Teni - Even 4.5 years later I cried whilst writing down that phone call. All this time later and I am still tortured by that call

I definitely agree to treating it like a live birth. As much as we knoew the reality, the respect given to our child is so important.
I am so sorry to hear you were made to leave before you were ready. I was never told when I had to go thankfully. I had a room and DH had a fold out bed and we were there for 4 days in total. Leaving was the hardest thing I had to do as that was the final goodbye before the funeral.