Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2007

[satya]

Hi everyone,

Welcome Sacha. I am so sorry for your loss. You have come to the right place for support. I think we all worry if we will ever have luck again and then if we do it we will all worry about another m/c. I've had two - one years ago (TTC for 8.5 years with my ex) and one recently (after 9 months TTC with my DF) so I am not confident about things working out for me in any hurry and my time is running out as I will be 41 this month.

Lee - I caved in this morning too - in the hope of some happy news for mothers day - and the test of course was a BFN.... as I pretty much expected. Repeat to myself... I will not test again unless I'm late.... I must make this my mantra.



My cramps have diminished over the last 24 hours and I've had some slight spotting today. The only one that remains is that I'm incredibly emotional. I am now convinced AF is on her way as I always spot before she arrives and the only time I didn't was when I conceived. I'm starting to think that all the "symptoms" I seem to experience in week 3 of my cycle might be getting caused by the hormone surge that comes with ovulation, only to disappear as I near my AF. I will be very interested to see what all my BT results show on Tuesday. Anyway, I will basically just wait for AF to arrive now as I'm sure I'm not pg.

My mothers day was a very emotional one. Burst into tears twice on my DF for no apparent reason today. I think it was just because I should have been celebrating it as a mum to be. My DF & I had breakfast out together, had a picnic on a mountain & an iceream as we walked along the beach. He went out of his way to make the day special for me. We also visited my mum in hospital and his grandmother as well. All in all a pretty good day.

I hope everyone got through today without too much sadness.

[Lee]

Hi ladies,

Well my news is that I was very surprised to see that AF showed up tonight. Not expected till next Wednesday, so a few days early. I guess my body is still re-adjusting after giving birth in March. My first AF was 15 April, and I normally have a longer than average cycle. So, here I am expecting to be late and hopefully UTD, and AF shows up early - assuming it is her. I have 2 children, aged 7 and 9, and with them and my latest pregnancy, I never experienced implantation bleeding. So, although I wish this is what it is, I'm not sure, but I don't think it is!! It's quite 'red' - and I understand implantation bleeding is more brownish, and not a heavy flow - any knowledge on this would be appreciated.

Ah, the journey to conceive is fraught with unexpected twists and turns...........

Satya - hang in there, you still have hope!! On Thursday I was having cramps (not painful, but enough for me to notice them) - and I was convinced these could be implantation - as I was 8 DPO. I'm now 11 DPO, so that's pretty early for AF would you think?

I'll let you know how the flow goes tomorrow!!

I got through Mothers Day - my 2 kids kept me wonderfully diverted from thinking too much about my baby boy who died in March. I only knew him for 18 hours, in a way, I wonder was he really here at all, taken before I even got to know him. I hate living in the land of "what ifs" - it's such a painful place to exist. I love my baby boy, but he's not here with me in the flesh. I love him, and have some lovely memories of him, and also some terribly painful and tragic memories too. I know I must keep looking forward to the future - and thats what we all must do - keep looking ahead and having HOPE that we will be rewarded with the thing we most desire.

And we do have HOPE, for sure.

Blessings to you all.

Lee xoxo

[Sharon19270]

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY EVERYONE!

pash I couldn't knit if my life depended on it, so that is why I do scrapbooking, but even that can't take my mind off testing LOL
satya it is very weird us cycle buddies having similar symptoms, we can only hope. I was very good and DID NOT CAVE IN AND TEST, don't know how much longer I can hold out though, I am predicting that Wednesday will be the day I test, but at least I will be 12 dpo and not 9 dpo like last cycle. That was so sweet to get a mother's day gift from your SD.
sacha77 sorry to hear about your loss, I that all of us have the same fears as you, so you aren't alone, I know I often think that I may not get pg again, and also worry that if/when I do I will miscarry again, I honestly hope that you aren't in here for too long and they do say that it can be easier to get pg after a miscarriage.
Lee I am finding it increasingly harder not to test each morning, you just need to try and wait a few more days, if I can do it, anyone can! You can be strong! LOL just read your update, and I hope AF isn't here for you, but also wanted to let you know that I have had luteal phases of 9 days and 10 days, both only once though so 11 days isn't unheard of and I think it is really only a worry if it is less than 10 days.
jenjams I am very proud of myself for not testing. Yay on you getting your coverline, I have my :crosfingers: for you. Sorry, can't help you with any info on the cramping, let's hope it's something good.
Leyla hope that AF arrives for you soon so that you can get on with your next cycle.
kbowman I had the discoloured ewcm too, hope your body gets back to normal soon.
satya I really do hope that the spotting isn't AF on her way.

I had a lovely mother's day, dh tried to let me sleep in, but all I could hear Jordan saying for about 1/2 an hour was that he was "starving hungry" he wouldn't have any cereal because they where taking me to maccas for breaky so I ended up getting up at 9. We aren't into "big" mother's day pressies, feel it is way too commercialised, so I got a lovely note paper and envelope boxed set with a pen on a keyring (school mother's day stall) and a chrisanthumum (sp?) which I hope I don't kill (I have a terrible track record with plants) so it really was a nice day. I still don't have any symptoms that I don't normally have before AF, well all except a headache that comes and goes once or twice during the day for the last 3-4 days or so. Does anyone know (or experienced) headaches during early pregnancy?

[jenjams]

Good morning all. I hope all out there had a lovely mothers day.
I am with you Sharon on Mothers day being way over commercialised. We had a good day yesterday. We went to see my Nanna and Mum and Dad came down from the country so we had a great day.

I woke this morning still with slight cramps, feeling very tired and with slight nausea. I am expecting the spotting to start shortly. If I was pg I dont reckon I would be having these symptoms because I am only 5DPO. The cramping hasn't stopped since O. It may be a virus.

Satya- You never know until AF arrives so their is still hope.

My fingers are crossed for everyone out there.

Have a great week.


Jen

[Lee]

Hey ladies - it's definately AF - oh well........... actually in a way I don't mind - as I'm almost a bit relieved and can stop obsessing for a little while anyway - till next month! I'm getting married in 2 weeks time, and that means around my next O time - so that will be a very appropriate time for a jolly good BD LOL !!!!!!!!

Sharon - hanging to hear your results !! And praying.........!!

Amanda x

[satya]

Hi all,

Lee - sorry your AF turned up unexpectedly.... things were looking so promising. On a positive note at least things will be timed well for your wedding.... perhaps you could conceive a honeymoon baby.... how romantic would that be???

Sharon - well done for not testing. I wish I hadn't. I didn't use 1st morning urine as I was determined not to test, but ended up using my 2nd one (before having anything to eat or drink) as I could not stop myself... knowing full well that it was too early and the wrong pee to use.... I'm absolutely hopeless. As for your headaches - they are a common sign of early pregnancy so hopefull that's a good sign. I've also had some over the last few days.

jenjams - Your symptoms sound promising. Early symptoms are a funny thing I think. The experts tell you that you can't get pg symptoms until 3-4 days after implantation so that's between say 6DPO (if you implant early on 3DPO) and 14DPO if you implant on 10DPO) but the internet is full of sites with women claiming to have symptoms from 3DPO onwards..... so I have no idea what the truth is.



I'm feeling a little more positive this morning. I'm 11DPO (CD24 of a 28 day cycle usually so AF would be due this Friday) and experienced a tiny amount of brownish spotting yesterday, and then a little pinkish spotting first thing this morning after a little more cramping. I normally only get brown spotting before my AF so I'm hoping that it's implantation spotting, but I'm not overly confident about that.

I am still feeling over emotional - had to hold off the tears reading about that baby being dumped at Dandy Hospital... it's not far from where I work... unbelievable for that to happen on mothers day. I get emotional before my AF so it really doesn't mean anything. I also had a .3 dip in temp this morning which I guess is either an implantation dip or it is a sign AF is on her way, but comparing my chart to others similar to my own I noticed a few pg charts that looked like mine but most were ovulatory so I think it will be the latter. I hate this wait.

[jenjams]

Satya- I saw the news last night about the baby being dumped at the Dandy hospital. I dont know the facts of the case but on face value, how can a mother just dump her new born.......
Lee- I have my fingers crossed for you for a Honeymoon conception.

I guess only time will tell if my symptoms are actual symptoms or not. I could handle going back to bed for a nap today though!

[Herbie]

Hi girls, long time no talk,

Sacha-That is exactly how I feel so you are not alone. I think "I could get pg before so why can't I know" & then I know when & IF it ever happens I will be so scared of m/c. Don't feel alone there are lots of people that feel exactly the same. I had mine back in Nov 06 and am still not pg. Phoned my ob last week who said come & see him I said I will wait a couple of months & if not pg I will make an appt to go back & see him. I get so stressed cause I know I can get pg but now it won't happen. Ob said it may be because worried about it too much. Getting to the stage of jsut being "over it". Hope this helps a bit.
Everyone in here will support you lots though.

Sorry haven't been in girls but am struggling a bit at minute & as I said I am over it all really. Once AF arrives again, I am giving up temping and will take a break from here as well & my poor DH will not know what has hit him. Congrats to all the and lots of to everyone else

Herbie
xx