First of all, I am so sorry for your loss When I lost Josh in Oct 2008 at 20 w 6 d, I didn't have a funeral or a memorial, I couldn't face anyone either. My partner and I had a priest at the funeral home with our baby boy and he blessed him. We've said our good byes there. That's all I could handle. I then thought of placing his ashes at a memorial park and have a little service for him on his EDD which was 12 Feb 2009. We arranged it with a really lovely priest, called some family and friends, and then on the night before my EDD, I got cold feet and cancelled the memorial service. I felt like a huge load was lifted off my shoulders, as I realised I wasn't ready to let go of my son's ashes. We did however, told the people we've invited to come to our house for a BBQ, and it was so lovely and relaxing. One thing we did which was beautiful, was we each wrote a message for Joshua on our balloons, and then we released them, it was the most beautiful and peaceful gesture I have ever done. I felt like I released him into heaven, it was a beautiful moment, one to also signify the end of my pregnancy at full term, had I got there.
It will be 12 months since my son's birth on 1 October, and I'm not sure how I will spend the day, but I want to make it beautiful to honour my son's 1st Birthday.
Good luck hunni, do what feels right for you. I felt the pressure to do more, but could only handle so much.
My thought are with you and your family.
When I lost Josh in Oct 2008 at 20 w 6 d, I didn't have a funeral or a memorial, I couldn't face anyone either. My partner and I had a priest at the funeral home with our baby boy and he blessed him. We've said our good byes there. That's all I could handle. I then thought of placing his ashes at a memorial park and have a little service for him on his EDD which was 12 Feb 2009. We arranged it with a really lovely priest, called some family and friends, and then on the night before my EDD, I got cold feet and cancelled the memorial service. I felt like a huge load was lifted off my shoulders, as I realised I wasn't ready to let go of my son's ashes. We did however, told the people we've invited to come to our house for a BBQ, and it was so lovely and relaxing. One thing we did which was beautiful, was we each wrote a message for Joshua on our balloons, and then we released them, it was the most beautiful and peaceful gesture I have ever done. I felt like I released him into heaven, it was a beautiful moment, one to also signify the end of my pregnancy at full term, had I got there.
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