Hey erybery,
I have never forgotten my Angel babies & I never will, even though I have a perfectly healthy DD. When I was pg with DD, they were all I thought about b/c I was too afraid to be totally committed to loving her in case she wasn't going to be forever. It still makes me cry thinking about it. I remember when she was being born, I just kept saying to myself, please cry then I know you are alive.... Sorry if that was too graphic for some people.
I have three angels watching over us now & I agree with what others have said - you never get over it, you just learn to cope. EDD are difficult at the minimum, I try not to think too much about what might have been but I think that is more protection for me & perhaps because we have DD & we celebrate her life (on her birthday).

Belinda - It's great that you & DH can talk about that stuff so openly. I have great difficulty expressing myself without crying, yelling and a range of other emotions. Plus I don't like putting my negative or other feelings on other people (well most of the time).