MASSIVE double teenager vent

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

Jeez hun, it's a wonder you're not a mad woman!! My youngest sister sounds the same - doesn't matter what you do for her, it's never even acknowledged, but god help us if we DON'T do something!

Cyber chocolates and alcohol for you

[diannescruffy]

Lulu big to you hun, you are doing a great job raising your girls and one day DD will realise the hard work you have put into her and say thank you.

Regards,
Dianne

[Tinks]

Maybe give her 50cents out of her youth a allowance a fortnight with a note listing what it's been used for. I'm only guessing here, but after bills, food, house payments etc she'd be lucky to have 5c left

[The[cookie]Doctor]

Wholly Moley... tough gig Lu. You are doing a great job mate Hopefully Bell will come to her senses soon enough and realise that her attitude wont get her anywhere.

LOL @ Tinkerbell, I would do that too hah!!

[feeb]

Well done hun on setting centrelink straight on what she is doing.

Huge hugs I hope she decides to be a nice DD soon.

xoxoxo

[kirsty_lee]

babe!! Teenagers eh.. Im definately NOT looking forward to it. She's already a teenager some days NOW as it is lol

[Bathsheba]

Oh Lulu! you have my total sympathy and understanding. Our once sweet and agreeabe DD has also morphed into a similar creature as your DD. However at least it has never occured to her to demand the CentreLink payments that we get for her.... sheesh!!!! Does any child ever really get them??? Our DD is fully aware that every cent from Centrelink goes straight into her education.... and now that she has decided that she wants to stay at her school there is no pushing boundaries where money is concerned ('cos it costs a bloody fortune!). I would maybe find out how many kids her age actually do get CL payments.... and how many actually have to pay their parents (if they have a job). When my DD was modelling she only saw about 10% of it.... the rest went into paying for her living expenses.

Hold tight to your sanity Lulu... "This Too Shall Pass!"

[Bathsheba]

double post

[Lulu]

Well I'm surprisingly calm about it lately which is probably doing her head in.

She is an absolute testament to stubbornness - for a month she has gone without chocolate, ANTM, computer and sat out there in the most revolting mess eating 2 minute noodles and sneaking in for breakfast every morning.
Dp, who is hopelessly soft and forgives her for everything has had enough and teased her relentlessly all weekend.....

[Epacris]

Fair Dinkum hey.... massive hugs Lulu stay strong (we're all here for you). I hope your DD gets over whatever it is she needs to get over soon.

[Marlene]

Oh Lulu...I know exactly what you are going through hun, my DD started demanding the YA payments before she even turned 16 and could even get YA payments...LOL. It got to the point where it was so infuriating that I didnt even apply for them, LOL. It meant a small drop in our money each f/n but at least I didnt have her demanding "her" money every f/n...HAHAHAHA.
Anyway, as you know, she left home only a couple of months after turning 16 so it was a moot point really anyway. C/link also rang me asking if it was 'unreasonable' for her to live at home as she had tried to get that payment as well, I told them that she ran away and was welcome back anytime...so she didn't get it.

for you hun...I truly know how heartbreaking it is! You are doing a FANTASTIC job, I parented my DD almost exactly as you have with yours...leniency, with boundaries...but of course it was never enough, they are never happy with what they have, they just want more, more, more!!

By the way....her and her boyfriend have now decided they didnt like his parents rules either, so they have took off (while his parents weren't home) and went to live in his grandparents granny flat in their backyard!! Wonder where they will go when their rules get too hard to follow.

Thank goodness you still have your DD there with you and you know she is safe. My DD has had no contact (and refused all my attempts to even try) since October. The sad thing is her baby brother won't even know who she is.

[Jennifer13]

Well I'm surprisingly calm about it lately which is probably doing her head in.

She is an absolute testament to stubbornness - for a month she has gone without chocolate, ANTM, computer and sat out there in the most revolting mess eating 2 minute noodles and sneaking in for breakfast every morning.

Now I wonder who she sounds like?

Seriously, hun, as frustrating as this is, you have made your decision and she has made hers and you are both as stubborn as each other. If you think you are doing the right thing to get the kind of outcome you would like (ie in the way she accepts responsibility) then I say continue to make your stand. But if you don't think this is going to help her (think long term) then perhaps it's time to think of another way to get what you want for her. Also, if you are asking for her to treat you with respect, then I think it's fair that she be treated respectfully as well. Which I'm sure you try to do, but with her slightly underdeveloped emotional brain it may not always seem that way to her.

this BTW from the woman who has to remind herself not to fight a 3 year old on the 5th change of clothes in one day...! (So feel free to ignore me - I'm just remembering what I was like as a teenager).