Ferrals - Honey - Sod them, people are going to judge you because that's what people do. I love the phrase that opinions are like bumholes - everyone has one and they usually stink. Honey this is such a deeply personal decision, so how other people feel about it is worth less than nothing. I am just sorry you had to hear it and it has caused you to question your path. Remember why you started this and don't let the ignorant intrude. My Mum always says...let them talk if they have the time, I've got better things to do.
Much love
Delly
Sorry eliselouise i posted before i saw your post i was to busy having a winge i am sorry you lost your baby i had my first M/C i think 9 years ago at 7 weeks it was like a heavy period after the product's of conception came away and then my cycle went back to normal my recent loss was an early induction and the same as giving birth i bled for week's ,milk came in ect i am assuming your loss was early i hope the bleeding settles down so you can TTC soon.
Yay Smallfry am so happy for you
ferals, people who havent been in your shoes have no right to comment like that, and in regard to ur other question I think I would ttc naturally, 3 in 4 is great odds to me.
Hi CatKat and Eliselouise, hoe your stay in here is short and we can all help you in our own way...
AFM still not bleeding so am glad of that, have no idea if or when I will O since havent tried charting etc, might have to consider it next time round.
Yay congratulations Smallfry!
I am so very happy and excited for you.
Ferrals, hunni, like th others have said its something u need to think about and decided if u are strong enough emotionally, but if it were me, i am ttc obsessed, so i dont think i could even not ttc naturally, so i think i would try naturally while saving money for ivf.
I do wish u all the best in what ever choice u choose and support you and your family in having the dream of extending your family.
Hello and welcome to the new ladies, i am so very sorry for your loss, and i hope u can fine comfort and support here.
Hello to everyone else.
afm, no af, spotting all gone again, i just want it to hurry up, its like an extra kick in the face every day she doesnt turn up!!
KM1&Anila -thank's heaps what you both said has giving me encouragment that what i am doing is the right choice for me 3 out of 4 chances of a healthy baby is not the be all and end all so my TTC journey continues and Anila i'm a bit obsessed myself with ttc now that i have an extra 3 months after the BFP until i can get excited i am more relaxed and not obsessing over every twinge and pain and cm and temp ect and have you tested yet when was RB due?
Cherished-how are you today i hope your feeling better.
Milly-hope your having fun catching that egg.
Sunny09-hope RB doesn't show.
Zacsmum,sunbeam,maddison,coco,mellyw,erybery all my bb girls have a great sat night
ferrals, im cd40 today, my longest cycle so far since ttc has been 42 days, and i tested last night with a fr and it was bfn.
My cycles ahve been 28, 32, 35, 42, 40, bfp, mc, atm cd40 with 5/6 days on of spotting or pink tinge cm, and more cm than i had after my bfp last cycle.
So im still in limbo, and i dont like it! (i like to be in control)
Haven't been on in a few days and so much has happened! Welcome to our new friends, I am sorry you are here but hope this group helps you
Congrats on the BFP!! I hope we see many many more soon.
I am back to working 7 days a week and I now have a really bad cold (swine flu? lol) and can take stuff for it if I want and that annoys me...I want to be preg again and be stuck with feeling like crap!
oh well, I guess all of that is why we are all in here. I think I am just tired. I went from M/C straight back into working 7 days (its only been 3 weeks) and apart from an occasional whinge on here I don't really get to express my feelings. Want to talk to DB but we just never seem to have the time anymore. I'm always at work.
Someone asked where I got the preg tests - from Oracle fertility off eBay. Am hoping to use one and get my bfp but same issue...no time to dtd when I work in town all week and am only home weekends.
SOrry no personals...I'm tired grumpy and just wanted to whinge.
As frustrating sa they are to see because they are not mine I hope to see many BFP turning up over the next month...it gives hope that it will happen.
Hi all, thanks so much for your messages yesterday. I was out of action for the day as we were on the go all day and had friends around til 11:30 last night. Totally knackered today! In the morning I ended up going back to bed and waking up DH and telling him he's going to be a daddy (my kids are to prev partner), he was so excited.
Ferrals - you asked for an opinion yesterday and I feel the urge to give one. If it was me, and I had the cash to do the procedure, I'd probably give it a serious shot. I know the chances of successful implantation are much smaller than a happy outcome with natural conception, however, having seen you go through the trauma of having to decide to terminate Abbi, I don't think I could personally go through that a second and possibly third or more time. I guess, when you look at how long it's taken to conceive at all, a 40% chance of successful implantation is not so bad, especially since you would know already that the embryo is healthy.
As for the people who are having a go at you, I agree with what has been said, it's your life and your decision (along with your DH and existing children) and they are clearly right there with you through this process so no-one who matters is upset about you trying.
Clearly, the decision of which way to go is yours and DH's. My thoughts and prayers are with you while you make this decision. Ultimatelly, what you chose will be right for you and it will be something that is not entered into lightly.
Anila - sorry to hear you're still getting bfn. I had hoped we could move through together. I guess I want to move through with all of you as it seems so unfair for everyone to be stuck without their baby's growing inside.
tinar = that's a pretty tough routine for you! I wish you could have had some time to relax and come to terms, at least a little, with what has happened to you. I do hope that, even with such a hectic schedule, you're able to get that little egg very soon.
eliselouise - sorry you've had to join this forum but you will be so very well supported here. The last month or so that I have been in here I have met the most beautiful women who have helped me through a very tough time. Good luck with your baby.
sunbeam, coco, cherished hope you're all ok.
To everyone else - sorry not so much persies happening today. Kids are on me to get out and do stuff but know that you are all in my thoughts (scattered though they are) and I pray you all have babies you can hold in your ams soon.
AFM - making an appointment tomorrow to go and see the gp and get bt done after my last exam on Tuesday morning. I meant to ring yesterday but we were so busy I forgot until after lunch time and they close at 12 on Saturday.
Thank you Ladies for all of the warm welcomes xx
Greenslw best wishes for you I hope u/s goes well.
Elisilouise I know we are all here for the same reasons but it is so nice to chat to Ladies that are going thru the same thaugts as we are, isn't it!
I come from a small town and not very many people are open and talk about these things, (you will only get talked about if you do!)
So it's like I have stumbled across this little new world that I belong to, and do feel comfortable in.
Ferrals I love the bumhole saying too hehehe.
You know that whatever decision you make, we will all support you here xx
Smallfry........ CONGRATULATIONS BABE
Enlightens my heart when I see that people can succeed if they are patient enough, I hope we all have BFP very soon and have happy healthy babes in the end.
Once again thanks to all for the warm welcomes from everybody
I have some great news! I FINALLY found a FS in newcastle and I have an appointment for the 26th of this month! Also DH is getting his swimmers tested today but im worried because we havent bd for a while and he hasnt "self serviced" so hoping it wont matter too much, if it does he might have to retest boooo..
I have my gynae appt on monday too and i think my best friend from Mackay will be flying down especially to come with me
Hope everyone is doing well. i ordered my month of OPK and HPT POAS yesterday so im set for the month and Im trying to think of something positive if my life every day because I have been really really depressed. So...today the positive thing is, my cat Coco is being very lovey dovey towards me which is odd *ok i know she is just cold* and i have a chicken in the slow cooker
I'm sort of in limbo at the moment. I miscarried at the end of May and now I am just waiting for my first period. My doctor doesn't want me to begin trying again until I have had had one cycle. How long have others had to wait for their first period? Does it take a bit longer than normal?
Welcome Newbies!!!
Sammy P: My dr's told me to wait 3 months before trying, but I didn't. Needless to say, I haven't got pregnant and my cycles are obviously still regulating. Every woman is different but I would suggest listening to your dr. Sorry for your loss though. I hope that in time you areable to find the strength to move forward.
AFM: Im like you Anila, waiting! Thought RB would be here by now. My first cycle after d&c was 15 days,2nd cycle was 24 days, 3rd cycle was 30 days and my average cycle used be 32 days. Hmmm. Haven't tested in 2 days and too scared too. No symptoms so no point I gather.
Coco: IM SO HAPPY TO HEAR YOUR GOOD NEWS ABOUT YOUR APPTS!! GOODLUCK BEAUTIFUL!
Hi Sammy, welcome and sorry for your loss. It's different for each woman when AF returns. For me, I had a very easy (?!?!?!) MC. It was like a normal period but excruciatingly painful and ridiculously heavy. I then went immediately back into my normal cycle of 28 days. I waited one cycle, didn't try the first month, mostly because I had no idea what would happen re ovulating etc. and have managed to just get my BFP on Saturday morning!
It may be dependent on how regular your cycle is or any number of other factors but unfortunately, it's impossible to say for sure. I hope you don't have to wait too long for AF and that your BFP comes soon on it's heels.
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thanks for that i feel so much better you girls always no what to say
well done I bet you are over the moon.
hehehe.
Also DH is getting his swimmers tested today but im worried because we havent bd for a while and he hasnt "self serviced" so hoping it wont matter too much, if it does he might have to retest boooo..
you have a jelly bean in the slow cooker soon!
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