Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss Jan 2010
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A new month, a new thread. I wrote my response in December, went to post it, and it had been closed!
Ciara - it's funny how all those things we whine about in regular AF season are the same things we look forward to and get so excited about when on that TTC ship. Don't test too soon - it's safer to wait. (good things come to those who wait!).
Murraycod - it's very common that after a PMP the hcg takes a long time to drop - I think they normally predict about 56 days from D&C - the 96 was 50 days after the D&C - so it is dropping slower than would be expected, however my ob is happy that is is dropping. But at this rate, I estimate I wont be "negative" until late Feb.
May this be a better thread for all!
Just sending some good luck your way for this new year - It's time for you to all move to the paml thread!
Thanks for your good wishes...things are going very well for me (finally!) so I am more than happy to stop in and drop off baby dust and sticky vibes!
Hi Cookie my love! I have been thinking of you over here in Japan. Your levels are taking a while to come down - you're not on the pill or anything, are you? You already know all my "tricks" that i used to get mine down (I don't know if they worked or not) What's your doc saying about the levels? I was thinking of you because my official all-clear date is in three days time and I wanted to come online and let you know that the last three months have FLOWN past - the first three after diagnosis were horrid, and they crawled, but the last three have been eeeeeasy. So hang in there matey!
Murraycod - go team baby cod! Injections hurt less the faster you jam the needle in too. You may have figured that out already. I used to look after a little diabetic, so I'm in on a few of the tricks.
Sorry others for no persies - I'm flat out! I've been feeling a little bit sick, but can't tell if that's motion sickness from the bullet trains, or too much dairy (yes, guilt, I am back on the dairy over here, not heaps though) or if maybe it's something else.
Snugglybean, my angel, I hope you are having an amazing time - and I hope the queasiness is caused by a little bean! I'm touched that you've managed to take a few moments in your trip to think about me. (and I've been missing you!) My ob is surprised that my levels are taking so long to fall, but content with the fact that my levels are consistently going down, especially considering the clean us I had at the beginning of Dec. Glad to hear that the last 3 months flew by - I could use some of that over here - I've got some party poppers here left over from New Years, I'll pop some for you in 3 days!
Snugglybean, I know you are having a well deserved and great holiday, but I soooo miss you
I loved the Team Baby Cod comment XXXX
If Cookie pops a party streamer for you, I will join in on the fun and pop an Ovary!!!
PS: Loomis says Hi "woof" "woof"!!
TinaR Thank You you are so thaughtful and we much appreciate you looking in over us X
Cookie Feb won't be too far away, We are all here to keep you in good company untill......always X
Oh, and Thanks Inanna for the new thread XXXXX Nice and Fresh!
Cookie, you're right.. good things do come to those who wait. I just hope i can hang out! haha.. it is funny how we love to feel the symptoms if we think it could be a baby starting its journey, but if we just think it's AF, we hate it LOL. weird. And regarding your levels not dropping - all i can say for you is GRRRRRRRRR. Stupid body doing what we DON'T want it to do. Why can our bodies just do what we want the
m to do!! haha, wishful thinking hey.
murraycod - thanks. too exciting when you feel there's a possibility.. i guess every cycle feels like a possibility though doesn't it?
Snugglybean - hope it is pregnancy sickness, not anything else! hehe, that would be awesome! Look after yourself
cool new thread for new beginnings!
hey ladies - just a quick question for the melbourne girls.... can you recommend a good ob? my ob was lovely but far too laid back for me especially after our loss...any suggestions??
spf - have you tested again???
AFM - 2 days into my 2ww... so far so good!!! a friend of mine delivered a healthy baby boy today! very excited for them as they had a loss this time last year!!! gives me hope that i too can get thru this and have a healthy bub!!! xx
To all the new ladies welcome sorry you have to be in here but we all in the same boat as to speak and we know how hard it can be at times in the ttc game !
Ferrals thanks for the info think I am better not knowing at this rate will wait till I am 6 mnths post mc and go check it out then if im not UTD !
Murraycod go girl keep that positive attitude going and you will be rewarded !
T hopes think I am in the TWW with you I am on day 18 so only 10 days left for me and I hate testing unless I am late so will not be testing for at least 10m\ more days
Good luck to all of us in the TWW lets hope some more of us get to move over to a paml page !
snuggly hi glad your having a good hol hope its morning sickness !
sunbeam so sorry about your bt results
Nice to hear again from mummy of 4 how you doing I often think of you as my friend just lost her baby and I remember how sad your story is ! hope your coping ok !
Ric hello glad your still around hope your soon sorted and get a BFP and move over with the rest of us this year
AFM well my guinea pig gave birth in the night so we got up to twins this morning so tiny and so cute I hope the pregnancy vibes rub off on me now ! but I can wait there are lots on here need a BFP before me I will wait !
Speak soon
Last edited by craftymummy9; January 6th, 2010 at 12:26 AM.
Thanks everyone for you kind thoughts..
I am just so angry now.. i know that that is a part of it all and i should let it out but gee.I take it out on everyone and i think it is startign to **** people off.. I think i am mainly angry at myself i still blame me for kyarna dying and now i have me to blame for not being able to get the BFP...
sorry no point at all to this post and i know that most of you have been in here trying for so much longer than me... it is just so frustrating
again im sorry just had to tell someone
Hello Ladies.... Glad see a new thread also..
You all have welcomed me in with open arms and that is very sweet and nice of you all..
Thanks...
I went and did my blood work waiting for Dr lentini to come in so i can get the result sof my HGC levels to see if they have dropped off.. were hoping they did so we can go back to TTC.. if i dont hear about them today then ill know about them on Jan 7th...
Is it crazy ? that im hoping they tell me that my Hgc levels are high and that its saying im prego again... im sure that cant happen after 7 days of losing alittle one...
I think again its just me wanting to fill the emptiness i have in me since the loss of the lil one..
I dont know but either way we arent giving up
~Mummyof4~...Oh sweetie don't blame your self .. God only gives us what we can handle..
Craftymummy9.. Thanks for the warm welcome.. i been here for 2 days and i love this place already..
Wish you all the best of luck and keeping my fingers crossed for all of us
Murrycod-LOL that is the term i used rabbit poo yes it happened to me and after EPU being sore internally doesnt help make sure you take somthing to keep soft i took metamucil with lots of water lots and lots of water i cant stress how much water you need to drink so drink up.
Mummyof4-i still blame myself to and now i feel like i am failing my hubby cause im not preagnant yet why do we do this to ourselves when we know it isnt our fault.
AFM-AF has shown the biatch! now just to here some positive words from the FS today.
Murraycod - do you have any special tricks for getting DH to move the treadmill out of the garage? (Or the car out so I can use the treadmill in the garage?) - you seem to be the expert here on treadmill acquisition!
Ciara - put those tests in the freezer! (I can't remember who said they did that...) Thaw them out at the appropriate time.
T-Hopes - where abouts in Melbourne are you? And thanks for the comment on your friend - I think some of us need stories to keep us on track, so to speak!
CraftyMummy - I used to have guinea pigs! I love them so much. I'd get some again, but my woofies would eat them, I fear.
Mummyof4 - you need to feel the guilt. If you didn't feel it, you wouldn't be human! And we're all here to listen to you. Just remember that you don't deserve the guilt, and you shouldn't hold on to it because it's easier that way...
TTCALC - It's not crazy! A week after I lost KT, I had an u/s, and I was there, hoping that I'd been mistaken and KT would still be there, or there would be a secret twin, or something equally stupid. It's called hope. And you need to hold on to it. Sometimes it's all we have.
Ferrals - well, it's unpleasant that the biatch showed her face - but at least you have a clue as to what is going on now - although the +opk's a few days ago is confusing.
AFM - I am bummed bummed bummed. Everything makes me sad, and I see the worst in everything.
Last edited by Cookie36; January 6th, 2010 at 08:29 AM.
Leicestershire, England (currently in the process of emigrating to Canberra, Australia
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Hi ladies,
I would like to introduce myself....I'm CrafytMummy's friend.......Carrie. I live in Leicestershire in the UK.....we have 10cm of snow!!! Bet you ladies are a bit warmer.
This is my story....in brief.
I recently miscarried my beautiful baby boy Eden at 17 weeks. He was peacefully born sleeping on 27.12.09. Scans show that he stopped growing at 13-14 weeks, a week after I had the swine flu jab. We have been given permission today to collect his body and we are starting to arrange his blessing and goodbye service with our vicar. We wont be able to get a complete picture of what happened to our baby boy until the post-mortem results can be fully assessed, however, Dr's have found provisional links between the swine flu jab and Eden's body failing to continue to grow. There is evidence to suggest that his heart continued for up to two weeks after he stopped growing.
None of this makes any sense to me....I have had two healthy, low risk pregnancies with my girls and fantastic home-birth deliveries with no pain relief. My husband even delivered our second daughter!!! I am a fighting fit 30 year old and have no medical conditions. I only hope the PM can give us a clearer picture and some answers to our questions.
So....here I am......in the mist of all this confusion and heartache trying to find some support. I am humbled by your stories of loss and also of joy in the face of adversity. I hope to find strength from your stories and although our priority at the moment is to ensure that Eden is laid to rest peacefully and in a dignified way, I look forward to the day when I start my next period and can begin working towards a more positive future.
My husband, myself and our gorgeous girls visited a place called the Eden Project in Cornwall England on New Years Day. We planted a tree in memory of our little angel. It was a positive start to the new year and I hope all of you ladies and your respective families also have a positive year ahead of you.
Carrie x
Wife to Tristan Mummy to gorgeous girlies Amelie (3) & Darcie (1) and my beautiful boy Eden (17 wks 5 days)
Last edited by CarriePS; January 6th, 2010 at 10:02 AM.
Hi Carrie, i am so sorry that you have to join us in thisa group but you will not find anyone more supportive than the girls in this group. I am hoping that the PM gives you some answers but please please dontdo what i did... i pinned all my hopes on there being answers to help me move on and that kind of thing and our PM came back with no reasons found Our little girl Kyarna was 17weeks and 5 days when we found out that she had no heart bet and i alos had healthy pregnancies before so i struggled alot i still am but with all the lovley ladies supporting me i am slowly getting there. the tree planting sounds perfect and i am glad that you got that oportunity.
CarriePS...Oh sweetie im sooo sorry my heart goes out to you..
i also lost our lil tiny one On DEC 22/09 @ 7 weeks 6 days and passed everything on DEC 29th..My heart goes out to you as well.. I do hope the PM can give you some answers.
I agree the tree planting sounds perfect and i am glad that you also got that opportunity
I know its hard but keep your head up and stay strong for your girls... and do know that one day you will get that chance of being a another mother to a wonderful and healthy baby!
You will be in my 's
Anita
Carrie - I'm so sorry you've had to join us here, but I hope you find a little something here with us to help you move along. I've heard of a few women who have a loss after a few easy pregnancies, and then gone on to have easy pregnancies after that. I think it's really positive though, that you've managed to honour Eden's spirit in such a beautiful and pure way.
Leicestershire, England (currently in the process of emigrating to Canberra, Australia
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Mummy of 4........Thank you for your words of support. It sounds like you are in a very similar position to me. It's all so devastating.
I am a physio so have seen a number of PM's during my medical training- I know that there may not be conclusive answers that will give us closure, and we are trying as best as possible to prepare ourselves for the 'not knowing'. I'm a 'need to know everything' kinda girl and I would hate to not have definitive answers.....but I am trying to prepare myself for that possibility. Unfortunately for us, our consultant told us today that there is early evidence of a link between the swine flu jab and Eden ceasing to grow. This is obviously of interest to the medical profession and she (and her team of people from patient affairs) warned us today that there may be media attention later down the line. As if MC isn't hard enough to deal with!!! I guess we'll have to cross that bridge when/ if it happens.
In the meantime, I have two happy little girls to keep me occupied and to keep my spirits up.
Anita....my thoughts and prayers are with you and your man. May God bless you both with a healthy baby in 2010. It must be tremendously difficult for you to listen to other ladies stories. Try to stay positive- I will pray for you and be thankful for my blessings everyday.
Exactly a year to the day that we lost Eden, my husband's best friend lost his twin boys. His wife miscarried their twin boys Harry and George on 27.12.08. It was their third miscarriage and they didn't have any other children to ease their grief but are now 18 weeks pregnant. I pray this little baby continues to grow into a healthy baby. Don't lose hope Anita.
Carrie x
Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss Jan 2010
and I wanted to come online and let you know that the last three months have FLOWN past - the first three after diagnosis were horrid, and they crawled, but the last three have been eeeeeasy. So hang in there matey!
Mummy to gorgeous girlies Amelie (3) & Darcie (1) and my beautiful boy Eden 
(17 wks 5 days)
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