i'm pregnant again after silent miscarriage and i'm terrified!!!

[*LittleMissSummer*]

Hi Aprel. the only advice i have for you is try not to worry take every day as it comes. And talk to your doctor if you feel worried about anything. I wish you a happy healthy pregnancy

[cheekyfrog]

I had a missed miscarriage too, just a bit before 12 weeks. And like you, I was excited but terrified when I fell pregnant again. I was a bit over the top, kept doing HPTs, kept temping, had several blood tests and asked for an eye to be kept on progesterone levels, had early scans... Worried my way through to the 20 weeks scan and only then began to relax a little! So my advice would be to join the PAML thread where it will be okay to express your worries and you'll get plenty of support. And avoid sad stories of pregnancies going awry, if you can.

Sending you lots of and wishing you a happy, healthy and trouble-free pregnancy!

[SuperstarMumsy]

Hi Aprel

I am in the same boat as you so cant offer any words of wisdom, but I can let you know you are not alone! I just found out I am UTD again after a MC in June (I too had to have a D&C) and I too had no bleeding so I was none the wiser that we had lost the bub! I just wanted to let you know I am feeling sick in the stomach the same thing is going to happen again - which is my worst nightmare! When are you due, maybe we will be in the same BB group! I am also thinking of joining the pregnancy after loss group - helps when others are going through the same feelings as you! Good luck and try to enjoy your miracle! x

[zstar]

hi aprel

congrats on your pregnancy! i m/c in april this year and am now 9 wks pg. i have heard of so many m/c at or around 12 weeks. i have had 3 scans already. my ob is great. i just had one on monday because i had been having brown discharge for a week. do what you need to get by. as i said to dh - i don't care if i have to pay - small price to stop worrying. i am taking it all one day at a time and talking to my bub heaps. i believe in the power of the mind and staying positive. fight til the end. you hang in there and take good care of yourself. join the PAML thread. great bunch of women there and they have all been through loss. all the best.

[belfie]

Hi Aprel,

I had the same thing as you - a missed miscarriage at 10.5 weeks (I SO felt PG still!) and had no idea such things could happen. I agree with what the others said, get early scans. With my next PG i had a horror first tri with bleeding and spotting - I think I had about 5 scans in the end! But it went on to be fine (and that bub is now 11 months old)! So firstly, even if it gets rocky, it doesn't mean it's all over. And you will feel different with each PG and it's really easy to worry or read more into it. Secondly, try to schedule yourself something nice each week of your first tri... so maybe a shopping treat one week, or a movie... or something fun that you'll look forward to. It's normal to be nervous, but having other positive things can help distract you from worrying and fretting as much. You need to do what gets YOU through it and feeling ok, so if that means an extra scan or two - then do it. I bawled in a doctors waiting room to get one of mine, I was just so petrified that I'd lost the bub - but it was all fine, and I felt better after the scan. And yes, the PAML thread is great, as everyone understands... and often a lot better than friends or family might if they haven't had a m/c before.

Congrats on your PG, and all the best. I won't tell you not to worry, cos I know it's easier said than done, but it feels like forever while you're there - but just look forward to second trimester, cos it's so much easier to enjoy

[CrazyLady]

Hi Aprel. the only advice i have for you is try not to worry take every day as it comes. And talk to your doctor if you feel worried about anything. I wish you a happy healthy pregnancy

Most obs would be happy to give you extra monitoring if you tell them your past history in pregnancy. Do try not to stress too ( I know easy to say) as all you can do is take it day to day.