Why is there a need to sleep over? If the concept of trust cannot be understood or devloped in the parent child relationship then why give the opportunity?

The parent is responsible just as much as the surrogate for the night ut for different reasons.

So often at work we see young girls heading out with Country Road bags with the clothes they left in-in the bag and the outfit no one knew about on! Many a party that mum and dad didn't even know about and now some lagered kids (boys and girls) unonscious on the lawn of someone else's place. In the well to do areas I've worked in, even while mum an dad aren't even in the country!

It's so hard to corral them in with a different perpective of what constitue discipline against a healthy parent child relationship.