Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08 #4

[Vanaithi]

Hi ladies!

a quick one today... jen: i believe it's my cd9? its on my ff. its predicted that i will o next tuesday. so dh & i have bn bd every 2 days since monday just in case my cycles are weird & i o early. next time to dtd is tomorrow night. i had some light pains in my ovaries i think ovulation pains??? my af was very short this time. only 4 days in total i think. started wed last with some spotting. thurs it was heavy, fri it was heavy - medium & satday it was light to spotting & sunday it was finishing off with spotting i think. so that means my first af was only for 2 or 3 days???

anyways, thats all for now.

GOODLUCK & GOOD BDING TO ALL!:goodluck2:

[AJC]

Hiya everyone

and for everyone!

Well after my mucous yesterday I decided to call ob to tell them, the lady there was really good and squeezed me in this morn. I am so glad I did, firstly ob was so excited for us which was lovely. I really feel he genuinely cares about his patients so for the first time I actually felt excited and like 'this is really going to happen this time'. We went through my bt results from last week and spoke about the mucous. He said the only thing that bothers him about it is that it worries me. Phew - first big sigh of relief. Then he said we'd do a scan just to check how things are progressing, found a little yolk sac measuring to my dates exactly. All looked really healthy so.... so far so good - second big sigh of relief. He sent me for another beta hcg just to be thorough but he said he was really happy with how things are going. I feel soooooo relieved. I will sleep so much better tonight. Was talking to my belly last night so perhaps bubba is a good boy/girl and is listening to Mummy and knows how much we can't wait to have him/her. (I did also mention something about a trip to Disneyland when they're old enough so perhaps they've got the travel gene already & it's a good incentive to grow big and strong).

Still not leaving ya'll yet..... still a long way to go. Thanks heaps everyone for all your support.

Seems to be alot of bd going on lately - good luck everyone. :goodluck2:

Mel - I honestly wouldn't be worried about going to NZ (however I can relate to this anxiety in early pg so I guess it's easy for me to say). But.... Firstly it's a short flight so not too many hours in the air. Secondly, the hygiene standards over there are just as good as ours. I love NZ it's one of my fav places. Where abouts exactly are you going to?

sorry this post is mostly all about me - will bbl for more personals.

[issy02]

Heeelllllooooo ladies,

Well I have finally finished the bulk of my work, so now I have time to sit down, read all your posts and write some persies...

So....

AJC - Im so glad you are feeling so much better about everything now, and im over the moon for you that everything is as it should be, and that little bubba is settling in there, nice and sticky and strong.

Vanaithi - GL with the big O, and on catching that little eggie!!! Good idea to bd every couple of days, just in case!...you just never quite know when little miss eggie will pop!

Mollycat - I also experience pains on my left side when I ov and sometimes I do ov very late into my cycle, cd19-22, so I hope this is true for you too...come on little eggie, there are some lovely fellas waiting to meet you !!!!

SaraJane - GL with the big move, I know most people hate packing and moving, but I actually really enjoy it! It gives me a chance to do a good clean up of everything, its amazing how much crap you can accumulate over the years

Pbstar - how are you hun? Did you O yet? Im so hard that this is our month (and everyone else's), would be lovely to post the announcement of our BFPs rather than AF!!! stay away witch.

Abbey B - Oh hun, I know its such a tense time around O. Although I have never had problems getting DH to co-operate (IYKWIM) I do sometimes have to push myself, I just don't have his drive! (with bd'ing, not ttc) As others have said, 'the boys' can live for a few days in there, so any time either side of O is good..maybe the night off will just make the little swimmers stronger

Jenushka - GL with catching the egg, I always get so excited when I see EWCM. It reminds me that, yes I ovulate, yes I am fertile, yes I am in with a chance..and then I bd like mad! Hope DH wasnt too tired

Bettyboop - GL with the OPKs, they never really did work for me, there were times I had a darker second line than other times, but it was never as dark as the control line, EVER, so im guessing that means that either I wasnt o'ing, or they just dont work on me????? Still, when I fell pg in jan, I was using them everyday, (I know, totally obsessed at that time with POAS, changed my ways since then) and they all came back -ve, but I fell pg that month..weird. But other women swear by them. I wish they did work on me, I would love to know for sure when I am going to O.

KrystieLove - I hope youre feeling better and i pray that you caught that eggie. LOL about testing early, I know what you mean. I used to be a serial tester, but I havent done that since the m/c in jan. I just cant do it anymore, so even if I miss AF, I wont test until at least a week or two past AF due date. Its very hard, but I would rather wait than find out too early only to m/c a week or 2 later...too stressful for me.

Jodsan - I asked my mum what time I was born, and turns out it was an hour earlier than I thought, so I typed the new time in again and it came up with sat24th, which was one day later than the first one and we did bd on this night...quite enthusiastically if I might add! (oh Jen, look what youve done to me..youre makin me cheeky girl!) Anyway, just food for thought and a bit of fun I guess. Oh and GL with approaching O!

Jen - LOL about the pole dancing, I can just imagine it, gearing up for a sexy night with some hot lingerie, a bit of dirty dancing on the pole followed by a plaster cast in hospital!....so something I would do LOL
By the way, are you going to test? Or wait? How are things going? Any signs? Sorry 100 questions?.so nosy! Impressive list too, good on you.


Megsmus - thanks for the GL, can never have too much I say!!! Right back at ya :goodluck2:
I hope you are feeling better today, you seemed a little down the other day. I was on clomid last year and for one cycle this year, but I didn't have bad side effects. The worst was the hot flushes that woke me up in the middle of the night, and a little grumpiness, but that was all. DH and I have been trying for 3 years now, and I truly think its time I faced the fact that I need to take it a step further ie.IUI and the IVF. The only reason I have not started any further AC as yet is because I have fallen pg twice in the 3 years that I have been trying and in reality, up until my surgery in oct last year, I wouldn't have been able to carry (and hard to conceive) a baby due to complications with my uterus and tubes, so its really only from Oct that we have been ttc knowing that we are in for a real chance. I did fall pg 1 month after surgery and it took until feb to get af back on track after m/c, so now its down to 4 months of ttc (with a proper chance) and no success. I don't know what to do next??? DH keeps telling me, 'really if you add in all those factors, we have only had not success for 4 months, because the time before that, it would have been close to impossible. I know this is true, but 3 years is still 3 years, chance of success or otherwise! We'll see how we go.

MelA - Don't stress about the trip hun, you will be fine. And im so glad that everything is going well with you. Have fun in NZ (not sure if its for business or pleasure) relax and take care of yourself.

Ok, (that was huge) I have only responded to posts in this thread, I thought I would just take it from here, rather than go back to the old one. But I hope you are all doing well (A big hello and hugs to all that I have not mentioned here) and looking after yourselves..im thinking of you!

Issy

[pbstar]

hey girls

wow issy that was a monster post- your forgot to update on how you are though- hope all is well with you hun.

i'm feeling a bit down. since jan i have ov on cd19 every cycle. this time i bd'd heaps since last week in the lead up and had signs like egg white/watery cm and ov pains but i started temping again and i haven't seen a temp rise yet to where it normally rises to. the highest it has gone is 36.6 today whereas normally after o its about 36.9 or 37. so now i'm on cd21 and still not sure if i have ov or not. just feeling flat, and worn out and DH is worn out and we are both over all the BD and the whole thing really. i did the lunar cycle thing and it says my fertile day is 5th june but i just can't see how that is possible. i did an opk this arvo and negative. i think i might need to take a break from all of this and stop trying to interpret what my body is doing. might take a break until i go to the acupuncturist on 23rd june.

sorry for the selfish post, just needed to vent

[Jodsan]

Hi girls, must try to be quick as DS is all over me.

Firstly - AJC - Yey!!! You must be soooo relieved. It was really worth getting into that appointment early, now you can relax instead of waiting til next week. I am so happy for you!

Issy - You sound much brighter today. Dont lose sight of conceiving naturally if it is only 4 months that you have been in with a "proper" chance. I am sure it's going to happen in the next couple of months (hopefully this one!).

Vanaithi - Maybe you should check to see if your cervix is open if you are having O pains. Sometimes I get pains about 4 days out from O so I just check my cervix everyday to make sure I dont O early. Mine usually opens about 12-24 hours b4 O, so I figure this is my most fertile time.

Mollycat - Ditto on what I said to Vanaithi above - I suggest checking your cervix if you are having O pains. I suspect it only opens when you are about O, that way you will know for sure.

SaraJane - Yey for finding somewhere to live!! Good luck with your TWW!

Mel, I agree with AJC - I'm sure the short plane trip to NZ will be fine (though I do understand your nervousness after a loss o/s). Hope it all goes well for you.

Megsmum - Thanks for your answer. I was kinda thinking along the same lines. I'm a bit anxious about getting the progesterone test cos I'm not sure I'll want to use the supplement anyway since my cycles are so regular. I might just stick with the trying to clear the excess estrogen for now and hopefully they'll rebalance naturally over the next month or two. Sorry to hear it looks like you might be moving onto assisted conception. Dont give up on this cycle yet though, sometimes no symptoms are a good sign. Have you tried a naturopath or acupuncture? I am such a big believer in trying to rebalance our bodies with natural herbs and diet and exercise. Maybe worth a thought if you really dont want to have to go on clomid again (I have heard so many horror stories about Clomid so I really feel for).

KristieLove - Yey for O!!! Good luck with your TWW!

Pbstar - We must have posted the same time. There is only a chance you can O at lunar time, do lots of BDing on 5th of June and see how you go. My lunar day is 5th June too!! I dont do teps, I just go on CM, cervix position and pains. It sounds to me like you O'd. Has it been colder in your bedroom that previous months?

[jenushka]

Just a quick selfish post ladies.... I did another opk tonight and it was very positive - for the first time in my life my test line was darker than the control line. Whenever I've seen that written in the instructions I always thought the opk manufacturers where making things up!!

Looks like my body may finally be trying to get back to normal after the m/c....

Here is a great big and of course loads of to all

back to bed for me and dh - no rest for the wicked!!

[jen805]

KrystieLove--Woo hoo for O!! It sure makes for an easy cycle when things happen the way it's supposed to! you caught that egg!


megsmum--You're far from out of this race at only 8dpo! Chin up, hun, it's going to happen!


Mel--Yay, I'm glad you're still stalking us! We'd hate to lose you so soon! Have a safe trip to NZ--is this for business or pleasure?


SaraJane--Congrats on finding a new house! You've got a lot of work ahead of you, but always nice to do some spring cleaning when moving--you get to get rid of all the crap that's accumulated over the years! Good luck next week with the move! If anything, this should make your TWW fly by keeping you distracted!


mollycat--See we really ARE cycle buddies! Looks like we both had really late O for this cycle. Due to increased watery CM my fertile days were changed to the last 3 days, so I'm assuming I'm something like 1dpo. (?) Cervix is still very high, but seems like maybe it's closed, well it's definitely not as open as it was 2 days ago! It's still a little hard for me to tell, as this was the first time I ever noticed anything different about my cervix at all. How funny it would look to some outsider to see a woman checking out her cervix! Would probably turn my DF on! Did you ever try any movies of those movies with your DH? You said he would be shocked--shocked can be a good thing! Sounds like the extension's coming along great!


Hi Vanaithi! Glad AF was so easy on you this time around! So what's going on with your cervix? Now that I can tell a difference, and I know I actually have a cervix (lol), I'm sure I'll be checking more often!


AJC--Oh, I'm so happy for you that you got to get your scan done early! What a relief for you! Now you can have some peace of mind that all is well! I'm sure the bribery trip to Disneyland was all the incentive needed for your sticky little bub!


issy-- about the pole dancing! My mom always called me "Grace" when I was younger due to my lack of it! Not really too sure when I'll test now since I O so late this cycle. Am supposed to test on Sunday, but looks like my TWW just got extended, so I'm sure Sunday would be way too early. Just going to wait it out, what else can I do? You were great on all the personals, but didn't fill us in on how things are with you! Hope all's well!


pbstar-- Sorry you're so down. I know how hard it is not knowing if you've O, and not knowing what's going on in your cycle--it's been the same for me this cycle. Can't our bodies go easy on us for a change? you feel better about things soon. We'll miss you if you take a break from us, but we'll all understand if that's what you need to do!


Jodsan--What's up doc? Thanks again for all the lunar info--for all the info and advice that you always have to offer us!


jenushka-- :woot: on the +opk!! Sounds like you're enjoying your BD fest! Go catch that egg, wicked girl! At least you came up for air!


plc--How's it going baby mama? Haven't heard from you in a while, hope things are well with you and your little one!


mmteacher--Hi my preggie friend! Hope things are going well with you, as well!


smilanatu--Hey girl! Hope you're not too swamped with work!