Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ November 2006

[The Chicken]

AF arrived this morning with a vengeance...damn those nappies!!! Feeling like crap and have had a few teary moments. I thought I would be coping a bit better this month. One of my close friends rang me on Sunday to share her BFP. I am so so happy for her, but at the same time it has made me really sad. We were hoping to be belly buddies together and it really reminds me of the struggle that we go through month after month. I feel like a really bad friend. Am I being selfish or does anyone else get like this? Some advice would be great.

[Hope]

Lou-- I'm sorry you're feeling down! The hormones alone are enough to cope with without adding all the stress, disappointment, etc of TTC. You are certainly not unusual in your feelings with regard to your friend. I only just saw a good friend of mine for the first time since my m/c on the weekend past. She was two weeks behind what I was and although I am thrilled for her thinking about it and seeing her merely serves as a reminder of what is NOT happening to me, how I DON'T look, etc. You are not a bad/selfish friend-- you're just HUMAN!! Hope you are feeling better soon. You'll be suffering through the dreaded TWW again before you know it-- hopefully with a different outcome!