Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08

[Vanaithi]

Hi all... sorry im selfish today but gotta unload ... AF is just around the corner... im sure of it cos i dont think there's any chance of me being pg... i have no funny belly feelings any more & just read on the conception forums that during ovulation your cervix is high & soft & if conception has occured, then the cervix remains like high & soft... but mine is low & hard...

i had sore bbs & cramps that could have meant ovulation last monday & tuesday but dh didnt want to dtd because he was tired... more like couldnt be bothered! we dtd on wednesday but it was too late...

now im emotional & sad & a bit angry at dh... i want a baby badly! im so impatient...

[jen805]

Vanaithi-- It could just be too early to be feeling or seeing any signs yet, especially if you only O last week. If you did O last week, it would still be another week or so before you would feel anything (if you felt anything at all, since many women don't feel any signs in the beginning). Cheer up hun, you can't rush perfection! Rome wasn't built in a day.... You know all the old cliche's. I know it's really hard waiting it out, we all get frustrated and antsy--but have faith that your time will come! BTW, feel free to vent anytime--we've all been there!


AJC--Looks like you're getting your long-awaited longer LP! About that funny taste in your mouth, you didn't forget to brush your teeth or something, did you? j/k... You're signs sound pretty interesting so far... I'm keeping my eye on you, and praying this is going to be your month!

[AJC]

jen - so that's what it is - he he he. Better clean em before we bd again or DH might run a mile

Vanaithi - af must be on her way to me too because mine is low & hard. However, I felt my cp when I was pg last time and it was low & hard then too. I think it can vary according to the time of day. I'm sorry you are feeling so down today.

[nicjay]

Hi ladies,

Just popping in to let you know that we are back from Singapore and we had a lovely time The weather was wonderful and warm and it has been horrible to come back to the cold

Unfortunately though, it was a BFN for me this last cycle with a short LP again. So we are cycle tracking again this month (its day 10 today) and will hopefully be adding some LP support - Pregnyl or progesterone pessaries. So at least this last cycle has been good because it has identified a problem that can be treated.

Sorry for the lack of personals, but there is way to many to catch up with now, will try again soon. Hope everyone is well

[plc1805]

Hey megsmum!! So happy u had a great time away but equally sorry about ur BFN -

vanaithi - don't worry honey - mine is low & hard too!!! I think AJC is right - that it depends on time of day! hun - i do understand how hard it is to want a baby so bad that you might as well bash ur head up against a wall with frustration!! Keep strong sweet!

Welcome Acria & Lea - this is such a lovely group to be a part of for all the love and support you get.

AJC - *with commercial voice* "did you know that the malt in Milo is very good for your spleen? The spleen plays an important role in early conception. A cup of milo a day is a good thing". (Did you like that? that's according to my acupuncturist - but, as with evrything, use in moderation).

jen & canary - i hear ur accents too when i read ur posts (at least what i think ur accent is depending on the area ur from).

Big hi to everyone and hoping ur having a great time in Hong Kong and that the room is rocking not cos of the earthquake

[AJC]

plc - love it! I do usually have a cup in the morn with my brekkie (cold) but I do occassionally have a warm mug at night. Interesting, maybe having a taste for milo is my body's way of telling me something.

megsmum - Glad you had a nice time in Singapore. Sorry about the BFN. I starting taking B6 this cycle for my LP. Had 10 day LP last month and I'm on 11dpo this month and temp still high, still no sign of af. Don't have any preggie feelings but I am just happy that I have a longer LP this cycle. Good luck and as you say, at least if you identify a problem you can treat it.

[mollycat]

Jen - I can look after up to 7 kids under the age of 12 kids each day with a limit of 5 under school age, at the moment I have my own son (11), three school kids (one after and two before - 8, 8 & 6) and up to 5 littlies a day, depends on the day, the youngest is 8m and the eldest is 4, I seem to have a lot of 2yo and have 11 kids on my books. My "work day" starts at 7.30am and finishes at 6pm except for Thursday when I finish at 8.30pm. Long hours, but it pays the bills. I've been doing day care since 1995 although I did have a couple of years off when I had my second son, (i had trouble ttc him and started spotting at 8w, panicked and quit on the spot, but at least I kept him). I have a couple of new families due to start in the next few weeks, hopefully most of the reno will be done by then. I have an eight seater car and we go visit other carers or parks,or play centres to escape, then I bring them home and they go to sleep along with all the noise, which is wonderful, actually I have two 2yos and the 8mo asleep now.

My temp is still being weird, I usually have temps of 36.0 to 36.4 before O (sorry don't know conversion) but they have been running at 36.7, 36.8, should be o'ing in the next few days, but don't know what will happen to them then. Really got me confused.

AJC - maybe i should swap to milo, i seem to be drinking a lot of tea at the moment, can't be too good for me. I've always enjoyed a hot milo and occasionally will have one before bedtime, lovely on cool nights.

Vanaithi - sometimes our partners just don't want to play the game, I feel that at times it must be a drain on them too, having to perform on demand, or at the right time, sometimes you just need to focus on your relationship (and if you're sneaky you can do it at O). TTC and BFN's takes a lot out of both partners in a relationship. I know my DH used to feel he was only good for one thing, we've learned that there is more to life then that and I know that he wants another baby just as much as I do

PLC - just wanted to send you some not that you need them cause you'll be complaining soon about not fitting into any of your clothes.

I have to get back to work now, the boys will be awake soon, then I have to go out to my shed and size up the kitchen we have in storage and work out just where the builders have to put in the new kitchen window. There putting my weatherboards on the walls at the moment. Noisy but exciting.

[Vanaithi]

Hi ladies!

Thanks for all your support & kind words I feel much better for now...

jen805: I love what you wrote about not being able to rush perfection! Gave me a different perspective on this making babies business

AJC & PLC1805: I will have to google the cervical position now because of the varying opinions.. i checked mine at 2pm today and i couldnt find it anywhere! & it was soft & squishy in there... hehehe... wonder where it goes to? I always thought the cp would be high & soft to let the spermies get in when youre fertile & then when you're not fertile it goes hard...

Does anyone know why the cervix moves at certain times of the day???

PLC1805 & Mollycat: I would rather bash my dh's head in! haha But no worries, i told him off this morning, so that next time when i say we gotta do it then he does what he's meant to do! :P~ (My dh isnt required to dtd very often at all! So its just buggered the living daylights outta me that this could have made us miss the eggie! argh!)

HUGS & KISSES & GOOD LUCK TO ALL!