Oh don't worry, I remained calm during the tirade. She said things designed to hurt and it sorta worked, mainly cos her intention was to hurt me and I certainly don't deserve to be hurt like that.

I'm still calm, but I have decided to withdraw further. She will be given a fortnightly allowance for basic needs. This includes feeding herself. I'm not having her getting the best of both worlds. If she can't contribute to helping with the meals (packing dishwasher) or sweeping the floor or tidying the lounge room here and there, she cannot enjoy the benefits of living here. She can remain outside in her unit.

Even if she apologises and looks contrite I don't care, this is going to stay in place for a month, and will continue until I feel strong enough to face another barrage of abuse (which may be never). I have SO much on my plate, full time study that's nearly over so I'm going crazy with assesments and the little ones have been going a bit nutty since mummy isn't around so much now. She can bloody well fend for herself long term.