baby was born at home at 8:55pm Sunday night after a 45hour labour (start to finish). By 4pm the following day, my BIL has invited himself over, sat on our couch talking about himself for an hour and then asked DH for a ride to the train station. Later that evening, SIL and my closest girlfriend came around, both quick visits.
The following morning, my parents and brother were coming from interstate to meet DS. Dad told us they'd be here at 10am and that they'd hire a car so they could say hello, spend some time with DS, go out and get us some lunch then come back for another visit in the afternoon before going back to their hotel and fly home the following morning. Their flight arrived at 9:30am but rather than come around, they all went out for brunch and showed up at our place at 1:30pm without bothering to call or message. They also didn't bring us any lunch. Dad told me he'd make a sandwich, I told him we didn't have any bread and his response was 'oh'. They stayed for 5 hours. My mum nursed DS the entire time. Time *I* should have been cuddling him.
The Wednesday FIL and 2 of DHs teenage siblings came to visit from interstate. Again, they showed up over a meal time. Lunch. DH suggested that his Dad go down the street to get some groceries for lunch...FIL responded with, 'oh don't worry about us! We ate McDonalds on the way here!' DH told him no, food for US. FIL just looked confused, then suggested we ALL GO OUT FOR SOME DINNER LATER ON!! DS hadn't yet worn clothes and FIL was suggesting going out for a meal?!?
The Thursday my older sister was going to come and meet DS, I told a girlfriend not to come on that day because I wanted my older sister, who has been estranged from the family for periods, to have time with DS. She didn't show up. No call, no text. I was angry but relieved to have a day with no visitors.
Friday, my birthday, a girlfriend came around and brought her two toddlers. While DS slept, her girls took everything off our shelves, played with wooden toys on our wooden floors (noisy!) and my 'friend' sent some other friend SMSes. After sitting for awhile, obviously bored and annoyed she didn't get to cuddle the baby, she said 'he's probably wet - you should change him.' Wake up my 5 day old baby to change his nappy so you can hold him? Uh. No.
Next time, I'll be insisting on no visitors for at least 5 days.
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