Bree-ana-I think the memory box is a great idea ,i have one,also have just ordered a 'reconition of life certificate' since we didn't get a official birth certificate as the loss was before 20 weeks.
Yeah, I light a candle when I also feel the need but sometimes I'm afraid to starting thinking about her.
I write in a journal of how I'm feeling as well but I find when I do that I start to break down and then I feel like I can't handle it.
I can then feel the pain, every time I let loose and then it just like encourages me to bottle it up again.
I prefer to do a memory box.
I think it will suite me well with the locked away sort of thing happening.
I'm more tempted to just go out and buy the thing I would have gotten for her when she was born and whatnot and just create a little memory box I can keep by my bed like I have now but a better one so to speak.
Either way, I don't want the pain anymore but I know it will always be with me and that's what scares me the most sometimes.
What I have done for my little Nikita was to buy a charm bracelet. I keep it in her Urn and every year for her birthday I plan on buying a charm. It has an ID plate on it so I had her name on one side and on the underside I did her birth date and angel date (she was 8 days old when she died).
I don't wear the bracelet, it is not on display, its just a little something to commemorate her birth and is something just from mother to daughter.
Well guys, tomorrow is the day I was hoping would never come.
October 15th.
The day my daughter would have been to me safely in my arms.
Tomorrow's going to be even harder with having to see the baby's father at school as well.
*sigh* it just isn't fair.
How do I cope well?!
Hi breeana,you'll cope as best as you can,that's all any of us grieving &missing our babies can do ,they're so wonderful to think about but so hard not to have them in our arms,thinking of you & your precious little one.I find comfort in the fact that i believe death ends a life not a relationship.hugs.
Thank you.
I know I've had a few friends come up to me and give me some hugs.
Which is nice but it also just makes me want to break down and cry.
Its hard knowing that the father is right in front of me and everything, knowing that my daughter would have had his eyes, it makes me want to look at him and at his eyes. Even though I know it will make me cry.
I think he knows what today is but I don't think he wants to acknowledge it all that much really cause I know he was afraid during the time I was pregnant.
But yeah, its hard.
I empathize with all women that have lost a daughter or a son.
I hate the pain and the memories and also the "what ifs" thoughts.
Those are what gets me the most sometimes aye.
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