Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss #2- June 2009

[ferrals5]

Hi ladies
i've been at work so i have missed a bit

Eliselouise-glad to see your back and sorry to hear you bleeding hasn't eased up yet but i do look farward to getting to know you better on BB.

Cherished-i hope you are ok and i wish you the best for the future.

Sammy-you should be optimistic it will hapen.

Sunbeam-hope you catch that egg .

As for me AF is horrible this mth very heavy and painful not normal for me and i'm now wondering should i avoid getting pregnant until we start ivf so i give us the best chance for healthy baby the thought of not TTC is making me sad knowing my luck we wont try and it will happen i got all my opk's and hpt in mail and wonder what to do put them away for later

[eliselouise]

hi all how are we all, i know i have posted on here already twice today but i thought since im back at work tomoro id take the time for some perssies.
Ferals hunny no good to hear about your heavy painful AF its no good at all, hope it all settles down soon and the pain goes away. Keep your chin up and stay positive, i think you may as well keep trying until you start the IVF who knows it may just happen naturally I am also looking forward to getting to know all of you a little better, i think i just need to make time to get on here for a catch up.
Dellydoo thankyou for your support i too am hoping it stops naturally but have actually been thinking it may be better to have the D&C then i will be all clear and ready to start afresh again soon.
Sunbeam that sounds very promising about the temp drop, hopefully your little egg can be implanted and we see BFP for you very soon.
SammyP that is such a cute idea about the baby alive doll, hopefully you too will get BFP soon and you will be able to give your little one the doll from your new bub
Anyway better get going and cook some tea, will talk again soon
Take care bye bye

[Anila]

Hi everyone

Chersished, if by chance u pop back in, i just want to say, that i hope all goes well for you and your baby dreams come true. We will always be here for you when you need us.

I havent been posting much, still have af, its usually gone by now, but since its the first from the mc and been 50 days, i guess its hanging around longer.

[milly5]

HI Ladies,

Thanks Cherished and best of luck!!
Thanks Dellydoo, Coco & Sunbeam.

I'm just going to do a quick post becasue I'm being super selfish and having a moan and a cry !!!!

sorry Milly, you're not going to like my answer...I spot for a bit then AF comes, and around this time of the tww for me, its destined to be over, so I throw big tantrums and cry (i really do!) and then im ok when i "bleed". Having said all that, i hope it is a bfp for you!

'fraid not Coco I'm having that tantrum now!

milly-I don't get spotting at all but I did have a big temp drop just for the one day on dpo12 during my first pg. Don't give up hope its not over till a/f. If you don't get a/f and get a BFP at any point you might need to see your FS about progesterone as spotting/bleeding can indicate that this is low.

I don't usually get spotting either, and if I do, then it is just the day before and just once. So I don't know why this happened now. But I do get implanation bleeding - had it with both pg, that's why I wondered if it was it.

Well as you can gather, the news is AF arrived. I have NEVER EVER EVER had a cycle this short - EVER. DId I say never? I have always been 28 days with the occaisional 27 or 29 day. And yep - the LP was short - too short. *&$%#@!!!!! I have made an appointment - seeing dr in 3 weeks. I'm just so devestated. I thought I would be fine if AF came, but I'm not, I'm just not. And to make matters worse - its painful, a real shocker. going to go to bed with my hot water bottle and lots of drugs (just to clarify - pain relief) - because hey, I can take them now

I guess its now a 2WW until my 2WW........

[KM1]

Hi girls
I have missed out on a bit so sorry for few percies, started a new job this week and have been flat out.

Cherished if ur around good luck with your forever baby.

Milly I am so sorry sweet, I was gettin so excited for you, man our bodies can be such traitors to us.

Ferals I think its smart to try the IVF while the 80% rebate is still there and I can understand feeling weird about not ttc'ing. Try not to feel like you are an unlucky person, I know it has been bad news for you lately but fingers crossed that is the end of it and you are about to start a good luck streak

AFM-I am experiencing a lot of confusion right now, not sure when AF is due, my guess would have been Tuesday just gone, anyway I have had weird throat nausea like I had when I was pg last time on/off since last Thursday...but no sore bbs or tiredness or frequent peeing. Plus I have had quite bad AF-like cramps since Saturday so keep thinking she is coming then nothing!

Anyway I caved and did a test this morning (mainly to rule out being pg out so I can stop analysing and go out for drinks on friday), and it was -mostly. I wouldnt describe it as a faint line even but used a clear blue and I could distinctly see where the second line should be iykwim, was kind of a very very faded almost grey line, I showed DH and he said he could see it but in his opinion it was def . I am 99% sure I agree with him but cause of the nausea and not knowing when AF is dues I am still confused. Has anyone else had troubles with clear blue? I am going to try and wait a week and if no AF test again...

Sorry for going on about me but I am very frustrated. I am also scared cos if I am pg I am sure my uterine lining wouldnt be great- my doc said there was no medical reason to wait but I have heard mixed views from other ppl and would be so anxious about mc'ing again and it being all my fault....

[TinaR]

hi all,

i had plans of coming in and doing personals but there wsa just so much to catch up on. I did a whole heap the other night then computer spacked and didn't post
before i have my whinge I hope all are doing ok, It seems like most of us are around the RB time together...as much as we don't want to be. :fingerscrossed: for all of us that its the last time for at least a year
AFM: I'm up in the air as to where my cycle is. if it all goes back to normal Im due tomorrow but i don't think RB will arrive...I'm in two minds thinking I just might be
if nothing then I will test sat morn. I know its a good chance of just wishful thinking.
I had as bit of light tinged cm wednesday but no RB pains or anything and i normally get yuck cm for at least a full day.
then again there is a bit of niggling in my belly but i had that with last pg so i just don't know

how do i put a photo on my signature?

[India's Mum]

Hi All

I figured that, going by CM, that I ovulated today or yesterday. I have never experienced ovulation pain before so I'm not sure what it's like, but tonight I have had an ache in my lower back for the past few hours. Could that be ovulation pain? I had pain like this when I was recently pregnant and I put that down to things inside being stretched. Does anyone else get ovulation pain? Is it like that?

[maddison]

SammyP - I have a dull ache in my lower back and a few twinges in my side around ovulation so it is possible that is what you are feeling. Usually it lasts for a around a half a day for me.

[milly5]

Hi girls
Milly I am so sorry sweet, I was gettin so excited for you

Thanks KM1, my fingers are crossed for you - it aint over till the fat lady sings!! here's hoping she stays away for you.

TIna - my fingers are crossed for you too!!

Sammy - Re the ov pain question - when I've had ov pain it has been at the front, a bit like a stich, but not as sharp, and not in quite the same place.

Hello everyone!!!!

[juleswa]

Hi Ladies,

I've been hovering for a while and have put in the odd post but have some time up my sleeve so thought I'd say hello again.

KM1 - hope you get some answers soon, and hope it's of the BFP variety. Maybe things happened later than what you think?

SammyP - I have never ever had O pain untill last month which was my first cycle after the m/c. For me it felt like sometimes a sharp pain sometimes a stitch like pain for the whole day of O and then it was gone.

TinaR - wishing you lots of luck for testing tomorrow. Looking forward to seeing a BFP for you!

Milly5 - if you're worried about a short LP, you can perhaps start taking some Vitamin B6 which is great for lengthening your LP and also help with any PMS as another bonus. Might be worth a shot - it worked for me.

anila - hope your AF stops soon

Ferals - sorry to hear AF is terrible for you this month. My heart goes out to you for all you are going through at the moment. The only advice I can give is that when I don't have a clear direction about a decision or am really confused with what to do, I keep a candle burning somewhere I can see it around the house and ask/pray (whatever you do/don't believe in) for guidance and strength to find a space of clarity for the right answer to come to me. Instead of feeling frustrated with myself and the situation, it helps me to focus on finding an answer and then it generally works and I go with my intuition. Good luck, and hope AF settles down soon for you.

AFM - well I'm on CD12 and gearing up for all O signs and lots of BD this weekend. I've had some wierd spotting happen this cycle which I never had - from a couple of days after AF finished I have had continued blood stained cm???? really not sure what is going on. went to my GP who ran a hcg test which came back negative, and has now referred me for an abdominal u/s which i can't get in for untill next week. Guess she's checking to make sure there is nothing else going on in there after the m/c which is now starting to worry me. So i just rang the midwife at my Ob's office and she said that it is quite normal for your cycle to be a bit different untill your hormones settle down after the m/c and didn't seem to think it was anything else too much going on. That has put my mind at rest as I'm feeling a bit peeved that this has to happen now when we're ready to start ttc again. Guess i'll just have to wait and see what happens and hope that maybe we'll get a bfp!!
Has anyone else had any wierd spotting through their cycle?

I'm finding there is a fine line between thinking positive and imagining all the right outcomes, and being obsessive about ttc. I'm already thought out when our edd would be? when we'd hit the 12w mark etc ..... is this obsessive, or positive thinking/visualisation, or just plain dumb to set myself up for a big fall if it doesn't happen this month.........

Well hope you're all having a good friday, and have something to look forward to over the weekend, and maybe even some bfp's to share!

Jules

[maddison]

Wishing everyone a great weekend..

Is anyone testing this weekend?? Bring on some BFP news

[coco1411]

Hi maddison

No testing here, not for over a week. BORING!

I have been getting pains in my right side, not like ovulation pains, more like a dull ache. but where my ovulation pain normally is. Its peeing me off because ive already ovulated but its too early to be other pains... :|

[maddison]

Hi Coco

Its boring time for me too. Stinkin TWW! Sometimes i get pains in the first week of 2ww but i think its because i feel very tense and i do it to myself. I find it hard to relax and the waiting makes me crazy. Im off to Bendigo to see the new Transformers movie with dh and some friends over the weekend and will get to play with my 19 week old niece which i always enjoy. Are you doing anything special... Another hot date with you dh this Saturday?

[coco1411]

Hahaha, no, not having a hot date. Im working tonight & tmo night so just hanging out. Im guessing hes going to be really tired because he is in lithgow and the drive always tires him out.

I dont like having the pains..I got pains more like ovary pains from about 7dpo last month and every time I get them it means Im not pregnant. Who knows. lol I need a distraction from the tww. Dont know what to do though. Hmmm...

[maddison]

I guess its good to know that if something is stopping you getting pregnant (like whatever is causing your pains) you will find out about it if you have your surgery in a few weeks and it can be fixed. You have a back up plan this month which hopefully you wont need.
Its hard not to think about it. Im always so excited until the 2ww starts and then everyday is wondering and hoping. We had decided to start trying after we got married and i got pregnant within 2 months without temping or really knowing much about ttc. Now i know heaps and it just wont happen. Crazy how it seems to work like that.

My Auntie whos daughter is pregnant at the moment (20 weeks) gave me the 'just relax and it will happen' speech today. And my Mum keeps telling me how it isnt hard to get pregnant. Why is it family are the worst. I just ignore them now. Or try to.

I have a good feeling for you this month. Not sure why.. Just seems like it should be your turn.

[coco1411]

I am HATING my mother and my uncle for saying those things "just get jiggy with it!" WE HAVE BEEN!!! CLEARLY IT ISNT WORKING!

Aww I hope its our month too, I do have a good feeling. Probably because I saw EWCM and I havent seen it before. Hoping the op wont be necessary! Good luck to you too hon xx

[eliselouise]

Hi everyone hope you are all feeling ok this evening.
Dont really have too much time to spare for perssies tonight but just thought id get on and say that my bleeding has finally pretty much stopped since m/c, which should mean i wont have to have D&C next week. Am very relieved about it as was not looking forward to it at all.
Just wondering if anyone can tell me around about how long it takes for normal AF to come back after bleeding of m/c stops? I have no idea. I am so over bleeding after 3 weeks of it but would like to know when back to normal and can start ttc again.
Anyway better get going and cook some tea.
Have a great weekened everyone and chat soon

[juleswa]

eliselouise - i bled for three weeks with my m/c too. i got AF back two weeks after and cycles have been pretty regular since then. hope it doesn't take too long for you and glad you don't have to go for the d&c.