Hi leigh,
I hope your friend is doing ok. I was sort of in a similar situation, I found out I was pregnant only 4 months after meeting my now DH. We were shocked (and only 19) and soooo scared. It didnt go down so great with the family at first but we all stuck together and supported eachother and now we cant imagine life any other way.
Last year my two sisters found out they were pregnant, one is 21 and the other almost 23. One sister decided after 8 weeks that she would keep her baby, she is in a relationship with a great guy who is 30 and although they had only been seeing eachother for a couple of months, they worked it out and are now happier than ever. My other sister decided it was just not possible to have a baby and she had an abortion. I also found out I was pregnant at this time, so my poor mum had 3 daughters pregnant, each with different feelings about it and each ending with a different outcome, 1 birth, 1 abortion and 1 m/c. Crazy time. Although it was hard to imagine someone not wanting their baby, I understood that this was the best thing for her. And watching my other sister go on to have a smooth pregnancy was a little hard, but meeting my nephew has been amazing and I love him so much. I guess no matter what happens, you just have to surround yourself with supportive people, listen to eachother and trust that what you feel you need to do is the right thing.
I really hope your friend is ok and has supportive people around her, she is lucky to have you, you sound like a very supportive and understanding friend, even though you are having a difficult time yourself.
And I hope you are ok, even when I didnt feel so jealous about certain people who announced their pregnancies, it can still be hard to see someone in a position (pg)that you wish so much you were in.
My friend went to the dr yesterday and is waiting for her bloodtest results. She still hasnt told her boyfriend yet, she's waiting to get the results from the dr first, plus she's still trying to figure out how to tell him because she is scared. She has told her mum, her mum was shocked and had a go at her saying why wasnt she more careful etc but knowing her mum she'll be fine once she is over the shock. She's had a bit of spotting for the last few days so hopefully things work out ok, I have a good feeling about it.
My god we have another thing in common, my DH and I were only together for about 4 months too when I fell pregnant. I remember I was so scared to tell him but like you it all worked out for the best and we couldnt be happier.
Have you ovulated yet? When I told you on Sunday that my opk was almost positive I think I may have reached the surge that night (although I didnt test later that night) but ever since my opks are getting lighter and on monday I had a temp drop and now yesterday and today they are up really high. I didnt get to bd yesterday and my DH is asleep at the moment coz he's just come off night shift. He's got to go back to work at 5 pm so I told him when he came to bed this morning that I would be in around 3:30 to BD. God I hate having to plan doing it like this. It takes all the fun out of it. I want to keep bd-ing just in case I havent o'd yet.
I have had a **** morning! I started bleeding this morning, quite heavy and had no idea why! I should be ovulating right now, which I was pretty sure I was because my left ovary was sore (it always is at the time of ovulation). Anyway, I rang my FS (a friend of the family) and he said to come right in and have a scan. So I did and he noticed that my uterine lining was a bit thinker than normal for this stage of my cycle and there were a few whiter marks which indicate that there is still some thick blood and tissue left over from the m/c in Jan. He said that it will probably pass with the next AF, which I can expect in about 14 days. But the bad news is that there is really only a small chance of conception this month, due to bleeding and thick lining, . What a waste of clomid!
Anyway, im going to keep my spirits up and try again next month. Its got to happen one day. Maybe next month will be the month. But I really hope it all goes well for you and get a soon
I hope it all works out with your friend too. Somehow things have a way of working out, eventually!
Oh Issy, it sounds like you had a terrible morning yesterday, don't give up hope on conceiving this month. Usually it's the months where you least expect to fall pregnant that you actually do. My fingers are x'd for both of us!!! I'm not sure if I have ovulated now coz my temp went back down this morning, Im just so scared im going to miss it. I bought some digital ovulation tests Tuesday and there are 7 in the pack. Ive been doing 2 a day though so I'll only have enough to get me through til Fri morning. Ive been getting negatives on them. I'd like to buy another pack but theyre $50, Lucky DH doesnt know how much money I waste on opk's and hpt's every month. Over the last few years I must have spent thousands. Anyway DH has the weekend off so we should be right to BD every day until at least Monday, Im not sure about today though. Hopefully by Monday I would've definitely o'd. My friend went for a scan last night. They couldnt see anything so they dont know if she has had a miscarriage or she's not far enough along to pick anything up on a scan. She's sick of waiting, she'd love to know if she is or not. So she is back to the Dr today who im guessing will send her for more bloodtests to see if her hcg is rising. He didnt tell her what level it was at the other day.
Well the bleeding only lasted a day, thankgod, I didnt want it to continue for days only to have AF arrive 2 weeks later! Anyway, im glad to relax on the TTC front for the month, and will start again when everything calms down. Im not sure if I will try clomid again next month as I dont want to over stimuate my ovaries. Taking it puts me at a higher risk of twins, especially cause I already ovulate most of the time (depending on what ovary ov for the month). So ill just ride it out and see how we go.
I know what you mean by the way about buying opk's and hpt. I have bought so many over the last 2 years, that I must have spent hundred and hundreds of $. Unfortunately DH knows about them all and I have had plenty of lectures about buying them too. I just hate waiting for AF to come and would rather know what is going on. However after a few early m/c, Im not sure if I will do that anymore. I think I will just wait until im at leat a month over, and then test, that way if I get AF at any time in between, early m/c or not, I wont know anything about it and can just move on, save me emotionally!
Anyway, have you ovulated yet? I hope you do soon and get in there and bd like no tomorrow!!! Its all for a good cause!
I dont know what is going on with me ovulating. I was using Confirm opk's which were giving me positives on Wed but I was also using internet cheapies and the digital opk's which were giving me negatives. I've since run out of Confirm opk's and have continued to use i.c's and digital but they keep giving me negatives as well. I used my last digital today. DH and I have been b-ding so hopefully I havent missed it if I have o'd. My temp chart doesnt indicate that I have o'd but I dont take my temp at the exact same time everyday. I usually do it anywhere from 6am - 6:30am so maybe that's why my charts not showing it. I guess only time will tell. Im on clomid too, even though I ovulate on my own my Dr said it was worth a try. This is my 2nd cycle on it and the first cycle I o'd on CD14. Im now CD15. I take clomid on CD2 - CD6. Yeah I keep telling myself that Im going to hold off testing until way after AF to save me the heartbreak of miscarriages but Im way too anxious to hold off on testing and always start testing around 7dpo. I cant help myself, even though I know Im going to get negative results.
My friend has started bleeding heavy today and with nothing showing up on her scan the other day it looks like she's either had a miscarriage or in the middle of one. She is the only other friend I know that has had a miscarriage and as cruel as it sounds it now feels good to have a friend who's had one and knows what it is like. At least if I have another one (which I pray I never have another one) at least I can talk to her about it coz has been through it.
Sorry to hear about your friend's loss, at least she has you to be there for her.
A word of advice about the HPT's. You really need to make rules for yourself about testing, or else it will become a very expensive hobby. After a while I used to have a rule that I would only test if I was late, or on the day my AF was due and was getting symptoms (always got those on non pregnant cycles), or if I experienced what looked like an implantation dip in my cycle (I had these with both this pregnancy and the one prior, but never in a non pregnant one). It saved a lot of money and anguish with testing and getting BFN. Also, those predictor kits just don't work for some women so it might be worth your while to stop using them. Are you getting EWCM? That was my best indicator. Whenever I saw that around O I would fall pregnant (I didn't get it every month so it was a sure sign for me).
Good luck to you this month, I hope this is your lucky one.
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I should be ovulating right now, which I was pretty sure I was because my left ovary was sore (it always is at the time of ovulation). Anyway, I rang my FS (a friend of the family) and he said to come right in and have a scan. So I did and he noticed that my uterine lining was a bit thinker than normal for this stage of my cycle and there were a few whiter marks which indicate that there is still some thick blood and tissue left over from the m/c in Jan. He said that it will probably pass with the next AF, which I can expect in about 14 days. But the bad news is that there is really only a small chance of conception this month, due to bleeding and thick lining, 
. What a waste of clomid! 
soon 
Its all for a good cause!
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