congrats on your pregnancy! i m/c in april this year and am now 9 wks pg. i have heard of so many m/c at or around 12 weeks. i have had 3 scans already. my ob is great. i just had one on monday because i had been having brown discharge for a week. do what you need to get by. as i said to dh - i don't care if i have to pay - small price to stop worrying. i am taking it all one day at a time and talking to my bub heaps. i believe in the power of the mind and staying positive. fight til the end. you hang in there and take good care of yourself. join the PAML thread. great bunch of women there and they have all been through loss. all the best.
I had the same thing as you - a missed miscarriage at 10.5 weeks (I SO felt PG still!) and had no idea such things could happen. I agree with what the others said, get early scans. With my next PG i had a horror first tri with bleeding and spotting - I think I had about 5 scans in the end! But it went on to be fine (and that bub is now 11 months old)! So firstly, even if it gets rocky, it doesn't mean it's all over. And you will feel different with each PG and it's really easy to worry or read more into it. Secondly, try to schedule yourself something nice each week of your first tri... so maybe a shopping treat one week, or a movie... or something fun that you'll look forward to. It's normal to be nervous, but having other positive things can help distract you from worrying and fretting as much. You need to do what gets YOU through it and feeling ok, so if that means an extra scan or two - then do it. I bawled in a doctors waiting room to get one of mine, I was just so petrified that I'd lost the bub - but it was all fine, and I felt better after the scan. And yes, the PAML thread is great, as everyone understands... and often a lot better than friends or family might if they haven't had a m/c before.
Congrats on your PG, and all the best. I won't tell you not to worry, cos I know it's easier said than done, but it feels like forever while you're there - but just look forward to second trimester, cos it's so much easier to enjoy
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