy, anger and sarcasm. So, here is a thread to post things you're happy/proud about in your life as a parent (or just in general) and the things that are crap. It's just a fun idea for a thread, to show that no matter how it may first seem, nobody is 'perfect.'

[PumpkinZulu]

I'll start.

Smug:
-My DD sleeps through the night!
-I lost all my baby weight plus extra by 4 weeks PP.
-Although it was hard, my DD is still thriving on my breastmilk.

Crap:
-BF is still a bit of a struggle.
-I have had to put DD down crying and leave the room to shower, because I needed a break.
-I never get any housework done, not because I can't but because I don't want to.
-My belly is covered in big purple stretchmarks.

[Miss.September]

Smug:

- My DD can count to 40, recognises numbers in all sorts of random orders. She's 2 1/2
- She knows the letters of the alphabet and can read her own name

Crap:

- She's clever enough to do the above things but can't figure out to do wee or poo on the toilet!!!!!!

PZ - Congrats on losing the baby weight so fast! Well done! Hope bf gets easier for you

[PumpkinZulu]

(Crap:
-I lost the weight because my marriage fell apart and all I did was BF and not eat.)

[onthefly]

I find that if I post smug stuff, they stop doing it. But it also works with the crap stuff... so,

Crap:
DS is putting on full-scale, three-act broadway productions every dinner time.

[Erin_25]

SMUG

My DS2 (21months), runs to bed at night when you tell him "goodnight" & can say the alphabet and count to ten
My DS1 is just the nicest little boy
21months & still BF
Never put on more than 5kg each pregnancy & lost all and more after each baby


CRAP

DS1 was 2 before he slept through, DS2 still doesn't sleep through
DS2 woke every hour at night for the first 12months!!
My boob's are not where they are supposed to be

[onthefly]

DS1 was 2 before he slept through, DS2 still doesn't sleep through

That's not crap, that's average

[MrsFabuloso]

Unfortunately I can name waaayyyy more crap than smug, so here are just a few...

Smug...

DD is just the most lovely little girl in the world. She is gorgeous to look at as well as gorgeous inside. She melts my heart. :heart:
DS1 went the whole night last night without a nappy!
DS2 can make me smile even if he's being a little **** head!
I always get comments on how beautifully behaved and well mannered my children are in public. (Unfortunately that behaviour doesn't carry over to in private!)
I have BF DS2 trouble free for almost 8mths. And I love it.
I have the most kind hearted and considerate DH ever. I am more in love with him now than ever before. He rocks my world.
I am lucky enough to be a SAHM.

Crap...

My children are allergic to sleep. All of them. Last night I was up 10 times to them. I kid you not.
My DD is the.biggest.whinger. And a tattle tale. I know it's an age thing too, but she's always been such a whiner.
My DS1 will.not.eat.dinner. Ever. I can't remember the last time he ate any bit of a meal I have cooked him, let alone all of it. He would have been a baby.
I don't get enough time alone with my man to dote on him and give him what he deserves.
The everyday battle or monotony and boredom I am having from being a SAMH
I'm fatter tahn ever and hate it.

I will stop there....I could go on and on!

[~StarBright~]

Smug...

DD loves singing and she could do the actions and sing her own version of Twinkle Twinkle by about 5 or 6 months old!!
DS has a great vocabularly and can talk really well
DD goes to sleep sooo easily!! I just say its bed time, she walks to bed lays down drinks some of her bottle and closes her eyes and goes to sleep in about five minutes!!!
DS is such a sweetie and I love how he says I love you all the time and is really loving towards everyone
Both my kids are just adorable.. lol like, really they are!!!

Crap..

DD is starting to really throw some juicy tanties!!!
DS is smart, but whenever I try to sit him down and go through numbers and counting or letters he starts mucking around and being silly, I havent found the way he learns yet and Im afraid he will be like that in school
I have only gained weight since having kids.. I have lost a tiny little bit recently, but its nothing on what I gained!!!

Oh and DS will not eat dinner.. dinner time sucks at the moment!!!!

[*LittleMissSummer*]

Smug: My DD sleeps 10+ hours every night.
She tells me when she wants to go to bed by giving me her bottle and saying "bot bot"
She talks very fluently and knows how to say "whats that?" "who's that?" "mumma what doing?" "pup dog" "call daddy"
She dances with me to my music and even sings along.
She has the most beautiful big blue eyes

Crap: DD won't eat real food and still wants up to 4 bottles a day
She still has an umbilical hernia and may require surgery
Because she does have much hair she is often mistaken for a boy
Often have to argue the fact I AM her mother!!
Couldn't give DD a sibling and she loves babies (beat myself up about that all the time )
My belly, sides, thighs and hips are covered in horrible stretch marks from pregnancy.
My belly skin sags and have to wear shapewear to hide it and be able to wear nice clothes
I suffer from anxiety and the smallest things set off an anxiety attack (we went into the city to have lunch for fathers day, DP picked a place that id never eaten at and the food was different from what id eaten and i didnt want to eat there, it should have been a simple no but i had a massive anxiety attack )

[Glamourcide]

Love this thread!

Smug: DD2 is totes the best talker I've ever seen for a 2yo. Everybody comments on it, all the time, I really enjoy it

Crap: They're eating potato chips for dinner and watching cartoons while I work on uni stuff. My bad.

[Epacris]

Smug
DS1 can identify a frog by its call.

Crap
He can’t wipe his bum.

[Charlotte91]

OK... I'll give it a go...

Smug:
DD is gorgeous. She's been sleeping through the night since she was about 4 months old (2 1/2 months corrected age!!)
She's got a beautiful smile, can clap, say what sounds like 'hello', Dada, nana (which is mum), lala.
She can wipe her eyes with her feet. AND!! Make it look easy.
She can sit by herself for half an hour.
And my little girl survived a life threatening birth defect.

Crap:
She is stubborn. Very very stubborn. If she doesn't want to do something, you've got no hope.
She's a shocking teether. The neighbours know when she's teething!
She was prem and it affected our breastfeeding relationship, resulting in her going on to formula when we came home from hospital at 6 1/2 weeks
My body is ruined, my boobs, hips, a few on my belly, bum, thighs and CALVES and are stretched because I gave birth to a massive 3lb 12oz baby! lol

Unfortunately that's all I can think of for crap.

[Just Me]

Smug

My kids are awesome!

Crap

Everybody thinks they turned out that way in spite of our parenting because they believe there is no way our parenting would work

[Lily Dust]

Great thread PZ!

Smug:
My 23 month old DD is fully toilet trained 18 months with out any knickers
She is a sweet and caring little girl who boobie feeds everything!
She can count to 10 and knows 6 colours
DD has the most beautiful manners

Crap:
The kid DOES NOT sleep! (she slept thru the night from birth until some big developmental leaps set in)
She has her mothers temper when she gets frustrated
She will not eat when we are out places, like today been out from 8:30- 4pm and would not eat a scrap of food!

[Erin_25]

That's not crap, that's average

I should mention DS1 slept through "sometimes" starting at age 2 at almost 5 he still wakes once or twice (most nights) along with DS2 whom wakes once or twice also - is that crap enough he,he.

[Astrolady]

Smug: - Very soon I will have 3 children in school.

Crap: - 3 children in school means I might have to find part time work :eek:

[roses]

Smug
DS1 is a very caring loving thoughtful little boy. Fetches toys for his brother and is often requested for at playdates where many a girl has given him a kiss. No allergies even though both parents have heaps
DS2 is a very easy baby when awake and well rested - gorgeous to look at and took to breastfeeding perfectly! Eats his solids well and adores his big brother

Crap
DS1 - tantrums (need I say more)
DS2 - at 4 months (he is now 6) he stopped sleeping well at night. Feeding every 2 hours and at least once every night refusing to resettle for around 2 hours which is resulting in approx 4 or 5 hours of sleep for mum every night