what happens from here?

[*Efjay*]

You know where I am when you are ready Much love to you my dear friend.

[madamerogers]

oh darling mummydreamer........i am so so sorry.
i have no advice but just wanted to send some love.
you and your family are in my thoughts
x madame x

[diannescruffy]

My thoughts and prayers are with you today

Regards,
Dianne
Emmanuel born sleeping @24wks
Trisomy 13

[LionsandBears]

I'm so sorry for your loss no words can adequately convey how sorry I am.

With regard to the process after baby is born, here is what helped me:
Lots of cuddles with baby
Lots of photos. We had our own camera which meant we have lots of photos when bub was newly born. By the time the professional photographer arrived the next day, bub had been gone a while. Those photos are hard to look at. I'd ask that a Heartfelt photographer be called in soon after birth.
We used some expressed colostrum to bath baby. That was incredible to me.
DH gave baby a bath
We fussed over our son like any new parent. Treasure all those minutes you have together. All your parenting needs to be done in a short time.
Have family come in and meet baby. You need their support and they need to meet him to know it's real.
If you can, try to avoid drugs. It will mean you're less likely to be out of it in those first precious moments. But dont beat yourself up if you need them.
Take clothes to dress baby in. Take a blanket to wrap in him.
If you request a post mortem, leave a note with baby. We asked that they take good care of our son and always keep him wrapped and warm. They did.

Ask for a teddy. The Teddy Love Club can supply them for babyloss families. You dont want to go home empty handed. Though small and in no way a substitute, a teddy may help.
Be prepared for your baby to have deep red lips. They are angel lips.
Contact Sands or SIDS and Kids or ask the hospital social worker to get them to contact you. I never had the energy to make the call.
I recommend finding a grief counsellor in a couple of weeks.
I can pm you details about arranging the funeral once i'm online again.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Just know your baby has only known love. Cherish the last moments you have together. Get lots of cuddles. Be gentle with yourself.

[Liviam]

Oh hun I am so incredibly sorry. Today is going to be the hardest day for you and your family. We are here for you all day today in spirit and whenever you need us.

[Faithful Mumma]

Thinking & praying for you today. xoxo

[LionsandBears]

Thinking of you. Sending peace and strength.

[beansbeans!]

thinking of you and your family at this time

[Diamond Girl]

I am so incredibly sorry to hear your news.

Thinking of you and your precious little one at this very sad time.

[blessedatlast]

I am so so sorry. Please know there we are here to support you through what no parent should have to face.. Much love, peace and strength to you, your family and your little baby

[Miss.B]

I am so very sorry your bubbie couldn't stay here with you any longer . My tears are flowing, I feel your agony and pain. Thinking of you and please know that we are here to support you through this very very difficult time.

I would also suggest taking lots of photos and more importantly have lots of cuddles. I am so very sorry hun, it just breaks my heart hearing of other parents' losses.

[MrsBexie]

Thinking of you today...

[*Efjay*]

I have spoke with the midwife where she is, she has settled in for the night, she has an early start. Apparently she is being very brave.
I keep you all updated best I can with anything she is ok with me sharing.

[feeb]

I have spoke with the midwife where she is, she has settled in for the night, she has an early start. Apparently she is being very brave.
I keep you all updated best I can with anything she is ok with me sharing.

Thank you for letting us know, let her know we are all here to support her and are thinking of her xoxo

[Kazbah]

Thinking of you today, tomorrow and the days after. My heart and tears are with you, in this short journey as you meet and farewell your little one

[beckoes]

im so sorry you are going through this, i send you strength and hugs.

[diannescruffy]

Thanks for letting us know Efjay. Please pass on our love.

Regards,
Dianne
Emmanuel born sleeping @24wks
Trisomy 13

[*Efjay*]

She sent me a message earlier this morning, Nothing has started yet, apparently it was a busy night with births. Which would have been hard. She seems "ok", keeps saying she knows the worst is yet to come.