uummm, such a tough one.. but I have to say, I lay the responsibility with the parents.

I have raised good kids, but they they will (and do) follow their friends...

But I also know there friends. One of my daughters friends is a real ... well, b!tch.... and is free to do as she pleases (at 12!!!) stays home alone a LOT, talks back (yes to us too!) and we really dont like her. So my girl is not allowed over there. She can come here, but she cannot go out with her. She has other friends who are being raised simular to how we are raising our kids, so we feel safe allowing our kids to go there.

I think part of being resposible is knowing there friends, and YOU make the choice as to whether they can roam together or not. If I allow my daughter to hang with this particular girl, then I am fully aware of the trouble they could get into, making ME responsible, not the other family.

I have full access to the 2 teens mobiles and FB pages, and all thier friends mobile numbers. They know I will, and do, call them, their freinds or parents if I think something is up. They are free to visit, sleepover and have friends here, as long as they play by the rules... so far, so good.... but I dont expect it to last!!!

There will be no sneaking out here... the downstairs windows are bolted shut, and we set the alarm at night... Plus with the little ones, we are up and down all night anyway!!

I am very lucky that in this house, the kids would rather have friends over here, then go to there houses. They have all downstairs to them sleves, with a bathroom, kithenette, loungeroom, tele, PC, pool table and big 8 seater spa....I love having the kids stay home and having friends come here, then have them out and about... this town is going to hell in a handbasket, and I much prefer the kids here with heaps to do, then out roaming a such a crap and dangerous town...