Out with older people (boys+ girls, mainly boys though) in cars?
No
Would you let them go away for a weekend with friends?
As long as I had spoken to the parents.
Just hanging out at shopping centres on a regular basis?
Yes
Drinking?
No

With my DD#1 I just gradually increase her privliages, even she wouldn't notice. She is going on a plane to see her aunty tomorrow by herself
If my dd came home after all that stuff I would still not allow it! I see it as rewarding bad behaviour.
My DD always tells me she wants to move out, but I have mentioned to her that moving out to go and live with someone elses parents is not really moving out, it's being a burden on someone else! It's not growing up and becoming independant, it's mooching! I tell her if she wants more priviages becasue she is getting older she needs to take on more responsability around the house to earn it.

Do you have any way of contacting the ppl she is with? I would ask them why they find it so easy to take your DD from a loving home? Why they didn't ask you if there was trouble at home before taking her in... they probably think they are wonderful taking in a troubled teen. Have you called the police?


Tanya