my daughter recently had her 7th b'day and got $20 from her g'father in a card, usually i would put the money straight into my purse, but this time, i just shoved it in the kitchen draw with some receipts i was keeping safe as i was busy at the time.

yesterday morning, i noted the $20 was there, i even touched it! later that afternoon i took my son (13yo) to his mates place for the night and came home. a little later for some reason or another, i went looking for the $20, it's not there, so i asked the other kids individually if they knew where it was, did anyone take it, i wasn't mad i was just worried as it was 7yos b'day money, no one else seemed to know anything, in fact the younger boys didn't know what i was talking about.

so what to do, i haven't approached 13yo yet, and i know he will instantly say no, he didn't touch it, take it or know it was there ..

over the past 12mths i've noticed small amounts go missing, usually just gold coins from the car or if they're left around they're claimed, never big amounts and usually i don't say anything as we don't have a pocket money system (too many kids, not enough money) and i understand that being his first yr in high school he may not want to appear "poor" or something .. i don't know, i'm grasping ..

so .. i need advice .. miss 12 is adamant she has no idea so i can only move onto mr 13y as he pushed to go to his mates place ..

i guess at the end of the day, if no one fesses up, i have to replace the $20 and live with the disappointment