oh my gosh i feel soo bad for her!! life is so cruel when your that age and especially when your own friend is the one that is bullying you around.. my mum used to step in with me and i used to just stay behind but it became more frequent till i did something myself in which was a massive explosion maybe tell your daughter to remove herself from that person for abit and if it keeps up maybe then you will have to alert her school authorities as this is definently a form of bullying which i understand is not tolerated... i hope she is ok the poor girl
I'd stay out of it. Maybe talk to the mum if you know her. Let her know its not on, its bullying and you will take further action, let the school know.
tough call.
Personally I don't think you should say anything to the other girl. You may be able to approach the girls parents about the issue - depending on how well you think you would be recieved. Otherwise a better idea might be to approach the school and progress things that way. They may be able to help provide some kind of mediation, or anti-bullying strategy. Things like this have a way of progressing quickly and suddenly.
It is good that you have a good enough relationship with your DD that she feels she can share this with you, many teenagers would not.
Do they go to the same school? Does the school have a policy on cyber-bullying? Because that's what it is. You may not have to get involved personally, but there may be a way to approach it through the school.
i think in a way it was easier for us without the internet and mobile phones, etc etc. but girls can just be real nasty and i really don't know what you can do. if only we could put all our confidence and knowledge into their brains then they'd be o.k.
i hoe your daughter can cope and learn to ignore the nasty girls. goodluck
Hi Abb,
I just wanted to let you know I understand your emotions as a parent. I have a 17 yr son. And for most of his school years he was bullied. It really started because he was a bright confident boy who even as a 6 year old was cheeky and had a quick wit. It made him a target. Once it was out there that he was fun to bully it seemed to follow him no matter where we went. We even moved an hour away after his father died and things didn't change. For the first couple of years I stood up for him, spoke to the parents of the kids and had meetings with the schools. I even got him councilling thinking it was maybe something he was doing. You get to a stage where you clutch at straws. In the end I decided that perhaps I was making the situation worse rather than helping. It was here that I decided that he should start fighting his own battles because the world isn't fair and yes life can be cruel.
As it turned out I made the right decision. I was always here for him ready with a cuddle and a hanky if need be and an ice cream if it was really bad, advice if it was asked for. Making him stand up for himself and letting him fight his own battles was the right thing to do. I think the first year of high school was the worst. He would often come home quiet and sullen. Being a teenager would never share. Then there was a turning in the tide.
He became confident and sure of himself. And because he stopped letting people dictate how he should feel he started making some good friends.
Now at 17 he is confident and popular and he will always stand up for the bully.
Standing back was the hardest thing to do, but it was the right thing. He was embarressed everytime I helped and if he did need help he asked.
I know it is cold comfort when your feeling the pressure but it does get better and the best advice I could give is just to be there when she calls even if it is just for a cuddle.
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