Oh Lulu...I know exactly what you are going through hun, my DD started demanding the YA payments before she even turned 16 and could even get YA payments...LOL. It got to the point where it was so infuriating that I didnt even apply for them, LOL. It meant a small drop in our money each f/n but at least I didnt have her demanding "her" money every f/n...HAHAHAHA.
Anyway, as you know, she left home only a couple of months after turning 16 so it was a moot point really anyway. C/link also rang me asking if it was 'unreasonable' for her to live at home as she had tried to get that payment as well, I told them that she ran away and was welcome back anytime...so she didn't get it.
for you hun...I truly know how heartbreaking it is! You are doing a FANTASTIC job, I parented my DD almost exactly as you have with yours...leniency, with boundaries...but of course it was never enough, they are never happy with what they have, they just want more, more, more!!
By the way....her and her boyfriend have now decided they didnt like his parents rules either, so they have took off (while his parents weren't home) and went to live in his grandparents granny flat in their backyard!! Wonder where they will go when their rules get too hard to follow.
Thank goodness you still have your DD there with you and you know she is safe. My DD has had no contact (and refused all my attempts to even try) since October. The sad thing is her baby brother won't even know who she is.
Lulu - i am dredding this time to come with my dd she will be 13 this year and i can already see little things erupting in her. You are doing an amazing job and you are remaining strong and not backing down which is half the battle and problem with some familys these days (imo). i hope 18 comes fast for you and the muturity that hopefully comes along with age.
Marlene - big to you also. I left home when i was 16 as i didnt want to live under my parents rules. My mum said to me if you want to leave go, i will not help you but when you want to come home under our roof with our rules i will help you move home. I think i was gone about 2 - 3 months and i returned. I totally regret the way i treated my mother and now we have the best relationship, infact we live only 10 houses from each other. I just wanted to let you know that hopefully one day (fingers crossed its sooner rather than later) she will realise how much her family means to her.
Lulu, well done hun, well done. I must say that Joshua does pull the sweet and loving thing when he wants something too....hasn't been too bad lately...better stay that way too.
As for the whole payment issue....OMG I seriously think that so many of these govt. rules etc only encourage and enable kids to act out and become the way that a lot of them are....THEN it's the pollies and govt. who go on about how bad the young of today are and how rude etc.....ummmm HELLO WAKE UP YOU ARE ENABLING THEM D***HEADS!
for you hun...I truly know how heartbreaking it is! You are doing a FANTASTIC job, I parented my DD almost exactly as you have with yours...leniency, with boundaries...but of course it was never enough, they are never happy with what they have, they just want more, more, more!!
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