Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08 #2

**AJC** · May 15th, 2008, 08:58 PM

Krystielove - Welcome, I'm sorry that you are here but I'm sure you will find much comfort and support in this thread. Sorry I can't help with your hcg question but I just wanted to send you a warm welcome and a

. I hope you have your healthy pregnancy & bubba very soon.

**plc1805** · May 15th, 2008, 09:16 PM

hey krystielove - welcome hun also!! my heart aches for ur loss - I'm so sorry hun!! What you said about the hcg level i do think it does need to be 0 or very very close to it (not too sure but trying to remember someone else's post on the subject). I'm sure one of the girls here would be able to help you better. We understand that robbed, cheated feeling of not being able to meet and hold our little angels. Please use this forum to help you with your grief. I hope you learn lots in here as I have done. Take care sweet.

AJC - i don't want to get your hopes up or my hopes up on your behalf but doing some serious praying for you hun!!

issy - .....and i'll pray for ur BFP too right back!!

megsmum - keep strong hun over the next couple of weeks and GL sweet. Yeah all good here. Just keeping an even balance on things at the mo. i have 5 sleeps to go to the u/s but have 3 sleeps to my bday so i prefer to be focussed on that - it helps!

hello all you other lovely lovely ladies - hope ur looking forward to the weekend!!

**AJC** · May 15th, 2008, 09:30 PM

I keep forgetting to tell you all. I made a special garden for my second angel bub, I planted a flowering peach (pretty little white clusters of flowers) and then bulbs all around the base, Nerines (like a bright pink lily type thing). The Nerines have started to flower and they look soooo pretty. I must get out early tomorrow and take a picture of them. I was so happy when I saw my angel's garden blooming, it kind of made me at little more at peace with myself and my emotions.

plc - thanks for the

.

for you too myself, I'm sure you'll see a healthy little bubba on that ultrasound screen.

I know I said I was going to test if no af by Saturday but as Saturday draws closer I'm becoming more scared.

**~ Mylitta ~** · May 15th, 2008, 11:19 PM

Thank you both for the welcome

AJC - Your angel's garden sounds absolutely beautiful! I would love to plant a little garden too, but we're planning on moving house (hopefully before the years end). I toyed with the idea of a potted plant, but with my amazing ability to kill plants I wasn't sure how I would cope when it inevitably died. So instead I am going to name a star for my little one. I found a place that you can have it done that is not too expensive and they send you a little Russ teddy bear as well. I thought I could keep the bear and certificate with the positive pregnancy tests that I just can't bear to throw out.

plc - I hope all goes well for your upcoming scan. You must be so excited and nervous! I'm sure it will all go perfectly for you

Thanks for your thoughts on the hcg issue. I think I might be over-analysing every small twinge and cramp and crossing my fingers that it's because I'm ovulating. Even DH doesn't want to "miss the boat" and is asking me about my temperature, lol. I never thought he would get so excited about TTC as to quiz me about my temperature and mucus! Although, he still doesn't like to say the word "mucus" if he can avoid it

**mmteacher** · May 15th, 2008, 11:23 PM

Oh my goodness, this has been a very busy place...I'll catch up on a few-

Jen~As usual you got me to laugh out loud with you hard to be a hero comment-my Dh wanted to know what I was reading!!!

Krystielove and Acria~Welcome to the thread...Hope your stay is short and that you feel very supported-these girls are amazing! Sorry for the loss of your angels..

AJC~I think the garden is a neat idea...would love to see a pic! Hope your metallic taste is still there and is still a sign for you! Tell us when you test!

megsmum~Glad you had a nice trip and sorry you didn't come back with a BFP-at least it looks like things are looking up for you with a big O this weekend-get that party started girl!

Mollycat~GL with O'ing too...Have fun with it!

AFM~Gotta get ready for work...Only 7 more days of school!!!!

I am working part time this summer tutoring and am REALLY looking forward to the break-my first year not teaching summer school! Tomorrow is kind of a first milestone for me-Last time I was PG, it was the first day I began bleeding which led to my full m/c 3 days later...So by the end of next week at the 6 week mark, I will be done school and I will be past my dreaded m/c of last time-please keep me in your thoughts! We are still not telling anyone until we hear a HB and that appointment has been moved to June 23rd so I hope I can stay with you guys until then....I am a little scared to move!

Well, have a great day and

to everyone I didn't get to-I think of you all often!

MMTeacher

**jen805** · May 16th, 2008, 12:15 AM

megsmum--Good luck with your BT. If you O on Sat. that makes 4 of us O'ing on Sat: mollycat, Acria, and us! Good luck to us all! I know what we'll all be doing this weekend!

Have fun with it!!

KrystieLove--So very sorry to hear of the loss of your angel baby! Please don't feel out of place--you've come to the perfect place for comfort and support! I had the same questions about hcg levels, and I read that anything below 5 is not pg. I also read the same about not being able to even conceive until levels are down to at least 5. It took 5 blood tests, and 3 weeks for mine to get back to normal, which was really difficult for me because during that time my body still thought I was pg, so I still had signs and symptoms--it was very confusing. On the other hand, I've read of women who's levels were back to 0 on the day they m/c, so it varies from woman to woman. It's so hard to be patient during this time, when all you want is to be pregnant again--like you said, you're in limbo, just waiting for your body to get caught up with your mind. I wish you all the luck in the world, hun, and don't forget we're all here for you!

plc--It's almost your b-day!!! :woot: Can't wait for your u/s!!!

AJC--Good morning, oh patient one! Still thinking Sat. will be the day?

for you and sending lots of

your way!

mmteacher--Only 7 days of school left? Lucky... my kids get out June 5. But I only have to work for 2 more Monday's!

You're in my thoughts today as you get past this milestone from your last pg!

Can't wait until you have your u/s done in June! Please make sure you stick around, we love having you here and hearing your great news!

smilanatu--Read from the other thread about your BFN--

so sorry hun! Maybe it's still just a little too early. Don't give up yet!

**~ Mylitta ~** · May 16th, 2008, 12:30 AM

smilanatu & mmteacher - thank you for the welcome

jen - thank you so much for your message. It's odd feeling out of place, your your welcome along with everyone elses has made me feel much more comfortable! And thanks for the info on hcg levels. I'm still getting faint lines on pg tests, so I think I might see if I can get some bloods done just to find out what the hcg numbers are like at the moment. I think I would just feel a bit more at ease if I knew what my body was doing at the moment. My normal GP is usually pretty busy and books out a few days in advance, but my DH has a "doctor" (in quotes until I see a medical license, lol!) that you can just turn up at without an appointment and I think I'll pop in there tomorrow just to get the form to get a blood test done.

Stupid question time: Does DSD mean step-daughters?

**jen805** · May 16th, 2008, 12:44 AM

KrystieLove-- No such thing as a stupid questions here--yes DSD is for my step daughter! It's definitely an odd feeling to feel so out of place, and it feels like your world has stopped moving, while everyone else just goes on with their day to day stuff. Something I always felt was like there was a slideshow that was on continuous play mode that would just keep playing in my mind. It just wouldn't stop, and I would constantly be analyzing what I could've done differently, or what I might have done wrong. Then the rush of emotions you get when you don't know what's going on with your body, and you just want everything to be over with so that you can get pg. again asap! The constant fluctuation of feeling up and down, backwards and forwards, all around--it can be all-consuming! I would definitely recommend getting the BT's done, it really helps just knowing what your body is doing, and knowing that things are moving forward. Hope you find the answers you're looking for, hun! Take care and huge

**AJC** · May 16th, 2008, 07:37 AM

Morning ladies - temp still up this morn. Hmmmmm, I might buy a pack of first response today ready for tomorrow.

I'm trying not to get my hopes up, after all I am taking b6 this month to extend my LP.

Hugs and babydust to all

**Jodsan** · May 19th, 2008, 01:34 PM

Just popping in to say hi. Still waiting for AF (due Weds) so we can get back to TTC again. Cant wait, this month off has been almost as bad as the TWW.

Huge congratulations to Mel, Canary and AJC!!

SaraJane - so sorry for your loss, welcome

I hope your cycle returns to normal soon and that a strong sticky bean is just around the corner.

Tina - I know exactly how you feel. I just keep thinking that I would've been entering the 3rd trimester now. Even though I pretended to myself that I wasn't going to think about the EDD, each month I dont get a BFP I seem to think about it more and more. It really does seem to take a while after a mc but we did get pregnant, so that means we can get pregnant - so another BFP cant be too far away. Keep your chin up sweet

Katiegirl - Thinking of you and praying everything goes well tomorrow. Good luck :goodluck2:

Jen - Yes, irritability is a sure sign of O for me, due to the estrogen surge. Some months I get pains all over my abdomen, its to do with the blood that results from the ovum breaking out of the ovary, it sort of disperses throughout your abdomen (my dr drew me a nice picture of the whole event!) I would say you are pretty close to O.

Big hello to everyone else, I'll be around a bit more once AF comes and I'm back TTC again.

Issy - We must have posted at the same time. I know exactly what you mean about feeling like taking the first pregnancy for granted. It was all really easy for me too and i thought it was going to be this time too. A little naive hey! I'm sure we didn't take it for granted and enjoyed every minute of our first pgs but I think this time we will be extremely grateful for the gift of pg and will really saviour every minute (remind me of that when I eventually do get a BFP and start getting ms will you!?!). Glad to hear you are feeling more upbeat.

**smilanatu** · May 15th, 2008, 11:28 PM

KrystieLove...welcome!

AJC...I got my fingers crossed for you! Sounds very promising!

canary...test already! I am impatiient for you! I gotta agree with jen if you have tests at home and still haven't tested you are the queen!!!

To the rest of the ladies good morning and good day!!!

vibes fro all of us!!!