you need to put yourself first, take time to grieve , the bills will always be there, but for now u are the most important thing , you will know when u are ready to go back to work, good luck, i wish the best for u and your family
Honey, just do what is right for you.. I didn't have other kids to look after, so I did pretty much nothing but grieve, cry and trawl the internet.. I did give my self a 6 month time limit, when they 1st died.. And by the time 6months rolled around, I was ready to get out of the house..
When I was pregnant I was working in call centre, and didn't want to go back after they died. I had planned to do family day care with the twins, but after they died that didn't feel right either.. So I enrolled in my cert 3 aged care, which then led to my diploma course which I am now almost finished! Anyway, that was right for me. I had my time to do nothing and then just set myself little goals.. The aged care course was only 3 days a week, and I knew I could drop out if I couldn't cope..
Anyway, enough about me, sorry about crapping on a bit, I guess I am just trying to explain my experience.. To sum it up though, no one can tell you when you are ready. Maybe try and get a job, but don't pressure yourself. If you get one and can cope great, if not, quit.. Just take it slow.. It's great your DP is supportive..
Give yourself time sweety, you have just been through a traumatic time, it isnt going to happen overnight or even a few more weeks away. You need time. Honestly I dont believe those that have lost bubs ever feel normal again, there is always something missing. We just learn to live life differently to how we used to, as you never feel the same again. Time is what you need to even begin the healing process, to even feel as though you can breathe air without having that lump in your throat and that heavy heavy aching heart feels even somewhat lighter.
Please look after yourself, remeber your still grieving. Loads of hugs.
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