Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - June 2009
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Juleswa- I've had more obvious o pains since I took clomid but I o'ed on thursday, first since m/c and it really hurt so I guess maybe its hormone levels being differnt or just our bodies being more sensitive after the m/c.
When you are counting dpo do you count the day you o'ed too because it happened at 8-10pm (trust me I felt it) on thursady so am I now 4 or 5 dpo?
Juleswa - my ov post m/c hurt HEAPS, I had never had ov pain before.
Thanks ladies for the feedback on supplements.
AFM - right now I am having the AF from hell. It is so heavy and so painful, last night I just lay on the bed and cried, from the cramps and also from the yucky blood - horrible.
I was here a few years ago and didnt want to be back...we said goodbye to number 4 last Monday. I'm still swinging...sometimes devastated, other times not feeling anything, other times so angry I want to hit someone/thing.
I chose to M/C naturally and i was unable to collect our bub for testing so it means I STILL don't have a reason.
the big diff this time from the other 3 times is straight away I want to have a bub again. I'd be trying now if i could
I don't know anything about charting my cycle etc, not sure if I want to or if I just want to have lots of 'cuddles' and hope!
I hope that I can be as supportive to you all as i am already sure you will be to me.
Hi TinaR,
Im sorry you have had to return and i hope your stay is only short. I have only been a part of this forum for a few days but i find it very encouraging and supportive to know im not alone. I wish you mountains of babydust when you are ready to TTC again.
Greenslw - congrats on the great HcG results. I hope this has put your mind to ease a little.
ASM - Im in the uneventful 2ww. Small amounts of breast tenderness and bloating but thats pretty normal for me.
Babydust to everyone out there.
Hope your all having a relaxing evening. Stay strong.....
ooh Tina, hunni i am soo sorry for your loss.
This is a very good thread to come an be a part of, we are here to listen whether it be just for a vent, a cry or a shoulder to lean on.
Greens: Whoaaa! Thats awesome!!! So happy for you hon xxx
Tina: hug: sorry for your return and your loss. We're all avid charters here and I guess I can speak for myself and say I can give you advice where need be Hope you're ok.
AFM: FF gave me crosshairs this morning. I was/am a tad unsure about it. My temp dropped 2 days ago, thought I ovulated then and would be 2dpo so this morning before I put the temp in I was feeling good, confident and just wanted to be very la la la about the this month. THEN FF gave me cross hairs and I wasnt prepared to be 4dpo..I felt a bit nervous/jittery almost as I think this will be the last month of charting.
I will still test but not temp and Im 100% It will be torture..
Counting Days: That's not somewhere you really want to go hun...there was quite a disturbance about the topic and we have peace now..
The reason they are off is because people who have just come in after having a loss seeing pg tickers get quite upset seeing someones ticker going along especially if the person is due when she was...does this make sense?
It's a good rule, its common sense and it is courteous to those who are having a hard time grieving and dont want to see other women "showing" their tickers and how well their pregnancy is going when their pregnancy did not go well..
listing to desperate housewives whilst posting another tv pregnancy and also on home and away (that show is such crap) no chance of them having stories like the ones we all go through, no one would watch I guess
also have a question with the whole charting thing, do you need to do the temps cm etc or have people had luck with just using OPK's and keeping track of days
tina, sad to hear that you've had to come back here but, for what it's worth, it's a good place to be under these circumstances. We're all obsessed with getting pregnant again and having one that stays with us all the way.
coco, anila, sunbeam, we're all TWW? yes? I think I am anyway, no O detected by FF and I'm not sure I noticed either but still, AF is due Sunday... not that I actually think it's worked this month. I had a small amount of pain similar to when I got pg last but not lasting and not really all that convincing. No other symptoms since other than serious irritability and tiredness. bb are a little tender but nothing major, everything else seems normal (for not being pg that is). Actually, except for one thing, CM is going mental.
Greens/cherished, you're both pg, anything with cm over the last few weeks? mine seems to be varying between just watery and ewcm but lots of either at any time. Driving me nuts.
Greenslw - very happy to hear about your levels as well!!
Counting days - I've only just started charting temps and have not used OPKs yet. (well, I used one Saturday cos I suspected maybe I was O'ing but I wasn't). I'm sure someone else will have a more conclusive answer for you though as it seems I'm slow on the uptake with those two things compared to everyone else in here!
Good luck for those on the TWW - hope we'll hear some good news from you soon.
Re: Charting and OPK's. I use both and did when we conceived ds. I found that the opk told me when o was about to happen so we'd dtd over the next few days, untill I saw my temp rising then o had happened and we dtd for that day and the day after and hope that we caught it. It really gave me an idea of exactly where i was at. i started to see a pattern that after a positive opk, i o'd 3 days after. i guess if you were just using opk's and thought it was happening within 24hrs you may miss the egg, but knowing with the temp kept us dtd untill we saw that i had o'd. Does this make sense? I used opk's last time i fell pregnant too and got a bfp straight away. I'm using them again this cycle even though we're not trying again untill next month. I just like to know that i have the double knowledge that /and when i'm o'ing. this sounds like a big babble. sorry. i love talking about this stuff.
Tina - sorry to hear your loss. You'll love it here. Everyone is great!
hope everyone is well.
i'm getting ready to settle down with warm milk and 'brothers and sister', maybe a biscuit too - just love the choc coated scotch fingers!!!mmmmmm
smallfryplus - you might have to use the opk's a few times b4 it will show you a positive result. also, if you think you are o'ing now, you might not get a positive on an opk cause the surge has already happened. i think you'll only get a positive b4 you ovulate, not just as you are?
another tip - best to use them in the arvo between 2 and 5 and at the same time each time.
please let me know if this is stuff you already know - i can get a bit over excited about sharing what i know. sorry in advance if i'm being a pain.
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Greens/cherished, you're both pg, anything with cm over the last few weeks? mine seems to be varying between just watery and ewcm but lots of either at any time. Driving me nuts.[/QUOTE]
I've got a nasty case of thrush sorry hun so my cm is not at all what you'd want.
Milly hope you've got lots of AF supplies Chocolate, heat bag cuddles.
I'm trying to type to you all but my DH wont stop harassing me and sticking wet fingers in my ears or playing with my boobs he's wanting some attention so i will be quick i am getting closer to ov time and it's suppose to be the start of my fertile days and as usual my DH and i are working every day he is doing 12 hour shifts from 6pm to 6am then he has to get some sleep and i am working days so trying to bd at the right time is going to be impossible so i'm not very optomistic we will catch that egg unless i ov a bit later than normal so i feel sad that i will miss another month now
Coco-the obsession is the worst i am that bad my DH say's i make appointments to have sex so i dont miss the egg that made me feel bad.
Maddison-i get it every day at work (are you pregnant yet) it makes me feel like a failure
Anila-hope you get your BFP soon
anyway im going to give my man some attention that i havn't booked in (LOL)
and it's 8 days until the geneticist app for our verdict
Coco - fair enough too. I understand how charting can be intense at times, so not a bad idea to give it a break. Your OPK's will give you what you need to know - that is if you need it - sending you lots of positive vibes.
Maddison - it's amazing how people feel the need to comment. When i was m/cing i went to the chemist and bought 4 preg tests cause i knew i'd want to keep testing to see if there was any remote possibility it was going to be ok. the young girl behind the counter remarked, that 'wow want to see it four times huh?' with a big smile on her face. i felt like saying 'actually i'm in the process of losing a baby and am monitering how things are going' and walk straight out, but of course i just smiled like you and wanted to burst out crying. I guess unless you've been in our situation people just don't have the sensitivity of what others could be going through. bloody frustrating!
Sunbeam - wishing you luck and hope you get your bfp soon with all your tests! ha ha
hope everyone else is going ok
AFM - just having dinner with DS. going to acupuncture this thursday and am really looking forward to it for some reason. just means i'm a bit closer to ttc again. by my calculation i'll be 4 weeks away from ttc again - and gee that sounds like forever away. actually looking forward to af coming this month. life is cruel sometimes isn't it - af = something you can look forward to one month and yet hate the next for what it represents. aaaagggghhhhhh!!!!!!!
I am posting on here for the first time after 2 m/c. The first was very early (in Jan) and the most recent (in May) was a missed m/c found at my 12 week scan (bubs measured 9w6d). Reading through the posts on this forum is really helping me through this devastating time - knowing there are others out there in the same boat going through the same emotions is comforting.
I am hoping to ttc again this month and have been waiting for my hcg levels to go down - have only just gotten a negative test today, 3 and a half weeks after my d&c. As well as testing negative today I have also gotten a fairly strong positive opk - has anyone else had that happen? I've been testing with both pg and opk over the last couple of weeks so know that the opk isn't still picking up hcg.
Praying that it is ovulation and my body is getting back on track!
MellyW-welocome sorry for your loss you have came at a time when there is a lot of heartache happening and i hope it help's to see how wonderful the girl's are in here i hope your BFP is not far away.
KM1-i'm happy you don't have to go through a D&C so now it's the waiting game for you waiting to get AF waiting to ov then the tww then waiting to test YUKKKK!!! waiting waiting it's never ending.
Smallfryplus-lucky you! you were spoilt last night, and i can't wait til you test.
ferrals - yes, very lucky! It's a long time since I've been spoilt like that!! I had reminded him during the day that it was the anniversary of when we first got in touch. We went to school together and lost touch for around 10 years then 5 yrs ago he emailed me out of the blue and friendship developed again and around 2 1/2 yrs later we got together. Best thing that's ever happened to me (short of having two gorgeous daughters).
cherished - I'm lost for words but know that you're in my thoughts and prayers.
Anila, coco, sunny - how are things? Has AF arrived or do we have bfp? Or are you still in the same boat as me with waiting?
Sunbeam - are you still in the running?
zacsmum - welcome to the tww! How far are you?
madison, erybery, km1, and anyone else I've missed, hope today is going good for you.
AFM - still no AF or even signs of it. I'm getting quite excited but still holding out til after the weekend to test because I need to get past Sunday. Sunday marks what would be 5wks if I am and that's when I mc last time. Oh! And I took my blood pressure this morning and it's the first time in over 18 months that it's been close to normal!! SO excited! I took it twice to make sure! First time was 117/88 and second was 123/88! normally it's been up around 145/99. Oddly, during preg both time it didn't go up over 120/80. Maybe this is a good sign... ah hell, everything is a good sign tho isn't it?!!
I do have a question though - has anyone had an ectopic pg and, if so, what did it feel like? Have you had a normal pg as well? did it feel different? I'm getting ocasional twinges and kind of stretchy feelings in my right abdomen around hip height and about 2 inches to the left of my hip bone. I had these last time and mc and wondered then if it was an ectopic due to the location of the sensations. Worried about it now but can't get in to see my gp til after my last exam on Tuesday morning. Hope someone can shed some light for me.
Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - June 2009
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this month. THEN FF gave me cross hairs and I wasnt prepared to be 4dpo..I felt a bit nervous/jittery almost as I think this will be the last month of charting.
tina, sad to hear that you've had to come back here but, for what it's worth, it's a good place to be under these circumstances. We're all obsessed with getting pregnant again and having one that stays with us all the way.
hope you've got lots of AF supplies Chocolate, heat bag cuddles.
for a BFP in your life soon.
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