Thanks Lulu!!!!

Well, I have drawn on all the experiences on BB and last night we gave her some options - we have told her that she is welcome to explore options such as shared houses (unlikely given that she doesn't have an income) but presuming she can't find a room, then:

a) You come to Woodend with us but you sleep in the shed for a month as a consequence of all the crap that you've put out in the last however many months. I'm sick of living with a compulsive liar and bull**** artist and don't need this crap. (using yours and TMTM's strategy of keeping them separate to main house). The shed is not glam but it does have electricity and a wood heater. It would kill her to live there when she would have her own bathroom in the main house.

b) You go back to your mum. I will happily pay the airfare and take you to the airport tomorrow.

c) You go to boarding school (thank you Bath for that option) provided that your mum/grandparents come to the party on the fees. (Her grandparents are quite wealthy and have offered to put her through college as they have for all their other grandkids so I don't feel that we would be taking advantage).

She's currently a bit rattled. She knows we wouldn't kick her out on the streets but knows that I'm bloody-minded enough to make her live in the shed until she decides she can follow our rules.