Thanks everyone for all that has been written. I have been doing alot of thinking the last few days and clearing my mind. Telling myself its not my fault and that i have to keep on going. I thank you so much for all your response's. It really does mean alot to have people to talk too about all of what has happened. You all have definatly given me alot to think about and made me feel better. So thankyou.
I hope to try again soon, ive never wanted my AF more than i do now. Want to get through these cycles.
****BABY DUST TO ALL**** **** HAPPY TIMES AHEAD****
Cuppy Welcome !
Sorry you had to join us here but we welcome you and hope we can assist you in some small way into getting on with your life after miscarriage. Its so hard when you see the scan and know in your heart nothing can be done, a lot of us on here have been there and done that some more times than they care to remember. Its devastating but you can get through it with time and a little hope. Its been 6 mnths since it happened to me and its been very hard to accept what happened but I promise it does get easier you have to give yourself a break and greive for your little angel. Hopefully you will not suffer too much pain and can get back to a normal cycle without any problems, as for trying again well thats all I could think about and I know how you feel and if its what you want then you should go for it. Do what you have to do to make yourself whole again ! to you keep well and don't be a stranger I too found myself on here and had never used one of these forums before and it was the best thing I ever did the women on here are the best and so supportive !
Hey Cuppy - Its the worst feeling. I to recently lost my lil man. 3 weeks ago at the 19week scan. Most heart breaking words to hear, i had no idea that he was gone. I was excited about seeing him.
I dont have much advice as im still raw like you. I just wanted to say that im thinking of you. Sorry you are here and feeling this awlful pain. I have found lots of advice from the other ladies here.
some days are just s**t. I'm sitting here in the office surrounded by boxes crying. The girl who worked for me just dropped in to tell me she's pg and due the same day we would have been .THE SAME DAY. Life is so damn unfair sometimes I just want to cry. I am crying. Why???????????????????
Thanks so much ladies, I think it has hit me today as my boyfriend works away and Ive held it together while he was home so he didnt worry and now I feel like I can let go. Im desperate to try again but there is also a little voice in the back of my mind saying what if it happens again but I guess thats normal. My Mum had two miscarriages one before she had me and one before my brother so I knew that it was a common thing. I guess the one good thing I can take from it is that we werent trying to get pregnant but we did easily. Im hoping that once the bleeding from the miscarriage stops and I have one cycle we can start trying and in the meantime maybe I can lose some more weight and do all the right things to help conceive. I think I thought because we werent trying it was meant to be and nothing would go wrong.
MissK - I cant imagine how it must feel at 19 weeks, that would be devestating Im so sorry and hope that next time will be better for you.
CraftyMummy - thank you for your kind words, I do really appreciate it and I wont be a stranger.
Alice
What a horrible thing to have to hear, Im yet to return to work but I know another teacher is due 2 days after I was due and Im dreading having to watch it all unfold.
Cuppy I am so sorry you have had to join a group like this. Huge welcomes to Bellybelly and I hope you love it as much as I do. Its been my saving Grace having women to talk to who know what we are going through.
Alice that sucks big time. I'll shed some tears for you too. I have had the same thing happen with same due dates also. One is my cousin. Then I have been invited to a joint baby shower for 7 work mates. Frankly I think its very rude considering our profession (midwives) and regardless of what I went thorugh another midwife had a still born baby 2months ago who was also due the same time as the other bubs were due. A few days after my ectopic bub was due. I think its the biggest insult to her. I know how it made me feel and her situation is alot different to mine. Plus we are midwives so we are suppose to have some understanding of grief and loss plus all the pregnant midwives are not having their first baby either. Plus we are all paying to but them presents except no one contributed to any gift, flowers etc when the other midwife had her baby too soon at 23weeks. It sucks. And as a result I have lost alot of respect for the girls I work with but thats for other reasons not to do with that.
Me I am expecting to get a BFP in about 6days I hope so anyway. I saw the Gyno this week and have blood taken tomorrow and depending on the results he might put me on clomid. He said he wanted to stimulate my cycles before I try IVF to see if it will work. I hope it works but I only have one bad tube so who knows if it will help. But we have decided not to try IVF until late this year now to give this other way a go and see if we can do it on our own over IVF. I am actually feeling positive but not looking forward to my due date next month
Sorry gals,
I think i am having series of s***t days...this whole month was a strong storm.
I got to know that my SIL had ectopic pregnancy detected on 2 march,10 when i was crying in pain of my EDD, she is in immense pain of loss (loss of bub and removal of one tube)...i am sorry ladies, i am trying to get over these days.
CraftMummy - Hang in there, you seriously deserve a BFP soon
MurrayCod - its MARCH now...ready for the Harvey. All the best hun. i wish all the luck to u.
Ferrals - Herbal diet and that plan sounds awesome. I am too trying to ristrict my caffeine intake and trying hubby to quit smoke alltogether. I hope that plan works out well for you. i am so happy, you found that chinese doc and now you enlightened all of us, that there are other factors involved in baby making...and diet is most imp and health of sperms and eggs.
IonaMacca, em, cuppy, missk and all new members - sorry for your losses and welcome to our thread.hope u all are doing ok
Anita - how was you day ? and what happened in the court? all the best darl', hope you get a quick fast coustody of kiddo's. and hows are you feeling? thinking of u.
matthew's mum - how are you?
SammyP, Jahzara, how are you lovely gals going? hows health? xox
more more thing MurrayCod - you motivated me to become a cleaning lady and thanks for reminder, i am trying to clean my kitchen.. but i am whinging while doing it... making DH insane. he already quoted "you are on rampage, you are thinking about your TTC, you dont even care, whether i hve taken my antibiotics or not" = Mad Gal, but i love your enthusiasm...
sarahrach - all the best for wednesday... 5DPO, good good, excited for you. i am also testing on Wednesday same as you 5DPO.
Why? Why is it that so many people have to experience this pain and loss? It just isn't fair. All I want is a baby to hold, just one. I used to think 4 would be great, but nine years on I just want one to bring home and love. I don't want to be strong, I just want to be pregnant again and have the baby I longed for so much and have lost. Sometimes I feel like it is almost worse than never having being able to conceive at all, this pain just won;t go.
Alice: Oh sweetheart, I'm so so sorry, sometimes it just creeps up on you, although this was more of a sledgehammer situation. I'm sorry this happened, I know it feels so unfair. Thinking of you xo
Cuppy: Sorry for the loss of your baby, but welcome to our forum, I hope it brings you some peace.
Ric: Sorry about you SIL, and that it's been a tough month, really hope you get some good news soon!
AFM: Day 35 today, had a tiny tiny bit of spotting, so hoping it's Day 1 again. Can't take much more of this waiting. Thinking of everyone, love!
alice-sorry,sending you lots of hugs.I don't think our pain will ever go away completely all we can do is keep going for the little one to come.I beleive when you get your next bfp,part of your bub who had to leave to soon will live on in him/her.May is coming...ric-hope this next month is better for you.Sorry to hear about your sil loss...missk-glad your feeling bit better...cuppy-so sorry youve had to find our corner of the world,hope your next bfp isn't far away.Keep thinking about the success stories after loss,there is a lot of them...hello to everyone
Im soo Disgusted~!!!
We got all the way out there for court and come to find out she also hired her attorney and stopped her free one she was getting.. and had her new lawyer file for conts.. well come to find out we was told they found out she had 2 warrants ( well then go get the kids off of her) and she never walked in the court at all today she set outside in her dads car( the grandmother who has the kids) anyhow there was a Sheriff waiting for her to walk in but her lawyer supposly told her to stay in the car.. were not sure if she knows about the warrants or not..
So the guradian calls me and tell me that they are doing the best they can to get the court hearing started again next week.. they all are fuming over this its bull**** .. I sometimes hate this court systen for kids cause they have the power to do a emergency removal on the kids and have not done so yet.. so its ****ing me off so now we got to wait another whole week if the get a court date for next week! its frustrating..
i need a Stiff drink..lol
So Sorry im i needed to vent..
Sorry for the ones to join us here..
Best of luck to all prating u get a BFP.. =]
I cant believe the amount of pain and hearts that are breaking. Its not far at all. Everyone deserves to be happy.
New to this - Yeh its horrible. Ive cried everyday since. Looking for answers but just cant find them Same here, We want to try again straight away but at the same time i am so scared of it happening again. I never thought it would although my mum and sister have both been through it also.
Mildez - Glad you are being positive. Hoping for the best for you.
ric - Thanks for the welcome hugs for you and your SIL.
Alice - Its so unfair. I to feel the same. Everywhere i go i see pregnant people and baby boy stuff! Should be buying it now. Your a strong lady. I can feel that in your messages you have written. I hope you get your precious lil one soon.
KitFaerie - Hugs.
Matthew's Mum - Thats a nice way to look at it. I didnt think of it like that befor. Good thoughts.
TTCALoveChild - Thats terrible, I hope it works out for yor all soon. Court system is hard. we had to go to get visit rights for my step daughter. Took agesssssssssssssss and seems overwhelming sometimes. **fingers crossed they get a move on for you and help those children**
Crafty-yes this is my 2nd cycle on my gismo im on day 1 as AF turned up yesterday outside of the time i have chosen to press the button but am actually on day 2 i have read a lot of women have success within 3 months but seeing we have toxic DNA (LOL) at the moment our little embies lose there oomph before they can stick so we will concentrate on detoxing and just keep trying and did you read my comment on the 48 year old with her own eggs pregnant you have no problems.
Sunbeam-I will miss my ginger beer sooooo much hope the BT give you some answers.
Welcome cuppy we are a great bunch of gals here and hope you get all the support you need i know i do.
Mildez-cross my fingers for your BFP.
Ric- not long for you either have you poas yet.
TTCALC-s##t s##t s##t what a bummer hope you get it all sorted soon and those kiddies are blessed to be in your arm permantly.
Ferrals: LOL! It's for your baby honey, you'll be fine!
TTCALC: Crap. That sucks. Really hope it works out next week. Stay strong!
Alice: How are you going today? Thinking of you xo
MissK: I know how you feel, there's all this need and fear all wrapped up. I think you just have to live with both, and a lot of support and hope! I found out about 2 of my Aunty's m/c when I had mine, it was nice to know other ppl understood, they still spoke about it sadly, so I dont think it ever really disappears.
AFM: Day 1 today, so that's a relief. I've been crying sooo much lately, I didn't expect this part to be so hard, I just kept thinking I didn't want to be doing this, I wanted Splat back. Day 1 always brings a new start though. I have a good feeling about this month, all systems go!
TTCaLC - that sucks. Sucks for you, sucks for your DH, sucks for the kids. Sounds like a lawyer-fest and that's only ever good for lawyers. If they have warrants why don't they enact them? Sorry, you must be so frustrated and angry. Hope it gets resolved quick smart and you get to bring those children home soon.
New To This - thank you and welcome. I'm sorry for the loss that has brought you here and I hope you'll find support here that you need. Lovely women, every one of them, and they understand. Good luck with the return to work. Will be v. tough having that pg in close quarters but hopefully you'll be on your way again soon and can share in the ups and downs of that wonderful journey. Take care.
Mildez - thank you and I'm sorry you have a cousin due the same day, 'cause even though you love them that would still be tough. I'm a bit shocked about the insensitivity among the midwives and I agree they should have a better understanding. Surely they could do something lovely to celebrate the happy news while respecting and supporting and caring for you and the other midwife who have been through this awful grief and loss? It amazes me frankly how oblivious some people are, how lacking in care for others. The counselor I saw today was talking to me about how little acknowledgment there can be for loosing a baby and she recommended looking into online forums because there was a lot of support there. Lucky for me, I'd already found you all
Ric - how are you going?
Kit, MatthewsMum, MissK - thank you x Kit, sorry you have been crying a lot lately - good on you for looking toward a new start and I hope that BFP pounces on you!
Ferrals - if you hold your nose while you drink it does it still taste bad?? The 'juice' our naturopath concocted for us was vile. Think of it this way - the more yuck it is, the more good it must be doing
Hello to everyone else - Crafty, SarahRach, Jahazra, Snugglybean, Dory, cuppy, Sunbeam, Iona Macca, SammyP, Kirsten, and anyone missed sorry x
AFM - I had my first session with the counselor today and it was good. She said a few things that have stuck with me - that everything I'm going through is normal (nice to be reminded esp. after yesterday's melt down), that I need to treat myself as if I were my own best friend, and that each grief experience is different because each time we experience one we are different, but that they link to past grief experiences which can make it harder. All wise and reassuring. I'm glad I am going.
Hope the weekend is fine for everyone - no more snow OS and some more sunshine/rain here depending on where you are. Looking forward to some POAS action this week from our testers - good luck everyone xx
So much to catch up on, I tried to log on last evening but something must have gone bung on my computer cuz I wasn't able to read the last 2 pages or reply to any threads. Darn computers, lov em when they actually work!!
This is a very buisy thread ATM, sad. Great there is such a great bunch of girls here and plenty of support floating around, but I guess the reason for us all being here is totally crappy XX Huggs to all, I am having so much trouble keeping up to date.
Alice glad to hear the councelling went well, DH and I never saw a councellor, wish I had but would have to have drugged DH to get him in there, men hey!? Hope you are taking care, and that you feel more at peace with yourself now honey XX
MissK, I hope you are right, we need some happy times in here, I know I am in desperate need of!XX
TTCALC, sorry you had such a bad day in the court, never ever is a good one though, huggs to you honey, you are being so strong, I would be a total mess!XX You need a massage!XX
Matthew'sMum, glad to hear you are cruising along ok on the dreaded pill, I gaged every time I had to swallow one, my brain wouldnt accept why I was actually on it!!
Dunno how Ferrals can take what she is!! EEEWW!!!
Darling Ric, honey big huggs to you, I hope that your days turn into hapier ones, you are going through such a rough time. Take care babe and vent whenever you need to XXX
Snugglybean, if you lurking, hope you are doing well honey XXX
NewToThis, honey so sorry for your loss, you will be made feel very welcome here, and we hope you continue to share your journey with us XXX
FERRALS and KITF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am day one too WOOT WOOT!!!!!
I have now oficially booked on for treatment today, start the Clomid on Day 5 !!!!! Harvey/Hariet, (loved hariet ferrals!!) please thaw ok please please!!
to you keep well and don't be a stranger I too found myself on here and had never used one of these forums before and it was the best thing I ever did the women on here are the best and so supportive !
Cuppy I am so sorry you have had to join a group like this. Huge welcomes to Bellybelly and I hope you love it as much as I do. Its been my saving Grace having women to talk to who know what we are going through.
making DH insane. he already quoted "you are on rampage, you are thinking about your TTC, you dont even care, whether i hve taken my antibiotics or not" = Mad Gal, but i love your enthusiasm...
no need to say sorry
Its not far at all. Everyone deserves to be happy.
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