thread: Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2007

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  1. #1
    Registered User

    Nov 2006
    Hassall Grove, NSW
    847

    well ladies I am feeling a little disapointed this morning as my tests aren't getting darker, not even the 10mui ones from LC so I am not going to get my hopes up, think I will now leave it and wait until either Saturday or Sunday until I test again.

    Sorry for no personals, I have heaps to do today, will bbl tonight.

  2. #2
    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2006
    Perth
    766

    Hi guys,

    Lee - so sorry to hear about your boy. I definitely agree re med neg (I am a lawyer); it definitely sounds like he should have been seen asap if he was having breathing problems. You poor thing - it must be so awful to hear that news and find out how easy it would have been to prevent this from happening if they had done the right thing. I am thinking of you today sweetie

    Sharon - sorry to hear the tests aren't getting any darker, but keep in mind that tests do not measure the amount of HCG, just whether any HCG is present or not, and also, in some pregnancies HCG goes up quicker than in others. Just out of interest, how long is your LP? If this does turn out to be a chem pg (and I am not saying that it is), then a likely cause of chem pgs is a short LP, and that can be easily treated. If this does turn out to be another chem pg, I would definitely ask to see a FS asap to discuss this with them. It may be as simple as taking a small amount of clomid (as I am), or some other drug to lengthen your LP and prevent it from happening again. Best of luck that this one does turn out well, though! I know how you are feeling right now, and please, vent away if you need to - it helps! And try to remember, it is not over yet!!

    Salt - yay, it looks like you O'ed yesterday! Woo hoo!!! Now for the TWW. Best of luck for this cycle - I think things are definitely looking up for you this cycle, and I am looking forward to hearing of your BFP!!!

    Leyla - I am not sure what is going on with your temps. 20DPO, no AF and BFNs sounds a bit strange, although Salt is right, temping is not 100% accurate, and apparently for some women, it does not work at all. Also, you only have a hatched coverline, so it is possible that FFs O date is wrong (although it looks right to me). I suppose just give it a few more days and see your dr if still no AF or BFP. How long are your cycles normally?

    mummyto1 (soon to be mummyto2)- I hope I have the same luck as you on my first round of clomid and will be joining you in the world of pg asap!

    Hi to everyone else.

    I had my next BT this morning, although I don't think much is happening yet, as I am only on CD9. I would soooo love to O somewhere close to CD14 for once and am really hoping it happens. Apparently most women on clomid will, so I am crossing my fingers. I am a bit confused, as although AF finished on Tues, last night and today I am having some spotting (brown blood), which is unusual. I am not sure if this is normal or not or if I should be worried? It is only a small amount, but this is not usual for me. Anyone have any ideas? I am also feeling a bit down (again - I sound like a broken record these days). I think it is because the EDD of my first loss is next tues, and I keep seeing heavily pg women around and thinking that should be me; I should be about to go into labour any time now, and instead here I am. I really really thought I would be pg by the time my EDD came around, and never expected to be here, recovering from my second loss and having BTs galore and appointments, etc, and STILL TTC. I am also feeling really hopeless, like it will never work out. I just can't get my brain to believe that it could be ok next time. The chance of my next pg making it to term is 75 - 80% (and that figure is from my specialist), so I should believe that it will work. How do I make my stupid brain believe that!

  3. #3
    zionsmom Guest

    I got AF today so I am officially going to be around here more often.

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Nov 2006
    Hassall Grove, NSW
    847

    Bun thank you, I suppose I am just expecting the line to be darker just like my last pgncy, but I am also now thinking that implantation could have happened later this cycle. My luteal phase varies, the shortest one was 9 days (only once) and the longest 14 days so FF has given me an average of 12 days, but I think if this turns out to be another chemical I will be going to speak to my dr. Can't help you with the before O spotting, sorry, but hopefully you are nice and close to O and you will manage to get your sticky bfp, it must be very hard for you approaching your first angels due date :hugs:
    zionsmom glad to hear the witch finally turned up, good luck for this cycle.

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Mar 2007
    outer South East Melbourne
    2,881

    Just a quick drop by.

    Bun - intermenstrual bleeding including spotting is a symptom of Clomid so don't worry about that. I haven't yet booked my FS appointment. I don't think I'll go to the one the gp recommended. I am waiting for a return phone call from MIVF so hopefully I will have something organised soon.

    Sharon - try not to stress too much about the feint lines yet, but try not to get too excited either. When I my recent m/c at just under 6 weeks my lines did not darken and I'm thinking that was a bit of a warning.... could be wrong I guess. I also got one negative one in the middle of my positive ones.



    The last two days have been really difficult. I have been having some major mood swings and have been crying way too much. I seem to be OK again today, but I was yesterday until I got home from work and off I went again. I dread to think how psycho I'll go if I end up on clomid or any other fertility drugs as they messed with me majorly last time. My AF is pretty much finished.... a nice short one again - 3 days max by the look of it. Trying to get my head in a happy place.

  6. #6
    BellyBelly Member

    Apr 2007
    Hobart
    416

    Alex - thanks for all the info and hugs . There's so many questions...... I have made an appointment with my GP to go over the detailed final autopsy report next week (they won't send it to me, plus it's all medical jargon anyway). So, hopefully then I will know more. I can't even say for sure if my fluid was tested by the doctor when she broke my waters - it's not standard practice in Australia I've been told - some do, some don't. She broke my water about 10am, and I didn't deliver until 9pm, and had a bath in that time. I've a strong feeling bubs caught an infection in that time. I've now got another OB who is competent - and he said there's a couple of main reasons for infection - and one is the Group B Strep you suggest (in fact this account for the majority of causes of pneumonia in newborns) and the other is a staff type infection. Yes, they did tell me the baby did not test positive for GBS - as for me - I really don't know. My new OB ordered numerous blood tests on me the other week, and he called me today to say that I'm perfectly fine, no sign of anything.

    Whatever happened to my baby - it happened during labour and delivery - and he went downhill quickly after that.

    It's a relief to know what happened to him - at least I can call it something now - not SIDS. But it makes me very very angry too - but my hubby and I will be directing our anger carefully and making sure it hits the exact target - I know I have to do this for our boy - and others after him...

    His name is Luc.

    Well - still on track for a honeymoon conception - I hope you are right too!!

    Bun - thanks for your kind words and encouragement. I've been in touch with a med neg lawyer in Melbourne - it's obvious we have a case. First we have to finish our dealings with the Coroner. And Bun - you are a healthy woman - you will have a healthy baby. I tell you, and I don't know why - but the road to happiness for some of us can be a longer and more challenging road than for others. What I have learnt is that, although this can be a pain in the ar...e, it also means the rewards are greater, far greater for us when we get them. So, hang in there, I know it will happen for you soon, you are so worthy.

    Sharon - hang in there too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yep, maybe let it go for a day or two, hopefully you will get some more "signs" - and re-test on the weekend. for you xo

    Well - my awful AF has nearly finished. I went and had a lovely massage this morning - every part of my body aches - but I feel better for some nice attention - highly recommend one for you all.

    Satya - how are you? Wondering about you, as I know you've been emotional. Thinking of you - and I send you good strong vibes xo

    Thanks for your kind thoughts.

    Lee xo