Good morning all
It has been very quiet in here the last few days, i hope everyone is doing ok
Anilla & Maddison i was reading through your posts last night when i got home from work late and it was so moving. I was tearing up reading them but maddison is right your friend will need you to talk to and also having gone through the same thing hopefully that makes it a bit easier to talk about.
I too know what you mean about not being able to talk about the m/c it makes it very hard and i think if someone hasnt been through it they dont actually realise how hard it is.
Zstar i think it is lovely that you call your brother every year on his sons bday and chat about it, i think it would really help him alot. Thats so funny about touching your b's to see if sore i used to do that straight after the m/c to make me think it wasnt true, but yeah your right you touch them that much it just makes them sore
Sunbeam hope your little O dance worked on saturday night and you get a BFP this month, goodluck
Hello to everyone else ive missed, hope everyones week is going ok so far.
I better get going, off to the docs to find out what the heck is going on with my body, so frustrating at the moment
Talk soon
Well my dance worked I finally o'ed last night ( I know exactly when it happened because I felt every painful moment of it and could not sleep till midnight). Now I just have to hope that my egg was still good by cd25. I got pg with a cd25 o last time but I'm worried that may be why I m/c and the baby was placed so badly in my uterus. Having said that my friend had both her girls with cd25+ o's and they are fine so
So I am officially in the TWW , who else is with me? I know Zstar is, too funny about touching your bbs to see if they are sore I will be doing the same thing because that was my biggest sign with both my pgs.
Anila and Maddison- I know it is so hard to know what to say to anyone's loss but we of all people know what we need at that time. Just the loving support to know there is a shoulder to cry on when its needed and someone to acknowledge the loss and not ignore it. Anila I hope your friend can join us so we can help support her through this.
YAY Sunbeam thats exciting good to see the dance worked
Hopefully your little egg is a strong one and you get your BFP this month. I have everything crossed for you and cant wait to hear your result
Just got home from docs and she has said that it sounds like everything is starting to settle down and hopefully i will get normal AF very soon
I have been avidly reading your posts and have only just now got the chance to come and post myself.You girls are trully a tower of strength for each other and its so moving to know there can still be such brilliant and caring ppl out there.
I lost our little jellybean last monday.Ironically,i was watching Juno and started to cramp..i just knew there was something wrong..Sure enough,it just wasnt meant to be....We have 2 children and didnt think there would be any problems at all and eagerly told all that would listen that we were expecting.The pregnancy took us as a major suprise as we were trying at all but it was a welcome suprise and now its ended i feel so lost and guilty wondering what did i do wrong??? to make matters worse a gf of mine rang me thursday night not knowing i had M/C and blurted out in excitement that she was pregnant too and due a week after me!!!! it shattered me and whilst normally i would be over the moon for her, i was secretly jealous and so so hurt..is this normal? im not usually a jealous person....
We had actually decided before this pregnancy that perhaps we wont have any more but now both DH and i are yearning to have another.I think we need it to fill the gap im feeling.is that normal or is it just me still being emotional??? its just so confusing.i find myself not even being able to watch babies or pregnant woman on tv now!!!!!!
I also have the guilts because even though its only been just over a week,i have been randy as all hell and once i stopped bleeding,was begging DH to bd with me...A gf said that its not normal at all...
im looking forward to sharing our journeys together.even though we really dont want to be going through this at all..U girls are trully gems...
Hi Hubba_Bubba I'm so sorry I missed your message before. I'm so sorry for your loss but you are right this is an amazingly supportive and caring group to be apart of. You have every right to feel all of the emotions you are going through, it is definitely a huge shock and huge feeling of loss, your hormones will also be all up in the air so do not feel guilty for being over emotional or wanting to bd. We have also all wondered if we did something to cause our m/c but it is hugely unlikely that it was in anyway your fault, sometimes it is just not right and mostly we will never know why. I understand the hurt at finding out your friend is expecting too as a friend of mine conceived the same week as me and we were so looking forward to being pregnant together. I hope you find the comfort you need her with us and that your journey to a BFP is short.
I'm new to this forum - sucks to be here after having a m/c at 12 weeks on the 23rd of June. Now I'm wating for AF before trying again - I'm finding the waiting really really tough and I'm struggling cos my SIL is 10 weeks pregnant and I'm jealous as anything.
Hi all,
I've missed too much again to do personals to everyone but:
Coco - so sorry AF is appearing, I hope that everything is sorted with the op and that the next month gives that sticky BFP
Hubba_Bubba & Catgirl - hi to our new girls, I'm sorry for the reason you are in here but you won;t find a more reliable, caring and understanding bunch of girls...even when all you do is get online and rant...we understand
Anila - nothing you felt made a difference to the preg but how you feel could very well help her now with the loss...it really takes someone who has been through it to understand
Sunbeam - good luck in the TWW
Sunny, Elise, Sammy, Zstar, Maddison, Ferral and Jules (and anyone I have forgotten) hope things are going well for you.
AFM - I had a major down day on Thursday and got trashed. Was unbelievably miserable. But...after all that I finally got some direction in what I want in life (apart from a bub).
DB asked me if we will be having a bub this mth, I hope so and its good because the days that I see him should be around my o day, its all very exciting.
I can't remember who asked where my store is...it is 5935 Cunningham hwy Kalbar, about 20mins from Ipswich you can see stuff online at Katt's Emporium - Home (can't remember if I told you last time).
It's so hard if I miss a couple of days I miss out on so much and its hard to do personals and keep everyone up to date.
Hope everyone is great, will anyone be in the TWW wait with me? Fingers crossed for some BFP this month...we are due some more good news
Still experiencing AF. I noticed yesterday I lost a little bit more tissue type material so I guess my doctor was right about leaving it one cycle. I feel very mixed about trying again. I'm not sure about how others my age feel but at 43 I am very concerned about my ability to have a healthy baby. DD is almost two and she's absolutely fine but I think two years may make a big difference in the quality of my eggs. I'm also concerned that my age may have contributed to my miscarriage and I really don't want to face that again either. Oh well, I still have a couple of weeks to think about it.
Hi there ladies,
I happened to stumble onto this web page and cant believe what im reading...
For the past 5 years i really thought that there was something wong with me and that i was the only person that was dealing with miscarriages. Let me take a moment to explain, I am 25 years old and i have had 6 miscarriages. Each time i have been able to carry between 8-12 weeks and no longer. I have been for hundreds of differnt opinions and each one has said the same. I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS BUT I CAN SEE NO REASON WHY YOU HAVE LOST THE BABY......
I have gotten to a point in my life where i have to try and stop myself fom looking at ever pregnant women that i see and asking,WHAT MAKES HER A BETTER MOM THEN ME!!!
I have given up all hope and i find myself avoiding my friends(all are married and are starting to fall pregnant).
Please if there is someone out there with a bit of advise or even a hopeful story please i am all ears.
Ladies i must admit you have a wonderful suppot group and as a outsider i must for you.
sunbeam - yah for you!!! Go the TWW!!! i have everything crossed for you. i no nothing about compluters and HTML codes - dooh
eliselouise85 - great news from the doc - bring on af
hubba_bubba07 - sorry for your loss and don't be too hard on yourself about the little green monster that arises in all of us at times. hopefully it will pass soon.
catgirl - big welcome - you are in the right place. my sil started trying at the same time and her little girl was born 2 wks ago and there was a time that i couldn't look at her and i was so jealous but that soon passed and she is still one of my best friends. hang in there
tinar - good luck and i'm glad you have recovered from your 'down day' - geez - we all have them!
sammyp - hi, my first cycle after m/c i also noticed a little tissue type and very pink so i was glad i didn't fall in that first cycle. i personaly can't see how 2 years would make a massive difference in eggs. just my opion. i was talking to a mate on the wk end about how the stats go up so much after 35 and i was saying how can there be such a big difference between 34 and 35. i think age is just a number and when you are ready go for it.
givenuphope - one thing this site will do from the moment you start reading is make you feel surrounded by support and you will never feel alone again. there are women on here with so much strength and courage it blows my mind and when i'm down i think of what they have gone through and I keep going. i am so sorry that your ttc journey has been filled with so many upsets. please please keep up your posts on here about your feelings and the girls will all reach out to you and help get your through. stay strong. you should change your user name to 'ihaveheapsofhope'...... xxxxxxx
anyone else i've missed - i hope everything is going as good as can be expected!
afm - cd19 - battling with the tww this month more than other months. i am finding it hard to concerntrate and get motivated at work. had a blow up with dh this morning which is very rare. told him i was battling and he said in a typical male style 'stop thinking about it - you worrying is not helping our cause'. so then i blew up deluxe..oh dear. i just want to know now. not next week. now now now. arrrggghhh!!!!!!! my work is suffering and i really need to rely on my buddhism now and practice patience. easier said than done. i hate the tww wait today!!!!!!!!!!!
hubba_bubba07, catgirl and GIVENUPHOPE, i am so very sorry for all of ur losses, there are no words to express how sadded i am that u all have to join this group, but as u can see u have to come to a wonderful place, everyone here, has in one way or another, been through a loss, so everyone here, will understand all of ur joys and frustrations.
This is an amazing group of ladies, with whom i have learnt to become stonger and accept that my baby is with the angels, but have learnt that its ok, to always feel love and sorrow for that baby, and thats its ok, to talk about what what we are feeling.
So welcome not only to bb, but to this group of supportive ladies, we are here for u in any way that u need us, if u need to vent, cry, laugh or just a chat we are here.
Morning all, hope everyones day is going ok so far, the weather is beautiful where i am today so that always helps. Have just taken my puppy for a walk and im feeling really good now. Welcome hubbabubba, catgirl & givenuphope I know its not nice to have to meet in here but youve definately come to the right place for lots of support and people to talk to.
zstar thats no good you are struggling this month, its so hard not knowing when all you want is to know right now, but hopefully the wait will be well worth it and yeah maybe the buddhism will help you through it. Dont you hate it when dh says to get over it and stop thinking about it, they have no idea how hard it is to actually do, its always in the back of our minds. Hope this is your month
Sammyp no good you still have AF. I dont think 2 years could make too much difference to your eggs and just think there are women older than you who fall pregnant and go on to have h&h pregnancies and bubs
TinaR hope you are feeling better today, we all have those down days were we just want to forget all about it but as long as we pick ourselves back up and keep moving forward we will get through it. Thats great that db will be around on your o day, very exciting.
Sunbeam cant help with the HTML code no idea about computers either sorry, hope you figure it out so we can see your lovely little ticker Hello to anilla, maddison, sunny, coco and anyone else i have missed
AFM no changes so nothing to report.
Talk tomorow bye bye
Welcome Givenuphope. I just wanted to say you have shown amazing resilience already, I'm not sure I would have been able to keep going through 6 m/c. I think you are stronger than you may realize and I sincerely hope you find the answer to why you continue to m/c as I understand it there can be so many different reasons. Maybe Flowerchild will be the best one to give some advise on this.
Welcome catgirl sorry for your loss I hope your journey back to a BFP is short and that we can offer you support and understanding in the mean time.
Zstar- I'm only 2 days into the TWW and I so know what you mean I want to know NOW too. I felt nauseus this morning which was a bit odd and my uterus felt sort of heavy and a bit crampy but who knows whats going on, really should be too early for anything.
Zstar-that would be really cool . I would also really like to be pg this month because if it sticks I will not be pg over Anzac Day next year which has been my m/c day for the last 2 years so for both of us.
Welcome to our new ladie's i am sorry for the reason you are here but i look forward to getting to know you and i hope you journey to your BFP is short and sweet.
Sunbeam-i have a good feeling about you this month you and your donnor daddy have really put a 100% into catching that egg let's hope this is it.
eliselouise-good to hear the doc think's all is ok i hope your AF returns to normal soon.
Catgirl-my SIL is also pregnant and is due 8 week's after my abbi was and i still cant bring myself to see or talk to her it is to painful for me.
TinaR-sorry to hear you had a bad day we all have them and we will most likely have a few more to come but i hope we can help you get through them.
SammyP-it is true that fertility declines dramaticly as you get older and over 37 it take's a big nose dive i am worried about my age i'm 35 but my professor said that the vast marjority of first time mums are now in there mid to late 30's and he said i still have a good few year's yet i guess for you the fact you got pregnant at 40+ is a good sign your fertility is still good all you can do is stay healthy and dont stress and it will happen i have a friend at work pregnant with her 5th at 41 seven mths after her last baby .
Givenuphope-sorry about your loss i was wondering have you had any of the babie's tested after you lost them it can give you a reason if it is genetic or chromosonal or at least rule it out.
AFM-I'm just trying to get through each day trying not to think about my fertile day's and the what if's i hope oct just get's here quick.
Last night at work i was thinking it would be 4 week's and my abbi would be here and i wrote a poem to put in the timber photo frame we made to put abbi's tiny pink cardigan,beanie and bootie's and ultrasound's in i hope you like it.
ABBI
Not a day goe's by that i don't think of you
What you would have looked like
What colour was your hair
Did you have my blue eye's
Was your skin real fair
I felt you move inside me
Like an angel dancing around
I couldn't wait to meet you
And hold you safe and sound
But heaven had other plan's
You were to good for this place
I'd never get to dress my girl
in all the frill's and lace
My heart and soul are broken
And beyond repair
From the minute you left this world
Life became so unfair
What i would give to have you back
And hold you in my arm's
To be your loving mum again
and protect you from all the harm
My only comfort that i have
Is knowing that someday
We will be together again
and my pain will fade away
great poem Ferrals4, im hoping you and dh have plenty of strength for the next 4 weeks,im sure its a very tough time for you hun.
welcome to all te new ladies!
AFM: Im completely bunged up with the flu! Hence why I havent been around posting! Getting a fair bit of BD in,hoping its my month (and everyone else's!!) like DH said!
my dance worked I finally o'ed last night ( I know exactly when it happened because I felt every painful moment of it and could not sleep till midnight). Now I just have to hope that my egg was still good by cd25. I got pg with a cd25 o last time but I'm worried that may be why I m/c and the baby was placed so badly in my uterus. Having said that my friend had both her girls with cd25+ o's and they are fine so
, who else is with me? I know Zstar is, too funny about touching your bbs to see if they are sore
I will be doing the same thing because that was my biggest sign with both my pgs.
I miss out on so much and its hard to do personals and keep everyone up to date.
for you.
one thing this site will do from the moment you start reading is make you feel surrounded by support and you will never feel alone again. there are women on here with so much strength and courage it blows my mind and when i'm down i think of what they have gone through and I keep going. i am so sorry that your ttc journey has been filled with so many upsets. please please keep up your posts on here about your feelings and the girls will all reach out to you and help get your through. stay strong. you should change your user name to 'ihaveheapsofhope'...... xxxxxxx
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