Oh hun, I am so so so sorry that you have lost your Angel, it is such an unfair and cruel thing to happen and I wanted to offer you massive I did see you in the chat last night hun and do hope you can get in soon but as someone has mentioned pour your heart out by starting a thread because there are so many gorgeous people on BB that will offer you support/ advice and just a shoulder to cry on. Please do not even apologose for saying how you feel, you need to do that to help you heal, sweetheart. I wish I could say or do something to take away your pain but all I can do is offer you big big warm :hugs:
Last edited by Lily Dust; October 26th, 2010 at 12:15 PM.
sweetie - use this thread to get it all out. I understand the isolation and loneliness and pain. I can only say it does get easier to bear. Having outside support helps though, to get you out of your head. That emptiness of having no baby is just awful. Unfortunately there's no cure. It gets easier to deal with, but the grief is there forever.
I found it difficult calling SANDS, I didn't try SIDS. Just picking up the phone had me in tears. We're getting grief counselling which is useful though. Do you have a mobile phone or family you can be with? When DH went back to work I often went to my Mum's and still do. I've only just started back at work part-time. Can you download skype and use that to call people?
Doing things like writing your birth story, journalling, going for walks, all these things can help. We're here as well. I can't say that I'll be able to be here everyday because some days are just too hard, but I try to be here when I can.
Everything you're going through is normal - the pain, the grief, the guilt (even though you did NOTHING wrong), the tears, the emptiness, the fog, low energy... it's all perfectly normal. Getting it all out helps.
as i was saying i work at a school so am surrounded everyday with the mass of pregnant mums and babies comming to pick up thier other children i'm filled with such a jelousy that it scares me.
I guess not having any answers to why my Angel is not here with me makes it hard.
I don't want to be bitter towards others as i would not wish this upon anyone.
Did anyone else have these feelings in the begining?
hun after loosing Emmanuel I was at the supermarket shopping and it seemed like every isle I turned there was a pregnant lady, then at the deli a baby in the pram just set me off. I had to leave my full trolley and just left. It's so hard but honestly it does get easier.
Regards,
Dianne
Emmanuel born sleeping @24wks
Trisomy 13
Dabrady's - how are you going? It's been a bit longer now since your last post and I wanted to check in on you.... those feelings you have? Blossom they are soooooo very normal. I had them too, and not just in the begining either... all of the feelings.... like Tashybabe said. Grief is a very demanding journey full of lots of unexpected twists and turns. It's a very lonely journey as only you can walk in your shoes. Anyway, just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and sending you my love and courage.
I am so sorry that you have to go through this.... grieving an angel is singularly the hardest thing I have ever had to do.
Go gently.
I did see you in the chat last night hun and do hope you can get in soon but as someone has mentioned pour your heart out by starting a thread because there are so many gorgeous people on BB that will offer you support/ advice and just a shoulder to cry on. Please do not even apologose for saying how you feel, you need to do that to help you heal, sweetheart. I wish I could say or do something to take away your pain but all I can do is offer you big big warm :hugs:
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