Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage/Loss August/September 2009

[Jahzara]

Chickybabe did I read right? You're utd? What are the tests for? If so... congratulations!!!


Coco

Thankyou !
Yes Coco i am pg - only 4 weeks + 2 days. Sorry TMI - started having light brown discharge and then some bleeding earlier this week. Panicked and ended up at the ED on Wednesday night. Had my first blood test done. Having the second one done on Monday to see if my HCG levels are rising or falling. At this stage the bleeding has stopped - hope it stays away but nothing is certain.
So, i am currently going out of my mind....

You lucky duck being on holidays - pity you cant get a nice sleep in.
I hope you get a BFP in the next couple of days - thinking of you.
xoxo

[TinaR]

well, my "i really feel preg" feelings were wrong. RB is making sure I know she is on her way. I had a 'I hate my life' day yesterday. I know that there are so many ladies in here who have been trying longer but I don't want to have to try.
I hate being at work where there are so many preg ladies - who smoke etc and it s#*@'s me. I hate not being preg. I hate bding on the 'right' days and still not getting preg. I hate just about everything right now. Hate is a strong word I know but thats what my feelings say.
I'm sorry for the rant, I;m just incredibly depressed and thinking of just giving up. GOing back on the pill and forgetting about it. I can't keep getting my hopes dashed every month and then when I do get the bfp to lose the bub anyway. 5 times is enough.

[ferrals5]

Morning ladie's

Tanya sorry to hear your out this month.

Oh! sparkles-they will turn up when you least expect it and you mentioned feeling like a teenager using condom's Dh and i have never used them until now we have to be safe on my fertile day's so i am doing OPK'S for the oppisite reason but it was soooo funny the other day when we were shopping and had to buy a box for my 16yr old son and then a box for us i felt so embarrassed.

Hannah-wont be long now and those level's will be back to 0 and i don't know if you have read some of my previous post's about the women i see at my work pregnant drinking and smoking i have seen them drink bottle after bottle of jim beam or schooner on top of schooner and some of them even stumble out off there face's i wish the RSA law's gave us the power to refuse surface to pregnant women to protect unborn babie's and it make's losing our babie's all the more painful.

Kyra-good luck with the test's monday look's like this it it for you.

Coco- you are going to send yourself bonker's give it a few more day's i know it is hard but if your feeling some symptom's that's a good sign so take your mind off it for now and enjoy that hotel room and make the most of it did you get a spa in the upgrade?

Sunny-how are you going?

Zstar-hope everything has settled down for you

Milly-38 is still fine you should have seen the people at the IVF clinic i was one of the youngest and i'm 35 there was one couple i thought was the grandparent's waiting in the waiting room but then they were called in i nearly fell off my chair.

Sunbeam-missing you hope the break is doing you some good.

Elise-temping for me was a nightmare my temp was low 35.8 to 36.2 most day's than went up to 36.7 to 36.9 after i ov but i never really had a dip before so i felt it wasn't real reliable for me i used the OPK's that i got online they were excellent.

Superstar-finger's crossed for you

Sammy-i' think if you m/c early it's more like a heavy period and you body settles down i don't see why you cant try straight away and when we are getting older who can afford to wait if you feel ok then go for it.

AFM- it looks like the stupid gov got there way i read on the ivf website that in jan PGD ivf patient's will be out of pocket an extra $5,000 so that mean's for me i will have to pay $14,200 and only get back about $4,000-$5,000 so out of pocket eprox $10,000 s##t if we dont get in soon we will only get one chance this year then we have no choice but to go back to trying natrually i bet if one of the polly's had to have IVF cause they carrie a genetic condition this medicare drama would not be an issue anyway i have raved on enough i have the day off so i will make myself useful talk to you later.

[ferrals5]

Tina- we all have those day's and they are awlful i know i was wondering were do you live SIVF have a M/C management center for women like you who get pregnant and have trouble holding on to them if you don't mind me asking what testing have you had i am not sure who in this thread has had what to many to keep up with but there has to be a reason have any of your bub's been tested?

[TinaR]

Hi Ferrals, i'm not sure about the testing. They did a few on the 11wk preg while I was in tassie (preg #2), preg #3 I lost while we were up in Cape York so no hospital or anything and preg #4 I chose to go home and lose naturally and collect the 'specimen' for them unfortunately I only collected clots so unable to test.
All blood works have come back perfect. Alot of the women in my family have had this issue...and no reasons given. I know everyone has these days but I just think that I need to give it up to keep my head sane. It's to hard for me and its not fair on DB to have this annoying moody cow gf.
I had a friend who offered to be a surrogate - but she would drink through the preg and i'd get the $#!t's with her so that is not an option plus I want to be the one who carries and gives birth.
I'm going to sit down tonight and talk with DB. see what he thinks, although I think he will say to try again. DB mentioned adoption since we saw a friend in town who adopted three african little ones (just gorgeous!) but we couldn't afford it plus we don't live in a proper house etc so would prob get rejected anyway.

[Sparkles]

Tina - Big hugs hun, i'm sure whatever you decide will be the right choice.

Ferals - thats unfair to say the least about the IVF $$$, it is ridiculous......lol at the condoms!

Elise- my pre O temp is from 36.1-36.4 then jumps to about 36.6-36.8 after O. My temp tends to climb the 3 days after O then steady out, so day after O could be 36.5, next day 36.6, then 36.7. Was it you who asked about OPK's?? I get mine from lullaby conceptions(online), they tend to work a bit better for me than ebay ones and they are still cheap. You can also get combo OPK & Preg. test packs.

So after my grumbling & moaning to you all this morning, i just did an OPK and got about a 3/4 strength line, so i would say i will have a positive positive this afternoon or tomoro (they have always got progressivly darker). So fingers crossed things start to happen in there and then i can see what my LP is doing after the D&C ( and we won't have to use condoms once i'm 150% O has come and gone)!

[Jahzara]

Tanya -

Tina - it cant be an easy decision for you -

AFM - well have just been to the toilet and the brown discharge is back - medium brown and more than last time....no cramping at this stage...sorry if TMI.
Just when i could see a glimmer of hope - i hadnt had anything go wrong for 2 whole days.
Now i feel totally deflated again.... i am starting to think this bubby isnt strong enough to hold on.

I definitely got on the wrong rollercoaster !



xoxox

[TinaR]

Chickybabe: your gonna have a with your beautiful bundle soon...sit down - legs up - take it easy... for you.

Thanks everyone I'm kinda lurking in here all day while at work, ready to post a rant if I have a preg customer lol... (well, kinda laughing)

[ferrals5]

Tina-don't give up on your dream to be a mum maybe just back off a bit and don't set your life around it and if it happen's then great then there is no stress on you and DB i was beside myself with stress trying to get pregnant to give my DH a baby i felt a failure that i can give my ex children but i cant have a healthy baby to the love of my life when i sat down and talked to DH about it he felt the same way and felt he failed me so we made the decision to do the ivf 1-2 time's if that fail's we try natrually until i turn 37 then if we dont have a healthy baby by then ( April 2011) we call it quit's so we have a plan and we are now relaxed about our choice and are just getting on with it and i don't feel so much pressure and i am not putting a baby before our relationship anymore it is helping me so far i will see how i get if the ivf dosn't work and we are back to trying natrually.

[Sunny Love]

Coco!!! I thought u'd disappeared!! So glad to hear ur still hear!
FR prg tests are good. They picked up my first prg, but for the 2nd I used the brand Confirm. Im lucky that I work in a DR's surgery as it means unlimited tests for me!! hehe. Seeing and hearing the heartbeat was amazing, to say the least. The HB was 162BPM and bubs is measuring at 1.6cm, so DH and very happy! Thanx for being happy for us! Im hoping u get those two beautful lines in the next couple of days. After a loss, well, as you can imagine, you just have a huge appreciation for all the smaller things in life.

Chickybabe....try not to stress. My discharge returned today, but has gone again. My stomach is slightly tender, but I am having trouble keeping my food down, so thats probably why. I can only eat fruit. Everything else makes me dry reach

[Sparkles]

Sunny - So good to hear, such a strong, fast heartbeat.

AFM- well i got my definate positive OPK this morning on CD17, so will O tonight or tomoro, will be curious if i still feel it as i did before, and then just wait see what my LP is doing. Very excited, its better than O'ing on CD21. Will be having a pretty quiet day today, DH had a boys night out last night so is all hungover and back in bed again. Just have a bit of washing and stuff to do then might go visit the MIL for lunch. Feeling alot better about not being able to try this month, i have got past it and know its for a good reason and at least my cycle is doing what it should.
You guys are all sooo great with support, this forum is priceless.
Everyone have a great sunday

[eliselouise]

Morning all, hope everyone is having a good weekend.
So ive had a temp rise this morning (36.1 on wed & thursday, 35.8 fri & saturday, 36.5 this morning) so i used an OPK to see what it was saying and i got 2 lines but both not real dark (control line a little darker than test line) so im assuming that is a positive but not too sure. Does anyone else use First response OPK's and what are your experiences with them?? Hopefully we will be able to BD tonight if db is not too sick, he has the flu and is feeling like crap so didnt want to last night, grr just our luck that he is sick when we need to do the deed He said hes feeling a little better this morning and hes out in his shed so i suppose thats a good sign
Anyway im off to bunnings now to get some prices on bathroomware, we are renovating our bathroom and cant wait for it to be done so im trying to hurry it along, which is quite hard when im waiting on quotes from builders, they are so slow and im getting very frustrated
Enjoy the rest of your weekend girls and TTYL

[ferrals5]

elise-your test line has to be as dark if not darker than the control line i asked my FS as i get a line for my whole cycle on the first response opk's but the one's i get online i only get a dark line 48hr's before i ov until the day after so they can be miss leading but if your line is darker than that's a positive i think BD every 2nd if not every day around then will give you a good chance.

NEGATIVE: If two lines are visible, but the line in the test region (T) is lighter than the one in the control region (C), or if there is no line in the test region (T). It indicates that no LH surge has been detected.

POSITIVE: If two lines are visible, but the line in test region (T) is the same as or darker than the one in the control region (C). It indicates that you will probably ovulate in 24-36 hours.

[eliselouise]

Thanx heaps ferals, must have been a negative still. Have no idea whats going on with my body and dont wanna wait more cycles to try and work it out. Oh well hopefully it just happens without me needing to work it out

[India's Mum]

Elise - I never got those tests to register ovulation correctly. My doctor told me to throw them away. I am not suggesting you do that but if you feel you have other signs (I go by CM) then don't let the opportunity pass. Good luck!

We have to move out of this house this week as the floors are being done. Renovations are a pain as well as a blessing.

[coco1411]

Hey all

I like the opks just as a secondary thing now that i have been getting the EWCM after the operation. but before that they confused me as I was getting no cm at all. I thought i was but clearly not..

I am 11dpo today and didnt hold off like I was told but I bought some tests to do tmo and the next day but I have to be honest and say Im feeling pessamistic now ugh

Hope you're all well! Last night in brissy today, off to Nanny & Poppy's tmo in Tweed Heads then we're heading home! Yay!

[SuperstarMumsy]

Morning ladies,

I feel a little sick in the tummy and very OMG OMG OMG! I got a very dark just before! I told DP who didnt seem very excited - probably due to what happened last time it is easier not to get excited for him - hurts to be taken away I guess! Is it normal to feel this apprehensive about it! I should be happy but feel like the same thing will happen again! I feel like I want to throw up...and I really dont think it is MS!

On a positive note though...other than the :BFP: maybe there is something to be said about the D & C making you more fertile! This is second month and it took 5 months to fall last time! I feel bad for others that it takes longer for....I know it has felt like years and years of trying for a baby - I cant even imagine what you guys are going through!

Hopefully you all dont mind me sticking around until my dating scan - that was when we got the bad news last time :-(

Hope there is more :BFP: to come this week!!!

[ferrals5]

Way to go Superstarmummsy
Everyone is going to leave me with there BFP's

AFM i'm still waiting waiting sick of waiting for my phone call.