Hi, we are always here if you need to talk, you don't need tomgominto chat, just pst a thread on any topic and there will be plenty of ladies there for you.
Bb ladies have helped me keep my sanity many times
Oh, that must be so hard not having a home phone at the moment!
If you are isolated without a car as well, a counsellor from SIDS maybe able to do some home visits. I did read in their pamphlet that in some circumstances they can do this. Guess it depends on where you live as well.
I'm thinking of enrolling in a tafe arts course for the start of next year- I don't have a job to return to, and I know I need something to fill my days.
Is there a community college, or some kinda course or group near you that you could join? Anything would do really, just to fill in that void.. xx
Oh hun, I am so so so sorry that you have lost your Angel, it is such an unfair and cruel thing to happen and I wanted to offer you massive I did see you in the chat last night hun and do hope you can get in soon but as someone has mentioned pour your heart out by starting a thread because there are so many gorgeous people on BB that will offer you support/ advice and just a shoulder to cry on. Please do not even apologose for saying how you feel, you need to do that to help you heal, sweetheart. I wish I could say or do something to take away your pain but all I can do is offer you big big warm :hugs:
Last edited by Lily Dust; October 26th, 2010 at 12:15 PM.
sweetie - use this thread to get it all out. I understand the isolation and loneliness and pain. I can only say it does get easier to bear. Having outside support helps though, to get you out of your head. That emptiness of having no baby is just awful. Unfortunately there's no cure. It gets easier to deal with, but the grief is there forever.
I found it difficult calling SANDS, I didn't try SIDS. Just picking up the phone had me in tears. We're getting grief counselling which is useful though. Do you have a mobile phone or family you can be with? When DH went back to work I often went to my Mum's and still do. I've only just started back at work part-time. Can you download skype and use that to call people?
Doing things like writing your birth story, journalling, going for walks, all these things can help. We're here as well. I can't say that I'll be able to be here everyday because some days are just too hard, but I try to be here when I can.
Everything you're going through is normal - the pain, the grief, the guilt (even though you did NOTHING wrong), the tears, the emptiness, the fog, low energy... it's all perfectly normal. Getting it all out helps.
as i was saying i work at a school so am surrounded everyday with the mass of pregnant mums and babies comming to pick up thier other children i'm filled with such a jelousy that it scares me.
I guess not having any answers to why my Angel is not here with me makes it hard.
I don't want to be bitter towards others as i would not wish this upon anyone.
Did anyone else have these feelings in the begining?
hun after loosing Emmanuel I was at the supermarket shopping and it seemed like every isle I turned there was a pregnant lady, then at the deli a baby in the pram just set me off. I had to leave my full trolley and just left. It's so hard but honestly it does get easier.
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Dianne
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