Sorry Jen...didn't mean to leave you hanging!

The epihany was this...I thought Lee was my life partner...he was really my life lesson...that will be simpler for the people who know best to understand. My family has told me for several years now I am not the person I used to be and they miss her. With Lee I was almost always trying to be what he wanted and was never my genuine self so the person he now despises was never me to begin with...it was who he created. The lesson is...don't change who you are for anyone...ever because in doing that...you'll lose you AND you'll lose who they were initially drawn to...no one wants a molded individual (even if they tell you they do). I have learned some good things and some bad things about myself in this relationship. I'm sad that it's over and I am positive I haven't cried my last tear about it...but I am at peace with it today.