Sleepovers.
The other night I was out and Ashton was asked if he would like to sleep over on Friday night (tonight) by the mother. Ashton and her little girl are sort of friends.
Today the Dad comes and picks up the little girl and he said "oh I understand Ashton is coming home with us" so I said "yeah I'll come over after tea and drop his stuff off" his reply "what do you mean stuff" and I said "Well the other night I was under the impression he was sleeping over tonight" The dad went right off and said he can stay for tea but he doesn't appreciate boy/girl sleep overs blah blah blah"
I just sent a txt msg to the mum and said "Please let me know when Ashton is ready to be picked up" and apologised for being under the impression he could stay tonight. She said "Oh xxxx said not tonight" and I said "umm no at the school he quite clearly gave the impression of not now not ever cause of being boy/girl"
They are 5. If they were teenager then okay fair enough. What are your views on that. Is the dad just being a tosser? The family knows both Ashton and myself quite well.
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I would think that a sleepover at this age with boy/girl is perfectly fine. I don't understand the dad's reaction at all.
Even teenagers, depending on their maturity, I would consider a case-by-case basis but with restrictions (i.e. sleeping in separate rooms such as lounge room and bedroom etc).
The dad's reaction was quite strange IMO
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Loki has had a boy/girl sleepover - its the only one he's had. He's 4 and the little girl is 5. I don't see the big deal.
They slept in different beds sojust don't see the big deal at that age...
Last edited by No.5; April 27th, 2012 at 06:47 PM.
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Funny this is up now, my daughter was just asked to a play date by a boy in her class, and she wants to ask him to come and sleep over at her house next!
TBH, I have no issue with it. They are 5 years old!! lol I think I would have laughed at him and asked him why his mind went to the gutter straight away - bit uncomfortable about that one
I probably would also say something to the wife - I wouldn't appreciate being put in the position of dealing with the husband's carry on.
Charlotte is very excited about sleepovers, she is 4, and very keen to have someone - anyone!! - sleep over! PMSL
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I dont see an issue with it at that age.
I asked DH and he doesn't see an issue either.
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One of DD's best friends is a boy. He's stayed here and she's stayed there. I think that's silly TBH.
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He's a tosser
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Wow complete tosser! Even if he wasn't comfortable with it, don't you think he would go home and check with his wife what was discussed in the first place? They are 5 FFS!
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Tosser!
Dd1's best buddy is a boy and we are planning a sleepover for them, they are 6.
I had friends who were boys who I would stay over with when I was a teenager, even up to 17 - so I have no issue with opposite gender friendships and sleepovers
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Bit of an overreaction there! I was sleeping over at my male bestie's house (in the same bed!) in Grade 3ish, no problem... Someone needs to get his head out of his bottom
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I have a 3 yo boy sleeping over tonight and quite often have my 8 yo boy neighbor stay over.
My DD is 2.
I remember sleeping at my 'boyfriends' house when I was 5-8 yo.
Even in high school- male friends were always allowed to sleep over- in the lounge room of course.
I see no problem with it.
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He's a complete tosser. I'm sorry Ashton is having a healthy friendship tarred in this way. How did the mum respond when you told her that her husband said under no circumstances was it to happen?
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What N2L said...
I don't see a problem with it, at any age... Why is it that girls should only have girl friends and boys the same? It's silly...
Me best friend was male, we slept at each others houses for years... And my parents were fine with it (as were his) as we were just that friends... I don't see the need to discriminate over sex. And come to think of it A lot of my guy friends from when I was in primary school up until high school stayed over.
You were RAK'ed in 2015.
Agree with everyone else. He's a tosser, and his reaction was just weird.
Boy/girl sleepovers I wouldnt think at being an issue until puberty really. But that being said I would let the girls sleep over at their friends house if they were just friends. Growing up I had more male friends than female friends and I stayed over at their places all the time. Just because we were different genders didnt mean anything was going to happen. I dont see a problem if its a 'just friends' situation, but a discussion would be had between dh, myself, and whichever dd was involved if there was something more to the relationship. But that is a long way off for us, thank goodness for that!
He was actually there when it was being discussed the first time around. He was trying to object then, but we thought he was just mucking around. It's a bit hard to know when this guy is being serious or not but after school today he was deadly serious.
She was a bit dumbfounded, and said "leave it with me I will talk to him when he gets home" I did stress that I didn't want to "rock the boat" so to speak. I got a msg from the mum about 15 mins ago asking if it was still okay if Ashton slept over. I questioned her about the partner, and she said "don't worry it's all fine" Was a bit hesitant in saying yes, but Ashton was looking forward to it. Might be interesting when I drop his things off soon.
Having said that. I will probably get a phone call in a couple of hours to go pick him up anyway. Last time he stayed over a friends house without his older brothers I had to pick him up around 10
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Sleepovers.
Awkward!!! He's a tosser, I think it's fine
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I see no problem with it at all. I'd be more than happy to have DS's female friends sleep over or have him sleep there.
I never asked for boys to sleep over throughout primary school as I wasn't great friends with any boys (beside my cousins) but I was allowed to have my male friends sleep over in High School. They did sleep in the loungeroom which I totally agree with at that age but that guy's lost his marbles if he's objecting to a 5yr olds sleep over!
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