Jazzed,

From what I've read you sound like a very loving mother with a very big heart. It must be tearing you apart your dd behaving like that when you are trying so hard to help them.

Teenagers are so hard to talk to in my opinion, they all think they know better at that age, I remember, I thought I was so right all the time at that age.

Just remember to tell yourself that you are not the bad guy and what ever you decide to do, if thats to have a talk to them and tell them your serious and things have to change, or its to kick them both out, you always finish off with the words 'I Love you'. One day when shes a lot more mature, she will hopefully remember that you said that and relies how she was behaving was wrong. I am dreading the day my two girls grow up and become teenagers. Someone gave me great advice one day and that was, we arn't here just to be our children's friends, we are here to teach and guide them, so one day when they are old enough to go out in the big-scary-world they will be ready.