But Lulu, sometimes parents don't realise that teenagers are alot smarter than we give them credit for. She sounds like she's got a good head on her shoulders and spose could be doing alot worse than what she is. She would realise the pressure your under with babies. Although my mother and I had some very heated moments when I was a teenager I had the sort of relationship with her where nothing was kept from her, she knew everything I was doing, where I was etc and I absolutely loved being able to do what I wanted just as long as I honest with her. I hopethat when my dd is older I will have the same relationship with her I believe there is still ways for mother and daughter to be friends as well as being able to be mother and daughter with boundaries/rules and consequences. Also I forgot to say in my last post.. she's 15.. and this is pretty much what all 15 year olds these days go through...just be thankful she's not hanging around with boys much older than she is. Hopefully my opinion has helped as im still young (not that you girls are old lol) even though I don't have a child as of yet...