Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - December 2009
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So sorry I haven't been around much... all this ttc talk really has begun to do my head in!! I can get so obsessive that I needed to take a stap back...
So I have no idea what is going on, so I will have to go back and read up on where you are all at.
AFM... at the business end of the TWW... I feel sick at the thought of doing a test... but not sure if I can wait and see... I tested yesterday and got a BFN... and I was crushed... *sigh*
I hope you are all having a wonderful day.
xx
Last edited by Tanya; December 12th, 2009 at 08:03 AM.
afternoon all,Greencake-christmas cruise,good for you,sounds great.bon voyage...snugglebean-good luck with testing,you'll be up,up,and away soon,the spot sounds promising...eliselouise-good luck friday...murraycod-af just doesn't like to co-operate does she,still hoping there is a reason for it...tanya-hope it was just too early to show up on test.there is a few of us in the tww...
New thread, New month - hopefully its a good one for alot of us.
Tanya sorry to hear your having a tough timne, i know what you mean im the same at the moment, kinda struggling with it all. Hopefully its just too early for a bfp, i tested on the weekend too only to get a BFN and was also shattered. Hope its a Bfp for you in the next few days.
Snuggly the spotting sounds very promising, hopefully it was implantation bleeding and you can get a BFP for xmas, not long now till your holiday bet your getting very excited.
AFM still very sore boobs today and sick feeling till about 2 or 3 in the arvo but trying not too get my hopes up as i dont want to be shattered if im not.
So who else is in the TWW with me?? Anyone testing this week??
Talk to you all soon
Hey gals - bugger all this heartache, it just doesn't go away.
Good luck with any TWW's. It's hard to resist isn't it? Even with the knowledge it might not be the news we want and our little spirits are crushed, but somehow we keep doing it.
Lets see how I go, I am at day 16, I expect the anticipation and anxiety of AF's appearance will mount as time draws closer.
I wonder if, because we want a particular outcome so much that we overthink every little symptom as confirming our hopes? Me for instance - feeling a little nauseous lately, which gives me hope, despite it being far too early..... and some cramping and feeling tired and having more saliva and being more sensitive to smells....ah but strangely no sore boobs......I am just going to have to be strong to put them out of my mind.....else I will go balmy.
Murraycod - hope you get an answer to your symptoms. Tanya & Eliselousie hopefully just too early for a test....
I have just worked 2 consecutive days, a day off tomorrow and then another 2 consecutive days. First time since mid June this year. Still not back to full duties, but that suits me. That won't happen until the new year. Means a lack of stress.
It's quite sobering to realise so much of my year this year has been spent in immediate and active grieving.
good luck matthew's mum hope you get your bfp soon. snuggly and elise, those symptoms you have sound very promising. i hope you just tested too early eliselouise and Tanya, i know the waiting is hard!
dory, you sound like you have had a really tough year, and this yeah has been the worst year ever for me too. Hopefully 2010 will be lucky for us! when are you testing?
greencake enjoy your trip! i am so jealous lol
afm, you will notice by my new ticker af is here strange to be happy about it but there you go. we are officially ttc again this cycle, yipee
i just wanted to add, i have been taking supplements to regulate hormones, it's called nature's own pms essentials and i just got it from the chemist. i really would give it a try if you need help with regulating your cycles as i think it did work for me x
Last edited by scarypinkfairy; December 8th, 2009 at 07:50 PM.
: adding a bit
Scarypinkfairy well done babe your at the start of a fresh month! I'm jealouse you got AF and I didn't..............I must sound completely stupid
Snuglybean not long to go now! That spotting you speak of does sound like early good news! No drinkies for you on your holiday hehehe!
Elise your symptoms soun good too! Hope you get to start off our happy December Xmas presents!X
Dory IKWYM luv, as excited as I am to start my IVF cycle, I can't beleive how much heartache has surrounded me this past year X Cyber hugs to you X
Matthew'sMum how far into the TWW are you?
Me very crampy tonight, sure tomorrow will be the day, just want her to be a bit kinder to me than I think she's gunna!
Speaking of which, hope you are doing ok Ferrals, thinking of you X
I got my quotation in the mail today,
Total $8500
We pay $5600, rest is bulk billed to medicare
Overall out of pocket $1030
VENT TIME
I just found out, that a lady I know of in town has just found out she is pregnant with her 6th child, the last 5 have been taken off her by ChildProtection because of her drug and alcohol abuse and unstable lifestyle.............I'll bloody give her unstable!!!!!!!!!!
To think of what we all have to go through in this thread, does not make sense to me.
The hoohaa my DH and I had to go through getting police record checks and child protection checks and stat declarations to see if we have a bad record with children..and then this lady...(poor excuse for one) can just pop another one out, and prob get supported by the government for it!!!
Infertile criminals obviously are not able to breed by new government law in Victoria if they have a record, but if you are a fertile one, go for it, Ill pay your way through my taxes, put your feet up.
Sorry girls, needed to get that out so I could sleep
Murraycod- i know how you feel ( well some bits of it anyway) My SIL (not the lovley one on here) has just had her 3rd little girl, not long before i lost Kyarna, her eldest is in care at the moment and they want to take the 1yr old and the 3month old becuase they have tried all they can but she cant get her act together and look after her kids. I dont see how it is fair that some people have to go thruogh the most devistating loss and the heart ache of TTC and others get to pop them out without another thought. Sorry taht turned out a little bit longer than i wanted LOL but as you can tell it gives me the ****s too...
Eliselouise- good luck hun! i have everything crossed that this is your month, how awesome would it be to hav that great news in our new thread!
Tanya- I am so sorry to hear that you are having a rough time right now... i am learning very quickly taht this TTC gig is not all its cracked up to be. Waiting to test, testing when you know its to early, testing and then convincing yourself that it was just too early.... I really hope that this is it... for all of us!
Mathewsmum- how are you doing??? I am a bit behind but i think, you might be in the TWW?? i really hope that things are going as smooth as they can for you
Dory- i know you have probably heard this so many times but i am so sorry that your year has sn so much greif, i am really sorry that you have to go through all this. are you enjoying work? it might be enough of a distraction to take you mind off somethings and allow you to relax enough to get your bundle XOXO
SPF- Good Job on AF lol i still cant believe that sometime people want AF ROFL I hope this fresh start brings you lots of good luck!!
AFM- I have no idea what i am doing !! one minute we are full on ttc and the next minute... LITTERALY i think that we should just not... i know deep down that i want another baby and that i will not feel complete till i hear the pitter of feet running through my house. I dont know about anyone else but are you sick of people giveing you advice you just dont want to hear... i am sick of hearing... just be happy with the 3 you have.... you think im not happy that i have 3 children?? cause as much as it looks that way i am over the moon and i love my children so much, but that doesnt make it hurt any less that Kyarna died, or make me any less of a mother because i feel that we should have another little bubba!
GRR sorry lol this turned out to be a rather long post... guess that is my punishment for lurking and not posting!!
Good luck to everyone in the TWW and i am really really sorry to anyone i have missed!!!!!
I am hearing you murraycod. Thats one of the reasons I left midwifery on a permanent basis as I was sick of getting abused by undesirable parents whom shouldn't of been having children and most were taken of them by DOCS and it wasn't number 1 or 2. Half of them were up to number 8-10 even 12. Plus the baby was withdrawing etc but apparently it was all our fault. I really don't miss that part of it. BFN for me this morning. Just waiting for AF to arrive. Just wish it would hurry up so I can get on with it and so its not here for Christmas.
Eliselouise-it sounds promising my fingers are crossed for you.
Snugglebean-hope they spotting it a good sign.
Dory-i dropped back to 3 days a week while we went through the PGD IVF and i'm in no hurry to pick my shifts back up i am enjoying being home a bit more.
SPF-yeh! back on the offical ttc wagon good luck this will be everyones year 2010 will bring lots of babies for us all.
Murrycod-i have been thinking of you also i wish our PGD IVF cost the same as yours we could afford to keep trying we just got our medicare rebate of $8,800 so we are out of pocket eprox $5,700 plus $900 for extra meds and about $1000 for all the 1st appt with FS and geneticist and andrology than add the petrol to sydney $300 and parking $150 then the speeding fine going for EPU $84 and the parking fine when we had 10 minutes to make it for U/S of $141 so about $8,300 all up out of pocket it made a huge dent in my bank account ouch!!!!.
And i have a friend whos daughter just had her 3rd baby the 1st is in doc's care the 2nd lives with the grandmother and the 3rd is being monitered by doc's until they decide what to do with it the mother keeps the babies until she recieves the $5000 from the government end then gives them up not fair hey and she even offered to give me some of her eggs i said no way my eggs are fine its the two of us together that have a genetic issue but i said you wouldnt understand anything about that you dont even know who the fathers of your kids are.
Ouch on all the undeserving parents out there! I see it a lot, working in childcare. My boss and rest of my workplace want me to stay on after Christmas, but emotionally I am well beyond the threshold of what I can manage anymore. So I'm outta here! 11 work days to go!
I'm testing on Tuesday. But I doubt I'll hold out that long, so I will also test on Sunday. Yippeee! boobs still sore, tummy occasionally churning.
hi everyone,eliselouise-finger crossed for you...dory-hope next year brings you more healing,i agree our bodies seem to play tricks on us sometimes ,af symptons,early preg symtons can easily mistaken for each other,throw in some fertility meds and it is anyone guess what happening.When i'm on clomid i always get sore boobs,this cycle on the highest dose ever been on,no sore boobs,which could me an indication of no 'o' but had 'o'pains and urine test showed i 'o',but then i've heard it's possible clomid can give false results on 'o' sticks,asked fs and he said to still go by them.Just have to see what next tuesday brings...scarypinkfairy-great news...murraycod-has she come yet.I'm testing next tuesday...Mummyof4-i too get those comments,how are your other kids dealing with the loss of Kyarna?I know to well it's hard on them to ...Emmy-that would of been hard for you...ferrals- watching you ticker,some festive b'ding coming up...
Still luking in the background and so glad we on a new thread the last one didn't see to many BFPs so Im hoping this one will see us into the new year and some long awaited BFPs,
Spfairy so glad you got Af at long last seems we both needed a kick start so goodluck TTC and hopefully a BFP really soon for you !
Murraycod hope AF turned up today she is way overdue !
Mummyof4 I get the same comments all the time since I had my 5th anyways but its our life and as long as we take the responsibility seriously and bring our kids up in a safe loving enviroment and love doing the job we do then its no-one elses business.
I am very happy with my brood and would do anything for anyone of them and I try to show them the true meaning of life to love one another and to be grateful for what we have and treat others as we wish to be treated, nothing else really matters in my book anyway. My DH and I are celebrating 21yrs of marriage next year and have both worked together with our kids over the years to make life as fun as possible and when your kids grow up and people say they are a credit to you then you can beem on the inside and know you did a good job.
But when you discover your having a baby its so exciting even if its number 10 and you plan your new little one into your life and then WHAM ! a few months later you either MC or have a loss and life just gets turned upside down, I would have been happy not to have fallen pregnant again but to be pregnant and then loose it 3 mnths later well that is just too much to bare so that is why we are here in this TTC thread we need to feel whole again and have that bundle that we were so looking forward too.
Been rambling a bit sorry ! all those in the TWW with me and I am trying to ignore all those symptoms we think we may have I have said before OUR BODIES LIKE TO TRICK US ! I will be testing next sat morning the 19th when I will hopefuly be a day late !
MM & SB, Good luck for next tuesday I bet it feel like forever away!!
Emmy, Sorry about the BFN They are painful! I hope AF stays away!!
Mo4, ttc is so hard, esp when it includes losses (((hugs)))
SPF, I hope this cycle is it for you!!
Dory, I hope work isn't too hard on you (((hugs)))
EL, when are you testing? Your symptoms sound promising Good luck!!
MC, did she turn up? Cause she won't be visiting here for another 8 months!!
Yep, that's right, I got me a BFP this morning!! I thought it was a BFN and after a few minutes went into some real light and there was a faint 2nd line there!!
Last edited by Tanya; December 12th, 2009 at 08:04 AM.
CONGRATULATIONS tanya so Happy for you. How many DPO are you? Just curious as to how early people gets theirs. Mine have always come up early thats why I know I am out this cycle.
Tanya-about time someone started our good luck run congratz.
Snugglebean-8 days bet your looking forward to the nice break and not long for your holiday now.
Mathewsmum-b'dancing's not the word we have some serious business comming we have been safe for months so DH has that whole week on day shifts so he is in for trouble we will be making up for all the not trying months i plan on him begging me to leave him alone by the end of next week lol.
Craftmummy-you will be testing on my wedding day i have always referred to my man as defacto hubby and by the time i relised it was dear hubby i had gotten use to it but after 3 years i am going to marry the man of my dreams on the 19th of december so i hope you get your BFP that day and i hope i catch our egg this month it would be the best wedding present ever.
AFM-AF still going just real light now the IVF meds diddnt muck me up to much just prolonged it a bit should be gone tomorrow then the fun begins.
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Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - December 2009
strange to be happy about it but there you go. we are officially ttc again this cycle, yipee
I won't give her back!
Matthew'sMum how far into the TWW are you?
BFN for me this morning. Just waiting for AF to arrive. Just wish it would hurry up so I can get on with it and so its not here for Christmas.
I bet it feel like forever away!!
They are painful! I hope AF stays away!!
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