What age did u let ur DD shave their legs and dye their hair?

[Anila]

So my beautiful lil dancer will be 9 in june, and she is growing up so fast.!

atm we are in discussions over her shaving her legs, i originally said 15, then droped it to 12, but she does have quite dark hair on her legs and its very noticeable.
She is also a dancer and although they do wear shimmers for most routines, for cheerleading stunts shimmers are not allowed.

We have thought about various hair removal products and have decided the veet cream that has the plastic leg shaver, just to get started, before we move on to a real razer.

We are also talking about having blonde foils put in her hair to give it some definition as its a real boring brown, and as a dancer, she needs to stand out a lil bit, however she is only 9 and i think its a bit young.

so im after some input from others on what age they let their dd shave their legs and dye their hair?

tia

[Madissun]

Would you consider getting her legs waxed instead of shaving? Would last sooooo much longer and not to mention the others benefits of waxing over shaving.

I wish my mum had taken me to have my legs waxed right from the beginning, rather than shaving. I think i was 11.

[Anila]

yes i did think about waxing, i only wax and epilady my legs, but i wondered if 9 was too young to feel the pain of the wax ripp!

She is very self aware, and has asked for over a yr now to have the hair removed, she is growing up so fast.

[Madissun]

Her hair would be a lot finer hun and she wouldn't feel it as much as we do. Just make sure you take her to someone who is very good at what they do. They can start in an inconspicuous area and if she cant handle it, they can stop.

GL!

[Willow]

I haven't gotten this far yet, DD is only 5.

But I have to say, I think 9 seems really young for this sort of stuff?? I understand you are concerned that she is becoming self conscious and that must be hard.

I definitely will not be letting DD dye/colour her hair at 9. No way. There is plenty of time for that later on. I think little girls grow up waaaaay too fast these days and the things I have control over, like dying her hair, I will be delaying as long as possible. JMHO

I think I was about 12 when I started shaving my legs. I wish I'd waited in hindsight and will be encouraging DD to do the same.

[Ahurani]

I dont have a daughter yet (der)

But Id let her wax her legs or shave them

but definately not dye the hair. Its something she will never get back to the normal colour, Id hate her to regret it :/ or you

Boy shes growing up so fast isnt she :/

[Anila]

Thanks for all the replies

I might hold off on the hair foils a lil longer, as the hairy leg issue is a bit more important to her right now.

Hmm, interesting that most of the replies say to wax? Maybe i should look at doing that instead, my sister is a beauty theapist, so i know she will feel a lil bit more comfortable, but im in my 30s and waxing still hurts me, i guess i might have to sit back down with her and ask if she wants to try it?

[Mildez]

I told my DD who is 7months older then your DD she can wax her legs as soon as she is ready. As I don't want to run her of to the beautician every 6weeks Ill do it myself (I've done my own for years) and it will be so much cheaper this way. I wish my mother made us wax not shave. I figure when she is ready she will want the hair of so much she wont care about a little discomfort. At the moment she is happy with her hairy legs but it is blond and fine. When I do mine she occassionals says can I do one strip for her which I do and it doesn't really bother her although she doesn't come back for more lol well not until the next 6weeks when I am doing them again.

Foils sound nice. The school my daughter goes to doesn't allow anythinkg like that so it wouldn't be an option for my DD until she was in high school. If your happy and she wants them I don't see why to wait.

[CrazyLady]

Would you consider getting her legs waxed instead of shaving? Would last sooooo much longer and not to mention the others benefits of waxing over shaving.

I wish my mum had taken me to have my legs waxed right from the beginning, rather than shaving. I think i was 11.

likewise! I've noticed a huuuuuuuge difference in growth rate and density on areas waxed VS area shaved. My legs have gone really feral since pregnancy because i didn't want the wax ouch factor and shaved. i regret it big time

[Cherished]

Hello there beautiful Anila, as you know I don't have a daughter but I think the veet cream with the rubber razor is a good comprimise to start her off with getting rid of leg hair. I can't remember when I started shaving my legs (maybe around 12?) but I do remember a girl who was Yugoslavian and her legs had very dark hair on them a few years before that. I don't 'think it's a problem to start her out at 9 years old if they are dark and she is having a problem with them... Waxing on the other had is still too painful for me The only thing getting waxed on my body is my eyebrows the rest is shaved, personally I hate the idea of having to wait till my leg hair grew back long enough to wax so I just shaved heaps, it doesn't take long and I'm happy with that method. As for the hair dye, I agree with many of the others, 9 is waaaaay to young, if I have a girl she can put a rinse in her hair when she's in high school and nothing permanent until she leaves school and pays for it herself

[Stevie]

i was 13 before i shaved my legs, and even then, i did it behind mums back, naturally she found out and i got into a lot of trouble for it. Then she hid all the razors for awhile then evenutally she brought me some but wasnt very happy about it.
I wasnt aloud to dye my hair. period. I left home when i was 16.. one of the first things i did was dye my hair jet black

I think her shaving her legs at 9 might be alittle younge but you said she's a dancer and i can undertsand that. I think when DD is in high school then ill let her shave her legs but if she really really wants to eralier (depending on how much earlier) then ill probably let her, i know what its like to be held back over something so stupid.
as far as dying her hair i think 9 is too younge. Again i think ill make her wait til high school, ill probably try to put it off for as long as i can.. its so bad for your hair

[Anila]

Thankyou all again for replying

I spoke to my mum last night she was shocked that this was even in discussion at our place and told my dd that she thought she should wait and gave her all the reasons like growing back darker etc..
She was concerened that a cream is chemical based and she is too young for that

What we didn't tell my mum was the emotional reasons behind wanting to do it

we have two months till she turns 9 so I guess we still have time to make the right desision

as for foils in her hair hubby has said no not for a long time he also told her she is not alowed to date till she is 40 lol

I really appreciate the repiles it's good to have an idea of what other mothers have done or will do !

[Lisa]

My DD1 dyed her hair & removed the hair on her legs for the first time in the days leading up to her year 6 farewell, so she was 12. It was almost a rite of passage for her; she was leaving the primary school girl behind. She didn't do a permanent hair dye however, just a semi permanent that has now faded.

[didispunk]

I would start her on waxing.. as when she is 25 she will have much softer hair and there is a chance of less..
Coloring her hair. i was 16 before i was allowed to.. and it was ok , I was a figure skating dancer.

I did have to wait till i was 11 to pierce my ears.. and I will do the same with my DD.

Good luck.. whatever you choose will be fine!

[Trillian]

If some of this pressure that she is feeling has come from the cheerleading side of things, maybe you could get together with a few other Mums and see how they feel about it? I'm not sure I like the idea that the cheerleading is putting that pressure on them at such a young age, because they are meant to have hairy legs at 9 kwim? However, I had really dark leg hair so I'm sympathetic to how she is feeling about it I even shaved my arms too at one stage because I hated it that much and it wasn't even that bad in reality! It was just how I perceived it. maybe you could try some natural bleaches like lemon juice and sunlight to help lighten the hair on her legs? I was 11, nearly 12 when I started shaving them so the longer you can get her to hold off the better. That said though, the woman who waxed my legs had a client who had just started taking her 8yo for waxing because she had dark hair too and she said that there is a much better result when you start that young, but I think that it is far too young IMO. It's a tough one though

As for the hair, well that is easier. If you feel that she just needs that extra 'zing' for her performances, could you get some of those clip in hair extensions and you wouldn't even know the difference if you get the really good quality ones.

[CinderToriella]

9 does sound young , i think i was 10 or 11