Hi, can someone help me? I had a d and c on october 3rd, I would have been 12 weeks. The dr said by us that the baby's heartbeat stopped at 7 weeks. I had slight spotting for a few days after d and c, (pink, then brown). Now I have cramps and am bleeding just like a normal cycle. Could it already be a normal cycle? I already called the dr, the nurse said as long as there were no clots that everything should be fine. I am ready to try again. I had a tubal reversal in March, 2008 and was pregnant in July.
hey jonisteve - i am very sorry to hear of your loss at 12 weeks re ur question, it wasn't so much after a D&C (pg related) but after my lap/hyst/D&C i got AF 2 weeks later. It wasn't til my DH alerted me to it (bless him!) that I realised I actually got that AF at the same time my normal AF was due. I know it is different cos u were pg previously but I have heard that other ladies have received AF early after a D&C too. If you were seeing my ob, he would say to wait another cycle before TTC again as usually you need a full cycle to clean and nourish the uterus before D&C (according to him). Other ladies previously on this thread have not waited and gone on to have successful pgs, others have not. My ob advised me to wait 2 cycles before I could TTC - it was the LONGEST 2 mths of my life!!!!!!!!!!!!! But I got a BFP the cycle back after waiting. I don't know if this has helped at all but want to wish you the happiness you deserve after suffering this loss
BB & Jen - did I miss some chat yet again? *sigh* oh...and BB....I second Jen's motion on "hallucinations" -
There's only one thing for it...... I'm gonna have to change the kids over to night time care. That's the only way i'll be able to stay awake and chat with you girls (once I get java fixed). So much goes on during the night when I'm getting my beauty sleep (hang on, should be still there)
Jonisteve sorry that you've had to join us. I can't help with your question I didn't have a d&c with my m/c. As PLC says some drs want you to wait for one cycle others two, some say don't wait. I guess you have to do what feels right for you.
Smi - *wavin* thanks for the smiles you keep sending me. Love them
Chappas - have you been to see a dr, maybe a BFP will show up on a blood test.
Megsmum - all the best with you IUI . Sounds like you had lots of fun shopping.
Tam - thanks for the wishes but it isn't me that is in sync with my lunar cycle its Issy. Mine's the other end of my cycle, AF stuffed that one up on me a few months ago.
Jenushka - remember ZEN. you've got good results (and a great doctor). This bub is just showing you whose boss......
Well,,,,, I'd better get this place tidied up a bit before the kiddies come through the door, only 3 in today 2 x 2yo and 1 x 4yo. I might take them somewhere before they drive me crazy.
tks for the help. my husband works out of town during the week. so, i'll at least be waiting another wk.lol. i have my follow up appt. this thurs. i'm just in a little hurry cause i'm 44. don't want to wait too long. you know that the clock is ticking. i know that i was lucky to even get preg at this age after a tubal reversal. but, yes they do work and i was fertile before i have 4 boys 23-10. this is a new husband with no biological children of his own. we have been together for 10 years.
just to clear some things up, I am in the right thread as I am trying to concieve after miscarriage ( may 2008) after trying for 2 years and what i meant by " you lucky ladies who get pregnant" is that to me 6 or 7 months or trying is quick! I know to them it isnt, but to me it is. i meant no insult by this, more of a pick me up to them as there are ppl worse off, like me! I'm not here to cause trouble at all! I just see so many ppl with tickers counting down to there due date and im still stuck in the TTC forums I just feel like im the last one left. also i have pms haha anyway I hope all goes well with everyone and im going to assisted conception forum now as i think thats where i belong!
ME- registered maternity nurse 21
DP- marine specialist -army 21
TTC#1 over 2 years
one loss may 08
6th cycle since MC
CD26 of 28
I know it can be very hard to hear of women getting their BFP's, its never easy, but the truth is, the women in here have travelled a very bumpy road, no matter how long they have been trying. 7-8 month of TTC can feel like an eterninty when your'e faced with month after month of dissapointment.... then a little hope....then shattered dreams. I have been trying for nearly 4 years...it never gets any easier. Some poeple in this thread may not have been ttc for that long, but they certainly know what it feels like to be be faced with one of the worst kinds of sadness....dissapointment, fear, anxiety and hopelesness. We may have been travelling down the ttc road for different periods of time, but the road is bumpy from the get go. The only thing I can say (and im referring to myself only here) it that the longer you travel the more endurance you build. I feel like the 1st year of ttc was the hardest, because I had to deal with shattered expectations, from there on...I built some resiliance...and figure, well ive come this far, I can keep going...and I do. The truth is, we are all in the same boat and the best gift we can give eachother is to support eachother through this journey...ride the bumps with eachother, pick eachother up when we fall and coach eachother to keep going. The worst thing we can do is compare ourselves with eachother, for in doing that, we seperate ourselves from others and stand alone...a whole army is stronger than 1 trooper....right girls????
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jenushka - I'm so glad that you have a supportive doc in your 'Dr Amazing'. I've found a supportive doctor makes a big difference to the journey. Our Ob is fab & so wonderful, although I know he isn't a miracle worker and really had no control over this bubba it still really helped to have his support & encouragement. Yay for the hcg levels!!! The other doc (not normal one) doesn't sound that great though.
jonisteve - sorry you have to be here and big hugs to you. The ladies in here are fab and will help you through the ttcaml journey. It's a really tough time that we all know too well unfortunately. It took af 6 weeks after my first d&c to appear, then 4 weeks after my second d&c. We ttc straight away the first time but not the second as I had some tests so we had a 4 month 'rest'.
I haven't been on for a couple of days, so many posts, I did a quick read but I get all muddled and confused.
If anyone has advice on how to reply to others posts without getting it all messed up I would apprieciate it.
Well today I am 12 days late, our last was on Sunday. I cried for hours, I was so sure this was the month. My DH gave me a tablet and put me to bed. He left me there and there I stayed til yesterday afternoon. I was still hoping that I might be and that all the hpt's were wrong.
Then last night we got some bad news and I am actually glad I'm not UTD(that is something I never thought I would say).
My DH's cousin had a US yesterday. Her little boy died in her womb at 27 wks 1 day. And the idiotic public hospital sedated her and sent her home, telling her that either today or tomorrow she would have to go abck to have him. I can't believe they sent her home. They don't send you home at the private hospital, and they definatly don't muck you around with what day you will be going through labour.
I feel so bad because I was so jealous when she told us she was pregnant, i was happy for her but oh so jealous.
Yesterday I nearly emailed her to say we had brought her the rocker she wanted I am so glad i didn't.
I am releived I have gotten 's because I would have felt so guilty if I was UTD.
Why do I feel like I have just lost my 's again ??? Why am I absouloutly devastated for her, I know it's normal to be upset but I am more than that. I haven't stopped crying since last night, not even when I took my boys to school. I don't know why I am acting like this, but I can't snap out of it.
I am thinking about sending her mum a cd with the song we used at dominques memorial and a couple of other songs that have meaning incase they want to use them. What do you guys reckon??
When I found out she was UTD I told my DH we would have to buy her something really good, that was my way of coping, doing something nice for her made it easier for me to deal with. Now I just wish I could stop her from having to go through this.
Sorry for going on so much, I just wanted to talk to someone!
People always say life wasn't meant to be easy but they never said it would be this dam hard either!!!
issy- thankyou for the response, i was expecting ppl to think i was being nasty although im not, its kinda hard on here as ppl dont know your expression or voice tone. I too have built resilience and accepted the fact i will never find it easy to get pregnant. I just want some answers! we are both 21 and healthy and still nothing for over 2 years! and i get the whole your too young thing although I have completed a degree and we are both professionals and been together since high school and engaged. I just get frustrated sometimes as i spend so much money on doctors and ovulation kits and pregnancy tests and im sure your in the same boat. I also struggle coping with the loss of our baby at almost 13 weeks and EDD is in nov and im dreading it. Anyway i really hope all goes well for you and you can oneday take your baby home.
Good luck to all the other girls!
ME- registered maternity nurse 21
DP- marine specialist -army 21
TTC#1 over 2 years
one loss may 08
6th cycle since MC
CD26 of 28
thanks, everyone has been alot of help. I wish everyone the best of luck. only God can help all of us and all of you will be in my prayers. He has a plan for all of us. I guess our little angels were special and He has bigger and better plans for all of us. I know that I am new but I hope that none of us will be here long. I would like to see due dates that stay for everyone. Huggs joni
Easha--Aww, honey, I'm so sorry I wish I had something exceptional to say to help you feel less pain and disappointment. Know that this is filled with love and support... wish I could give it to you in person!
Mel-- I'm glad you found your way to our little thread, although for obvious reasons, I wish we weren't all here! You're definitely NOT alone with your feelings! I that we're able to offer you all the comfort and support you need throughout your journey.... And, hey, you're not jealous and bitter, you're heartbroken... it's normal and natural for you to feel that way! I hope your journey with us is short and sweet, and you're blessed with a quick, sticky BFP!!
mollycat--Yay! I caught some Thanks! How's that Java coming along? No luck yet? Did you sign up for a new account?
Hello's and to chappas (sorry about the BFN!), Milla, fifi, & Tam
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: added one thing
Will be back again later for the rest of the persies that I still haven't been able to finish! I'm working on it, though! Just don't want anyone to think I forgot them!
Sorry have been offline - have been in Syds with DP and limited internet.
Welcome Jonisteve - sorry for your loss darling hopefully your stay will be short. People tend to do either (chat or post) or both honey - do whatever you feel comfortable with.
Mummy of 3b - I am so so sorry that you are having to live through your loss again. I totally understand how this would bring all those feelings back. My heart goes out to your DH's cousin and she is in my prayers.
Chappas - so sorry sweetheart
Jenushka - what a wonderful doctor you have - that must have been terrifying for you - you can hopefully breathe a little easier now. Yay!
Issy and 21 - wise words darling - it is so easy to get lost in your own grief and forget people have had to walk their own path
Smi - Happy Monday to you too petal
Sorry to anyone I have missed - hate losing a couple of days on here I feel like a total novice when I come back.
AFM - had bloods done again yesterday to see when to start Syneral and was told by the receptionist that I am not to start Syneral as my levels are not right yet. This led to the usual bawling my eyes out and today I am waiting to speak to my FS to see what the dealio is. I think I started too early and need to wait for my next period b4 TTC with again. Oh well, I made some fabulous tahini balls in my grief stricken moment. I am one of these weird people that cook their way through sadness. There is probably a scientific tissue:tahini ball/anzac biscuit etc ratio I could use.
Love to you all
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a lot between now and then and hope everything is ok
(I love this one, this is what i want to do to mine!!)
re ur question, it wasn't so much after a D&C (pg related) but after my lap/hyst/D&C i got AF 2 weeks later. It wasn't til my DH alerted me to it (bless him!) that I realised I actually got that AF at the same time my normal AF was due. I know it is different cos u were pg previously but I have heard that other ladies have received AF early after a D&C too. If you were seeing my ob, he would say to wait another cycle before TTC again as usually you need a full cycle to clean and nourish the uterus before D&C (according to him). Other ladies previously on this thread have not waited and gone on to have successful pgs, others have not. My ob advised me to wait 2 cycles before I could TTC - it was the LONGEST 2 mths of my life!!!!!!!!!!!!! But I got a BFP the cycle back after waiting. I don't know if this has helped at all but want to wish you the happiness you deserve after suffering this loss
sorry that you've had to join us. I can't help with your question I didn't have a d&c with my m/c. As PLC says some drs want you to wait for one cycle others two, some say don't wait. I guess you have to do what feels right for you.
was on Sunday. I cried for hours, I was so sure this was the month. My DH gave me a tablet and put me to bed. He left me there and there I stayed til yesterday afternoon. I was still hoping that I might be and that all the hpt's were wrong.
's again ??? Why am I absouloutly devastated for her, I know it's normal to be upset but I am more than that. I haven't stopped crying since last night, not even when I took my boys to school. I don't know why I am acting like this, but I can't snap out of it.
I wish I had something exceptional to say to help you feel less pain and disappointment. Know that this
Thanks!
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